My daughter has serious anger issues. We have had her to a social worker, a psychologist and a psychatrist with no help. The pyschatrist kept putting her on different medicaitons for depression. After going through 5 different medications, she decided it was probably bipolar problems and prescribed something for that. We decided that since she has had no testing for that, we would not put her on the medication. Im at my witz end and dont know what to do. I just received a letter from one of her friends fathers of things that I was not aware of: C and K were fighting and arguing quite often. C was hitting and threatening K. I saw and heard it. I always told them BOTH that physical hurting was not OK. If they feel that way, they need to walk away and cool off.
C left marks on K twice in a couple days.
K still has marks on her arm where C scratched her.. C was pretty violent. It shocked me. I saw it happen.
I left thier names out.
Someone please help me!!!
2006-11-29 03:23:42 · 9 answers · asked by wanting to know 2 in Health ➔ Mental Health
If you haven't yet, read The Explosive Child.
If your daughter is in fact bipolar, the greatest gift you can give her is early intervention. Doctors tend to be hesitant about giving children that diagnosis, so when they do, there tends to be a good reason for it.
You might want to check out the books The Bipolar Child and If Your Child Is Bipolar.
I feel for you, this is a tough road to travel. I myself am bipolar and it began in childhood. I think my life could have turned out significantly different if I had been effectively treated back then. Now we are trying to pinpoint what is going on with my 11 year old son, the diagnosis is still in the air. He's been in various forms of treatment since started he was 5. His problems clearly are quite outside the range of "normal", even for a difficult child. We are now trying different meds, but I have a lot of conflicting feelings about it.
I read up on childhood bipolar and it leaves me in tears because it explains why my life was such hell from as far back as I can remember. And what a relief that it turns out there is a name for it and it wasn't that I was this horrible, impossible child. A lot of my behavior wasn't something I had control of.
I wish you luck at finding the answers and helping your daughter the best way you can. Just know, although it often feels like it, you are not alone in what you are going through.
2006-11-29 17:48:21 · answer #1 · answered by Jess 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Instead of yelling, try dropping your voice. It will probably take everything you have, because you'll be angry/upset/etc., but it will catch her attention. Kids at that age (and ongoing from there) tend to escalate really quickly, and they will fight just for the sake of fighting, because they want to be right and assert themselves as being independent from you. So if you stay calm, she has less to build on. When she raises her voice, just let her know that you're not up for it (again, in a quiet voice), and walk away. Wait until she cools off before pursuing it, and don't pursue it if it's just a small thing. Choose your battles--just major things rather than daily hassles. She may well believe that she hates you, but if you consistently love her and show her that she will eventually get over that phase and once again be able to show you that she does love you. It's possible to love someone and hate them at the same time (I'm a parent--I feel like that all the time about my 2 year old!). Stick to your guns on the really important issues (e.g., her safety, your core values), and try to let some things go. If it makes her feel like she's being independent because she gets to do something you may dislike (e.g., dying her hair; piercing something relatively innocent), it may ward off a bigger battle over something more serious and potentially very dangerous (e.g., going out with a really awful friend and drinking). Hope this helps.
2016-05-23 01:58:03 · answer #2 · answered by Trudy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel for you! Do you watch Super Nanny? Shows like that sound hokey to some people but we have gotten some very helpful information from that show. You are absolutely right not to put her on medication for something she wasn't tested for. Without knowing all the information of what is going on and not being trained specifically in this field, I have to tell you not to give up on searching for the answers. Try every possible avenue you can think of. Call children's hospitals across the nation untill you can come up with some ideas. Sometimes medications aren't the best route. Sometimes they make things worse and can change things in the child's brain that aren't favorable. Good Luck. Don't Give Up! You are your child's best advocate.
2006-11-29 03:32:07 · answer #3 · answered by Yomi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, I'm really sorry. This sounds like a tough situation to be in. Don't think I'm being unrealistic but this actually has worked for my mom. She had problems with my younger brother and they went through the same thing with all the Zoloft, Celexa, and then the mountains of medicine for bipolar. Finally she felt like she had enough and email Dr. Phils team! I admit I thought she was just breaking down but they answered her and sent her so much info on places near them where he could get good therapists etc. You could try them because they know what they're talking about. Just a suggestion, a little different but it's worked for my mom . Good luck and best wishes.
2006-11-29 04:09:29 · answer #4 · answered by Jenna R 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would suggest a new psychiatrist...sometimes it's not just the medicine that needs switching up but also the doctor. She needs to find a good fit. I also would suggest family counseling. Maybe one-on-one counseling isn't doing it for her. She may need family involvement for you to really find out what is wrong. It may be chemical (like bi-polar) or perhaps there is an issue that happened to your daughter that you are unaware that traumatized her. More sessions are likely needed either way. Good luck.
2006-11-29 03:28:16 · answer #5 · answered by glitterkittyy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should give her the medication that the doctor prescribed OR if you don't agree, get her to another doctor.
You don't have the training to decide to NOT give her the medications that might really help her---what? You don't want to believe that she's bipolar? Sounds to me like she is---and possibly schizophrenic. You've got to get her help and stop messing with her meds.
2006-11-29 03:28:47 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
5 different meds???
She's only 8.
Doesn't that stink?
Don't you see that this doctor is without a f*ing clue?
She needs some time to level out before you "do" anything else to "help" her. She's 8 for crying out loud....how confused would you be with all these trips to the docotor and a dizzying array of pharmaceutical adjustments? Jeez....poor kid.
Let her be a kid.
Give her some space.
Medication is not always right for a kid who has trouble with life...sometimes it's their life that needs changing.
What kind of stress is she under?
Back off.
Give her room.
Talk to her.
GET SECOND OPINIONS before you put her on any more drugs.
2006-11-29 03:37:39 · answer #7 · answered by mmd 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yea, kids are a handful. I know you want to help your daughter, but there is something she is not telling you about,such as sexual assult. You need to take care of yourself, be a good role model, and let her express herself when she is ready. I know my daughter is lying to me when she won't talk about my ex#2. I have tried to help her, but she doesn't want the help
2006-11-29 03:54:50 · answer #8 · answered by Robin S 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
get your daughter a supplement called glyco-bears. It's safe and has no side effects other than putting her hormones in balance.
2006-11-29 03:27:49 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋