2006-11-29 03:15:45 · 32 answers · asked by rubybpc 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Grade-Schooler
Because lying is wrong. What would you do if he lied to you? You're trying to teach him to tell the truth I assume (if you're a good parent) so why can you turn around and just lie to him? It is also bad for your relationship with him when he finds out you've been lying to him all this time.
2006-11-29 07:56:16 · answer #1 · answered by AerynneC 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, why do you want to? If he believes let him keep on believing. This is a time in life where you build magical memories for him. Yes, eventually he will know the truth, but he will then realize all you did to make this happen. My son is 10, he has asked me about Santa for about 2 years, he asks if I'm the one putting presents under the tree. I always say no. I know he now knows it IS me, but he still pretends. And he loves it. And I love doing it for him. I have a 7 year old and a baby due next week. My 7yr old has not even asked.
I think you should not tell him and let him enjoy this time in his childhood and hey they will look at you amazingly once they know how much you cared for them to make this happen.
Believe me, he will not be traumatized when he finds out on his own. He will not be mad at you either. I know when I found out at the age of 8 or 9 I was even happier to know it was my parents going all out for me at Christmas. It made me feel really special. Especially when the rest of the year that you ask for something they just say there's no money or no. He'll be fine. Dont end this so soon.
I hope this helps!!! Good luck, the final decision is all yours!
2006-11-29 05:15:04 · answer #2 · answered by prettyrockangel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't NEED to tell your 5 year old the truth about Santa Claus. SC is a positive fantasy that children truly enjoy. He will find out soon enough and then you just explain the difference between allowing a child to have a positive childhood fantasy and telling a lie; there is a difference.
2006-11-29 03:23:13 · answer #3 · answered by Hank Hill 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Believing in Santa is one of the fun things about being 5. I think that you should let it go for another year or so. He may already know and just be playing along. If not, he will probably start asking questions over the next year...
How does Santa get in, if we don't have a chimney...
and all of those questions.
Have you told him about Jesus yet? I know that he is young but it is never too soon to start... (Of course, you would start with something simple and not jump into anything out of the range of comprehension of a 5 year old).
Good luck & Happy Holidays !! :)
2006-11-29 06:57:56 · answer #4 · answered by markalan1973 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should. I tell my kids the truth about everything. If you love someone you will tell them the truth and help them process it. Its best that they see it as it is. There is alot of beauty in the holiday season and it is better shared as the truth than a lie that has to be perpetuated with other lies. Why can't he be a sign of the season. Like an accessory because of the good that the real Kris Cringle did not duping them into believing the guy is around the corner. I was a smart kid. I figured it out fast and kind of resented my parents for lying but my kids might resent me for spoiling the wonder of thier childhood but they can never say that I lied to them.
2006-11-29 09:28:27 · answer #5 · answered by Magnus01 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you should! Let him have that innocence as long as you can. Once the "Santa Years" are gone, you'll miss them, I think. My son is eight and he still believes. I'm kind of surprised that he does, I never believed in Santa. Don't tell, when the time is right you'll know. Don't make him "grow up" He's five for God's sake!!
2006-11-29 06:52:59 · answer #6 · answered by musicpanther67 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't have lied to him in the first place. Why should he believe anything else you tell him?
While there was a real Saint Nicholas who did a lot to help people and suffered for his faith, the myth of Santa is a marketing tool used to turn our kids into spoiled parasites who are always expecting to receive instead of wanting to give.
I give my child gifts because I love him and appreciate him and I want him to know that. Why would I make up some story about some guy that doesn't even exist?
If my son is going to work hard to be good person, it should be because he wants to be a decent human being, not because he's hoping to get some big jackpot at the end of the year.
Besides, does your son know why we really celebrate Christmas? And more importantly, does he believe it?
2006-11-29 03:43:33 · answer #7 · answered by CassandraLee 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Don't tell him my son is 8 and he stopped believing last year. He found out from the older kids in the playground. I was so upset it takes all the magic away. But hey hes got 2 grow up sometime.
2006-11-29 09:44:01 · answer #8 · answered by chickstral 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it depends on your son - is he having big issues accepting Santa? If he's that serious, then dragging out the fantasy may appear to him as lying, and cause trust issues. If, however, he's just exploring the fantasy for details, then this is your chance to "get creative" - for instance, explaining how he fits in small chimneys because of his searsucker suit that sucks him into the house.
2006-11-29 03:28:51 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't. If he asks if Santa is real, you could do what I did when my children asked. I asked them "do you believe he is real?" And when they said yes, then I said he is.
I see no reason to tell a child that Santa isn't real. I love seeing the excitement in a child's eyes at Christmas, why would you want to take that away?
2006-11-29 03:27:00 · answer #10 · answered by nana4dakids 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋