She started doing this about 2 months ago and sometimes wets her pants 4 times a day. Sometimes I could tell she has to go but she always says she doesn't. So I end up forcing her to the bathroom , which I don't like doing, and she does go potty. Why is she telling me she doesn't have to go?
2006-11-29 03:06:34 · 8 answers · asked by needabreak 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
My thought is that she is not telling you she has to go because it is something that she has control over. You are giving it more power by trying to force her. I would start off by checking with her doctor to rule out a bladder infection. Children often regress with new changes in their lives. Are there any new changes in her life (move, new school, family issues, stress)? If so, give her lots of extra love and support.
Don't let her know that you have and issue with this. If you insist, she will resist because she is in control. If you see that she has to go to the bathroom say “It looks like you need to use that bathroom” then walk away. When she has an "accident," don't give it much attention. Make sure she is in clothing that she can get on and off without help. Say "It looks like you need to change." She can remove her wet clothing, rinse them out, put them in a bag in the laundry, clean any wet area, and put on dry clothing. Don’t help her. It won't take her long to learn it is much easier to use the bathroom
Children will resort to having accidents in order to feel powerful. Help her to feel powerful in positive ways by saying thing like "You did that by yourself!" “You jumped super high” "You can run super fast!" "Look how high you can jump!" "You used so many colors on your painting." These phrases are great confidence boosters, are great ways for you to show love and attention, and great ways for her to feel powerful in a positive way. Hope this helps! Good luck!
2006-11-29 06:36:29 · answer #1 · answered by marnonyahoo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Control. And unwillingness to stop an activity.
At this age she is old enough to understand the simple word "don't do it anymore." First, make sure she doesn't have an infection.
Then I would sit her down at a calm time when she has NOT wet her pants - and say that you know she is old enough to know when she has to go to the bathroom and that you do not appreciate her behavior. Tell her straight up - that if and when she does it again, she will be spending time in time out and that you will put her in BABY DIAPERS until she can keep her pants dry. That means that she will not be able to go shopping, to playtime, to church school or wherever it is she likes to go because they don't accept babies in diapers. Tell her again that you know that she is a big girl and old enough not to wet her pants and that the behavior is absolutely unacceptable.
At the same time, tell her never to be afraid to stop what she is doing and go to the bathroom - that you or her friends will wait for her to return and she is guaranteed not to miss a thing.
Get her agreement that she heard you. And follow through if she does it.
2006-11-29 03:21:08 · answer #2 · answered by kramerdnewf 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
She doesn't tell you b/c she feels she has better things to do than take the time to go potty. Make her go once an hour - and if she has an accident, don't immediately change her. Give her 5 mins or so to feel what it's like. She'll hate it and learn it's better to take the time to go on the big potty.
2006-11-29 03:55:15 · answer #3 · answered by mms1575 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My daughter hates to have to stop playing to go use the toilet, so she has accidents every now and then. Maybe set an alarm for every hour or two and explain to her that when it goes off BOTH of you are going to go pee. Maybe if you force her to go more often and she sees you going with her she'll stop wetting.
2006-11-29 03:10:20 · answer #4 · answered by deannapats 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
in case you truly believe it really is laziness then make her placed on a diaper. no longer pull united statesbut diapers. chilly bath/bathe seems somewhat rash to me, yet a touch embarrassment can bypass an really lengthy way. yet you would pick to call your pedi and ask if the unexpected onset of it will be something larger then laziness.
2016-11-29 22:28:59 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe she cant "feel" it till it is to late.. talk to her dr. had a prob with my daughter when she was 3. found out she had uti's. that was causing her not to feel when she had to go.. take her to the dr.
2006-11-29 03:10:36 · answer #6 · answered by alwaysthinking 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
purchase her a pot tie and pull ups reward her every-time she uses the pot tie and tell her she is a big girl, the pot tie Elmo toy is good to if she see Elmo use the pot tie she will to.
2006-11-29 03:17:43 · answer #7 · answered by towanda g 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
mom maybe the bathroom is a place of fear check her for abuse please its scary but to often its true my heart goes out to you
2006-11-29 03:14:24 · answer #8 · answered by clarence w 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋