I just recently got out of a 3 year relationship. This guy and i had our ups and downs, we fought alot and at one point we couldn't trust each other any more. HE never made time for me only when it was convient for him. At first (the first year) was wonderful. Then after that we were always accusing each other of cheating etc. Well we finally worked it out and he moved in only to move out 3 months later. I say he's not ready to commit. He says that he can't trust me. We finally broke it off totallly 2 weeks ago. He said he never wanted to talk to me ever again and that we could never make it work. I said ok maybe this is for the best. Then just last week hes called and we talked for a while and he kept telling me how much he loved me and missed me and he wanted to try and be friends. I told him i couldnt do that and he said he would call me sometime. Why is he doing this? He is also always been secretive sometimes. I love him to death but i cant do this to myself anymore.
2006-11-29 01:40:28 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
No you can't do this to yourself anymore. You made a very smart move to end it and now you need to make sure you do not answer the phone when he calls
2006-11-29 01:42:51 · answer #1 · answered by Mike 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, my bf and I have been together for 7 months now and we are both afraid of the other one cheating. It makes me sick to my stomach to even think of him cheating on me. I could never do that and I wish he's see that. If you start trusting in him, then he'll start trusting in you! My man is going away for the next 4 days on a golf tournament and I am going to put 100% trust in him so that he doesn't feel like I'm accusing him of such nonsense.
2006-11-29 01:47:54 · answer #2 · answered by inlovewow 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't go back he had his chance. Move on girl. Get out there and find you another man that will treat you nice and stay with you for you and love you unconditionally. Also if you've been with him for 3 years then you really don't know if ther is someone better out there. The best way to get over him would be to find someone else. Tell your ex to hit the road. It'll be hard but what doesn't kill us will make us stronger.
2006-11-29 01:49:11 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey, it is obvious trust is expensive in your relationship with this guy. I think you find he attractive but not really the marriage type, you just need to convince yourself that he is just after you for his selfish reasons. you only think you are in love with him because of his constant attack on your fidelity, i think. He is such a selfish fellow, so insecure and insensitive. You need to come to terms with what you want in life right now. Do you want commitments or lies, the choice is yours. You will be doing yourself a world of good if you follow your brains and not your heart, you will be hurt again and again. I am sure for christ sake that he thinks you are cheap, I am a man for christ sake, think girl ----- your pants are easy access for him and that is the obssession for him. remember what goes around, comes around. He will waste your time and his. Make up your mind.
2006-11-29 02:02:11 · answer #4 · answered by alex o 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you right, you can;t do this to yourself anymore. You know you deserve better and that he's bad for you, but you still have feelings for him. Tell him that he was the one wanting to end it, and your not just going to wait around for him. I don't think you should try and befriend him until your feelings for him go away, as you can't risk things happening with him and putting you back in this situations.
You are better than him!!!
2006-11-29 01:53:49 · answer #5 · answered by becky c 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe down the road you can be friends, but right now, I'd say no. Its all too fresh, too much hurt and drama. Let him be for now. Give it time and things may turn into a good friendship. Take care and good luck.
2006-11-29 01:44:52 · answer #6 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to move on, stop all contact with him. Some habits are hard to break, but this is one you're better off without!
2006-11-29 01:44:11 · answer #7 · answered by grandm 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you can just be friends like he wants to, and see how everything goes to see if you want to get back together.
2006-11-29 01:43:52 · answer #8 · answered by Chris 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
the sure path to failure is to give up... stand firm and show the world what you've got!
2006-11-29 01:42:21 · answer #9 · answered by crystal and clover 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave him alone
2006-11-29 01:44:17 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋