Is not having sex cheating?

Question

Well i was wondering if your in a relationship for a long period of time and you start hanging out with another girl you know dinner,movies,her house and even sleeping over without even thinking about going all the way. Is it considered cheating?

Answer 1

I would think so. It's cheating emotionally.

Answer 2

Very interesting question. I can tell that your heart is torn between both of these people that you obviously have strong feelings for. I have tried to be in a relationship with two people at once in the past (I had a fiance living up north and had a relationship with someone else in the south where i went to college). I found, however, that after a while (after the initial infatuation phase) with the new individual it will become clear which person you desire the most. Whoever starts giving you the "tummy tickles" (be it the ex or the new person) is the one you need to go after. In my opinion it is perfectly cool to love both of them at the same time (believe me there are FAR worse crimes than tossing out a little extra love) until it becomes apparent which one captures your heart. If you play the "game" the way society (and your current love) expects you to by breaking up with one person before going after another you very well might find yourself a lonely and unhappy old man. I've become emotionally callous to so called "cheating" a long time ago and have a clear understanding now that you need to basically go by the rule that "everything is fair in love and war" and find your true love. If I had not acted as stated above, I would not be happily married with a new baby (a miracle in my eyes) now. I hope you trust I am a good person because I speak from my heart. It is time for you my friend to listen to your heart right now. Do whatever you need to do to give both people a chance at capturing your heart. It is a noble cause and worth any guilt you may encounter during the process. Your heart and your soul will thank you for the sacrifice. True happiness awaits, but like all good things it comes with a price. Pay it in full and the guiding light of love will lead your heart to it's rightful owner.

Answer 3

It is not really cheating but eventually it will lead to cheating. Secondly you are not respecting your girlfriend by sleeping over at this girl's house. How would you like it if she did the same thing to you. The main reason you are asking this question is because you are guilty and have intentions and I am sure your girlfriends knows nothing about this. Everyone has friends of the opposite sex but you are over the limit. If I were you girlfriend the second I find out I would dump you. This is ridiculous

Answer 4

lust in the heart and in the mind is cheating. Think of it this way. would you want your girlfriend doing the same things with a guy friend. Especially the "sleeping" over part??? What is the going all the way. Does that mean that you make out. Come on if your girlfriend can't do it then neither should you

Answer 5

Some women will consider it cheating...with all the events you described that activity could eventually lead up to going all the way...Women sometimes are big on quality time and if you are devoting that time to another other than your own, especially, dinner, movies going to her house sleeping over...sorry guy, what planet are you on?!...even if your intentions are innocent..(which is hard to believe with the activities you described)..there is enough to incriminate you of the act of cheating....

Answer 6

It completely depends on the definitions, boundaries and commitments of your 'first' relationship. Are you engaged? Married? What have you agreed to?

In pure terms, though; yes, it is cheating. You are spending time with another female, enjoying the companionship and are thinking about being with her. 'Sleeping over' is a telltale cheat.

Sounds like you're too scared to break up with your current gf. Someday, karma will have cheating come back in your life from another gf. Beware.

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Answer 7

It would depend on how you feel about the other girl, and what kind of contact you two have engaged in.
If you only think of her as a friend, then it's not cheating. If you feel she's more than a friend, then it is cheating.
If you two have never touched in any romantic or sexual way, then it's not cheating. If you two have kissed, or more, then it is cheating.
Cheating can be in your heart and mind, or foreplay alone. Cheating isn't limited to the actual act of sex.

Answer 8

You say "not even thinking about going all the way". But what ARE you thinking about?
Is this purely platonic? If there are any feelings there outside of a normal friendship then YES this would be cheating.
But sleeping over? Why?
I wholeheartedly believe that people can have platonic opposite sex friendships but it is a fine line when you start sleeping over.
That's very suspicious behavior.

Answer 9

How old are you Owen? Relationship is all that you do with another person. I know I would feel guilty if I was in a commited relationship and slept over so and so's house. You may feel innocent, and I can understand how you feel, but if your girl catches you, it won't be pure bliss, believe me. There will be
jealousy, insecurities, anger, accusations, etc. etc. etc.
Is that what you secretly want?

Answer 10

The best way to answer a question like this is to ask yourself how YOU would feel if you found out YOUR girlfriend was doing this with someone else.

That being said. If you find you like doing this, you should question your relationship with your girlfriend anyway. Are you still together with her just because you haven't broken up yet? If so, I can predict your future.

Answer 11

I went to movies with a female friend a few times while I was dating my wife, but there was absolutely nothing romantic about it. She paid for herself and everything. Definitely not a date. My wife knew and didn't care. We would have never spent the night at each other's house though. That'd be just asking for problems.