i dont like to make a big deal out of nothing but lately my b/f has been really buddy,buddy with this girl who i dont like and i told him i dont want them talk or having any friend ship with this girl and he doesn't respect my wishes. i told my really good friend of a year that we cant hang any more and i dropped her as a friend for him b/c i love him and out of respect because he felt she was a bad influence for me. am i wrong to think that this friend of his is a bad influence to out relationship.
2006-11-29 02:21:25 · 5 answers · asked by monie211 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
while it's true that couples can't dictate who their friends are, but it sounds like he is getting some constant stroking from that other relationship and it makes him feel good and attractive. Too bad he doesn't feel that way on his own or he would make some changes.
The only way this person has power is if he allows her to have it, so the problem is not with her or him, but with you. Guys do sh+t like that because it allows them to feel wanted and it keeps their girlfriends reeled in and controlled and keeps the guy in power. You said he doesn't respect your wishes..Is this what you want in a guy? This aspect will not change until your self-respect rises to the occasion and you get out now..
2006-11-29 02:32:35 · answer #1 · answered by untitled 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it seems like if he already lost interest in you and he's looking for something new. If I were you I would break up with him before he does it with you. If you stopped talking with one of ur good friends for him I really don't know why he wouldn't do it for you, you should just see it as a sign and get out. Talk to him before you do that and tell him what's going on between your relationship. If you see that it's not moving forward because of this girl then you should just call it quits or maybe you should do the same thing that he is doing to you and start talking to ur ex good friend again or start talking to another guy and if he really loves you then he'll stop what he's doing and if he doesn't then you'll see for yourself. I hope this helps e-mail me and tell me how it goes.
2006-11-29 02:34:52 · answer #2 · answered by mysteryousmtz 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't dictate someone else's choice of friends. You can tell your boyfriend you don't like this person and why, but the choice to be friends with her is his to make. If, as you say, you fear for your relationship, the relationship is over. Once trust is gone, it will never again be the same.
2006-11-29 02:27:56 · answer #3 · answered by Roberta 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have the right to ask ur bf to stop hanging with a girl if you do not like that. If he doesnt go be buddy buddy with a man then may be he will feel what you feel and stop his relationship with that girl
2006-11-29 02:27:42 · answer #4 · answered by gala-day 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think maybe you need to find a new boyfriend cause this one does not respect your wishes. good luck and god bless and happy holidays.
2006-11-29 02:37:32 · answer #5 · answered by Kate T. 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋