In a question before i asked about cheating and snooping.Well really heres what i've got to say.I've been with my childrens mom for 13 years.It hasn't been all great but the good out weigh the bad.I've been with a few other women in that time but only had sex with 2.Now at the same time i had sex she too was haveing sex with someone else. Is that a coincedence or just a cover up.Because i don't usually find out about her stuff till later in the relationship.What can i do.
2006-11-29 02:46:04 · 10 answers · asked by owen s 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
What you REAP is what you SOW. It seems to me that neither of you Took your vows or commitment to one another Seriously.
Basically if you are cheating on her, or DID cheat on her, and She did the same to you, what right do you have snooping around, when you YOURSELF did the same thing?
Wow, Its sad to see that these kids have to deal with Unfaithful parents, What are you teaching them ? That its okay to flirt and cheat with other people ?
Think about it man. Would you want your kids doing the same thing and go through the same thing you are right now?
2006-11-29 02:49:17 · answer #1 · answered by Encouragement 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You two need to get together and decide what is best for the children. Sounds like neither of you are getting anything out of the marriage. Just a marriage of convenience!! You may find she feels the same way and the two of you can have an amicable divorce. The children deserve to see a loving relationship!
2006-11-29 02:54:47 · answer #2 · answered by stacey h 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Both of you need to come out of your sexual/cheating closets and lay your cards on the table. Look into a swingers club. You are both doing it - this way you can do it "legitimately" if you can use that phrase here, and it may settle the bad times in your relationship. if it all blows up in your face it sounds like you were heading that way to begin with. Good luck.
2006-11-29 02:50:25 · answer #3 · answered by bocasbeachbum 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like you both need to separate because you guys are wanting other people... there is no way she is gonna be honest with you if she waits until later on to tell you and what kinda example are you placing on your children if they find out that it is OK to cheat and lie come on.... and if you both keep this up you could end up with an STD or something... just divorce get visitation or custody and pay child support is ordered and live your life happily without all the secrets and lies...
2006-11-29 02:50:24 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it isn't a coincidence, she probably knew when you did your dirt most women do, they have a way of sensing when something is wrong with the relationship and when stuff happens to take advantage of it's problems, they pretty much know when you're going to go outside of it for solace. the real question is whether or not you're willing to stay faithful to her in the future because quite honestly, you can't control whether she is to you or not. you didn't find out about it til later because you were too consumed with your own stuff that you were doing, and had you been more intuitive you probably could have seen that coming. rather than obsess over whether or not your behavior caused it though, you have to ask yourself whether or not you can forgive her for it, and whether or not you're willing to continue to be in the relationship with her because you have your own issues with staying true to her that have to be dealt with. so is it worth staying around or not?
2006-11-29 02:53:51 · answer #5 · answered by collard greens with hash browns 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
About what. You have an "open relationship" in your marriage so bring on the whole neighborhood.
When you grow up then stop this all together, ask each other to forgiven each other and move on. Or get a divorce.
2006-11-29 02:50:54 · answer #6 · answered by Kenshin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't like her cheating on you, so ask her if she likes you cheating on her. Maybe she'll say, "no." Maybe then you can both agree to stop cheating on each other. If either of you does not want to stop cheating, then you'll have to live with it, or move on.
2006-11-29 02:55:44 · answer #7 · answered by Wrath Warbone 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its time to break up but try to stay in the same house it will crush the children if you'll split its like living together but dating other people
2006-11-29 02:51:11 · answer #8 · answered by briea 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you both hav flaws .. i think u shld forgive eah other and find out what missing in your relation which is tearing u apart! you hav 13 years bond and childrens too,.. giv this relation a chance to revive! good luck.
2006-11-29 02:54:31 · answer #9 · answered by Pearl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what a tangled web we weave when both of you deceive
2006-11-29 03:00:18 · answer #10 · answered by Tek ~aka~Legs! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋