my boyfriend of 6 years no longer has sex with me, and has even said it's because I've gain a littlt weight. he doesnt even talk to me. he says I should be happy that at least hes coming home after work.I feel so lonely & when I tell him that he gets mad with me. he doesnt even make an attempt to have sex with me. whats going on with him?
2006-11-29 01:33:48 · 17 answers · asked by leekee 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He isn't and never has been truly in love with you! That may be hard to hear, but it is true. When a man truly loves you, he loves you - every part of you! Physical attraction should be a very small part of a relationship. You need it in the beginning, but once you have developed feelings for that person you should be able to overlook the small things, like weight gain!!
Don't let him destroy your self-esteem!! Six years is a long time, but do you really want to spend the rest of your life with someone who is that shallow? What if you were to be in a car accident and be paralyzed, or in a fire and be burned?? Wouldn't you want to have someone in your life that would be there for you? You know he isn't the one who will do that!!
I'm not a guy, obviously, but I do know that there are MANY men out there who are capable of falling in love, true love! Don't settle for anything less - you are worth it!
So, the next time he leaves for work, pack up his belongings, set them on the front porch with a note that reads: "I've decided I would be happier if you didn't come home from work. Good luck to you in your quest for perfection, I am moving on!!"
Leave it at that! Move on with your life! There is someone out there just waiting for the opportunity to love you completely! Good luck
2006-11-29 01:48:52 · answer #1 · answered by Kailey 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How much is a little weight? 5, 15, 30, 60, 80+? Love is more than the physical side, but you still have to be attractive to the one your with. You shouldnt be fornicating anyways. And obviously he doesnt have a real commitment to you since you guys are not even married after 6 years. Why would he get married? what would he get that he's not already getting?
2006-11-29 01:40:05 · answer #2 · answered by Gyasi M 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's the problem and the typical trap of introducing sex into a relationship. It becomes the barometer by which the entire relationship is judged. Which is a horrible and faulty way of looking at Love, no wonder none of us can't get it right!
In your case clearly you're not happy...so instead of asking why he doesn't have sex with you, why aren't you asking the more courageous question of why are you staying with him? Why are you still even bothering trying to have sex with him?
Being with him or anyone else won't cure that ache of loneliness. Nor will sex unfortunately. You'll have to seek alternative methods.
It's black and white: Always remember if you can do better then you should.
Move on.
2006-11-29 01:40:02 · answer #3 · answered by simm 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell him you don't want to have sex with him because he's an insensitive a**. This guy sounds like a jerk to me and I think you could do better at the local Salvation Army store.
Anyone that makes a comment about a person's appearance and uses that as an excuse for anything doesn't deserve to be with anyone but themselves. Think hard and long about why you are with this guy. How does he treat you? What do you see in him that you put up with crap like that?
Build up your self esteem by getting yourself around friends and people that truly care for you and kick this bum to the curb. You deserve and can do much better than him. Trust me.
2006-11-29 01:37:41 · answer #4 · answered by tipper 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to say but he's just not into you anymore. He didn't have to mention the weight thing directly either, that just sounds cruel that he said that. Good luck in your next relationship.
2006-11-29 01:42:08 · answer #5 · answered by Joseph R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'll have sex with you!!!!! I'll make you feel needed and appraciated again........he obviousely doesn't care less......
Could he be getting some on the side??? Maybe you should do the same thing....what's good for the goose is good for the gander.
2006-11-29 01:40:06 · answer #6 · answered by luvsbjs_418 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that he is no longer interested in having a relationship with you but he is to scared to be the one to brake it off.
2006-11-29 01:37:47 · answer #7 · answered by mr_oilfield_78 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is a jerk and a loser... Sounds like he is cheating or is gay or is inadequate...
You need to dump him and get someone else...
If you want an impartial opinion, get naked on a webcam and I'll tell you if I'd have sex with you... :D
2006-11-29 01:36:28 · answer #8 · answered by Forlorn Hope 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Take it from me. Hes seeing someone else. I could put my head on the block.
2006-11-29 01:38:23 · answer #9 · answered by Tommy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What an evil and shallow guy..What's wrong with him....i dun see any wrong to gain a little weight..
Gal, you can start kicking his ***.
2006-11-29 01:38:16 · answer #10 · answered by Failure 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋