Am I falling in love...?

Question

I have been seeing somebody now for 11 days, every night. I really like him. I have been terribly betrayed in a previous relationship where i endured years of near every type of abuse. Because of this I retreated and avoided men even though I know they are not all the same. I had to restrospect on it all. Going to my current situation this morning I am feeling as though I feel a bit down and have a knot in my stomach, I have no appetite, I made him breakfast but as on others day could not face it myself. I long to see him again which I will later but I also long to tell him how I feel apart from he told me only Saturday he will never fall in love again as he couldnt be hurt again. He is so warm and when he holds me it is as though he wont let me go. I cried a few tears because I never thought that would come again. As for him, he is getting warmer towards me every day, he also was quieter this morning than normal but he may have been sensing my confusion.Any similar experiences

Answer 1

patience my girl, Xmas will tell

Answer 2

From a mans perspective love, sort your head out. Unfortunately its difficult when love is involved as it's different for different people. Try and see it as black or white, you either want to be with him or you don't. simple as that. And all this stuff about not wanting to get involved with men again or fall in love again is b*llocks. if you truly didn't want to be in another relationship then you wouldn't be in the situation your in, you would have gone home and got a cat by now. As you haven't and your with this guy, embrace it, if he hurts you like the others have done, then f*ck it, life's sh*t go and get another bloke. Life's too short to be alone all the time and you can't beat yourself up, at the end of the day, if he f*cks up, his loss. good luck. xxx

Answer 3

Your getting close but your not there love is more then a fuzzy feeling its about trust passion knowing your partner and all the things they do which is a bit hard to learn in seven days, dont run in too deep too quick though you said you have been betrayed you dont need to have your heart broken again.

you obviously have feelings for this guy and thats good you deserve them!! but dont run before you can walk, be a bit guarded so you can protect yourself fro getting hurt again.

Play it the same for a couple of months and if theres no change i say go for it!!!

Answer 4

i was kinda in the same place you were, my ex and i had been together for 5 years. it was a really messy breakup and i was accused of cheating with my friend (whom i'm not dating) even tho nothing had ever happened between us. well, 3 days after we had broken up i reliezed how great a guy my friend really was, dealing with me and all the crap being dumped on the two of us. so i asked him out. within a week of dating, he told me he loved me. i didnt know what to say, and i just blurted out "i think i'm falling in love with you too". i was kinda mortified, and i felt like i had just completely crushed him but i had been so badly hurt i kinda didnt WANT to fall in love. but i couldnt help it. and we've been together since.

just give it some time. you dont have to decide that just yet, just give the relationship some time to grow and see how it goes. if you're sure you're in love with him, let him know, but dont scare him away by pushing it on him.

Answer 5

Stop seeing him every single day, you need to maintain your own space and clarity, you have lost perspective if you want to call it love already.. Beginnings are great but that is not love.

Answer 6

amen to michelle's answer

Answer 7

You don't find love, love finds you......