you can just look at her wrong and she will give the meanest look and slap your face or whatever she can reach. Now she's even starting to bite. She grabbed my oldest daughter's hand, pulled it to her mouth, and bit her! There is no hitting at my house, so she does not se it there. She stays with my mother in law, and there are days she almost has her in tears. What happened to my sweet baby girl? don't get me wrong, she's very loving and all that, but she has her moments, alot. What can I do?
2006-11-29 02:24:10 · 8 answers · asked by calfra 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
Please remember that at that age they have no other way to express themselves. She is testing boundaries and seeing what works to get responses. My 2-year-old is doing the same things. I scold him and don't play with him for a few minutes. Let him know his behavior is not acceptable. But I always reinforce that I still love him.
2006-11-29 02:26:51 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
"Theres noth'n wrong with some good ole' fashioned discipline." If you don't do anything she'll just grow up to be one more spoiled brat. I'm not advocating child abuse, but punishment is the most effective means to gain discipline and rule of law. A leasson lost among too many today. And if your daughter is so bad at a young age, keep in mind a child at that age has no concept of belongings hardly, thus discipline is the only way to gain control, as "grounding" will have no baring or meaning, and could even draw back a negitive response. Even at her age Pills arn't an option, though personnally I feel no parent should ever consider those an option.
Given her age, I would see no harm in popping her hand when she does it, or even bitting her back lightly Keyword Lightly, let her see how it feels. Many Children don't learn the meaning of the word "Hot" till they get burned. But if you won't take action, kiss away any respect you'll have from her. But make sure if you do discipline her, no matter what, do NOT do it in an angry manner, or while mad.
Calm yourself, say NO in a firm voice and manner, and pop her hand, or bottom one firm time, with the soft side of your hand. If you do it while mad its not as much as discipline as it is revenge. Your the parent, so act your role, a parent should know whats best for there child, and not depend on or blame others.
And remember, humans won't hardly be good on there own free will, the only reasson many of us obey the laws is that we were trained to do so, or fear punishment. Do not suspect your daughter to be diffrent. Or to be nice if you always treat her nice. Thats the trick of being a parent, knowing when to as they say, Give the stick, or the carrot.
2006-11-29 11:27:19 · answer #2 · answered by TK-421 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, it may be an attention getter. She is testing you. She is finding out that when she hits or bites, she gets you to pay attention to her.
At 16 months she is kind of hard to reason with so talking with her may not work.
Here is what I did when my kids started that kind of stuff and this was after sitting them on chair, making them go to their room, etc.
When they bit me, I would lightly bite them back. They would cry and say that it hurt. I would tell them that is how I felt when they bit me. After a few times of that, they stopped as they didn't want to hurt.
I also did the same thing for hitting. Of course, my hitting was very light but they got the idea fast.
Some may say that it may not be right but after you have exhausted all other options then you have to do this last resort way.
Good Luck.
2006-11-29 10:43:29 · answer #3 · answered by tbears43 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No matter who watches her - she must be told this type of behavior is not allowed and she needs to be punished for it. One of my grand daughters did this to her sisters - every time she did my daughter-in-law put hot sauce on her tongue. It only took a few doses of this and her behavior changed dramatically.
It appears she has two behavior problems that need to be dealt with; the hitting/biting and the moods. You need to address both of these and now before it gets worse.
2006-11-29 10:44:00 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't hit her as one person has stated. She seems very angry and you need to find out why she is so angry, have a long talk with her about her attitude, ask if anything is bothering her and she may just open up to you about it. If this does not help,consider some kind of counseling for her, they may be able to help. Children just don't start doing this for no reason at all.
2006-11-29 10:30:30 · answer #5 · answered by Urchin 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds familiar. my 17 month old boy has been doing the same thing for about a month he has started throwing things when you get on to him he hits constantly if you figure out what to do please let me know
2006-11-29 20:30:27 · answer #6 · answered by *Heather* 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she bites pop her in the chops! make sure you put a sign around her neck beware of dog!
2006-11-29 10:27:47 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
She needs to be spanked. "Hitting" is not "spanking".
2006-11-29 10:26:05 · answer #8 · answered by spelling nazi 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋