Christmas help?

Question

My husband grew up a Jehova's witness... i grew up a Baptist... so our beliefs are different. He never celebrated Christmas as a kid... and really doesn't want to celebrate it now... How do I get him to enjoy the season a little more. We have a 6mo. old too.

he doesn't drink... PLEASE DON'T LEAVE SARCASTIC ANSWERS... THIS IS SERIOUS

LAST YEAR AND THE YEAR BEFORE HE CELEBRATED CHRISTMAS WITH ME BUT THIS YEAR HE'S LIKE ANTI-CHRISTMAS.

I DID NOT ASK TO BE PREACHED TO. CHRISTMAS IS JESUS' BIRTHDAY! WHY WOULD SOMEONE NOT WANT TO CELEBRATE THAT??

Answer 1

No true Christian should celebrate the so-called "Christmas". Christmas does not celebrate Christ; it celebrates the pagan Saturnalia.

Jesus was not even born in December. Nearly all so-called Christmas customs dishonor Christ.

http://watchtower.org/e/19981215/article_02.htm
http://watchtower.org/e/20001215/
http://watchtower.org/e/20041215/article_01.htm
http://watchtower.org/e/19981215/
http://watchtower.org/e/rq/article_11.htm


By contrast, it's tragic that the one holiday Christ actually *DID* ask Christians to commemorate is entirely ignored by almost all of Christendom. It is, of course, the Memorial of Christ's death, sometimes called "the Last Supper" or "the Lord's Evening Meal".

(1 Corinthians 11:23-25, NWT) The Lord Jesus in the night in which he was going to be handed over took a loaf... Keep doing this in remembrance of me.” 25 He did likewise respecting the cup.. Keep doing this... in remembrance of me.”

(1 Cor 11:24, 25, NEB) "Do this as a memorial of me.”


Christ Jesus himself personally celebrated and explained the significance of that Last Supper to his followers (see Matthew 26:26-29). Christians who commemorate the Last Supper have done so on the same Jewish calendar date as Jesus did, Nisan 14, which generally falls between late March and mid-April. Interestingly, Christians in the centuries immediately after Christ's impalement were sometimes called "Quartodecimans" which literally mean "Fourteen-ers", because the early Christians were well-known for this true holy day.

How would Jesus feel to learn that the holiday he commanded was widely ignored, while his so-called followers chose to celebrate a pagan false god and their own traditions of men? We don't need to wonder.

(Matthew 15:6-9) You have made the word of God invalid because of your tradition. 7 You hypocrites, Isaiah aptly prophesied about you when he said, 8 ‘This people honors me with their lips, yet their heart is far removed from me. 9 It is in vain that they keep worshiping me, because they teach commands of men as doctrines.’”

Learn more:
http://watchtower.org/e/lmn/article_08.htm
http://watchtower.org/e/rq/article_11.htm
http://watchtower.org/e/20041215/article_02.htm
http://watchtower.org/e/20011115/article_02.htm
http://watchtower.org/e/20050101a/
http://watchtower.org/e/jt/

Answer 2

I was once in the same place you are. My then significant other didn't enjoy the holiday only his reasons were because he both didn't believe in Jesus and that it was nothing more then capitalism at it's finest.

What I told him was this. Even if I never bought you a gift I would still celebrate Christmas with you because for me, it's not about the day Jesus was born, (which is in the summer by the way) or about helping the economy. For me it's going out with my family and being happy. Driving the car around the block and looking at lights with those I care about and ooing and aaing over them. Having a big family dinner, because we only get to see eachother once a year and taking the time to not be mad at the world anymore. Thats why I celebrate Christmas. Tell him it's not about anything other then love.

Answer 3

Don't try to force him into it if he doesn't want it. Just respect his choice. You wouldn't like it if he tried to force you to give up Christmas celebration, would you?

I know a family where the father and daughter are Jehova Witnesses and the mother and son are Lutherans. At Christmas the Lutheran half of the family celebrates while the JW half treats it like any other day. It works for them that way. Maybe you could try that too. I think it's better to respect each other's beliefs than trying to push the opposite party into giving in.

Answer 4

Discussing this with your husband would be better than asking strangers what to do.

This is something the two of you need to work out.

I grew up celebrating the holidays, I've also spent the last 30 years not celebrating the holidays, along with my two children.

I personnally can tell you, I've never regretted no celebrating.

the freedom of not having to please family and friends is wonderful.

My children know the gifts they received were because we love them, and not because we had to give them something because of a date on the calendar.

There are ways to be with family without "celebrating" a holiday.

When you choose to be with someone because you want to means way more than being with someone because it is expected.

These reasons have nothing to do with the religious reasons that a christian should follow.

Answer 5

well i think you have a very good question. is he still a practicing wittiness? If not tell him to relax a little and ask him why he is acting the way he is. Maybe you can help him through what he is feeling. You have to stop and think this is something he has pushed aside for so long that maybe he doesn't know how to react to. I have a cousin that was a witness and he now partakes in all holiday. It took him a while to get use to it as well. If i can help you with this more just e-mail me. Good luck and Merry Christmas!

Answer 6

I would hate to be a JW because they really do not celebrate much of nothing. I mean no christmas, no birthdays and I guess Thanksgiving is out. How in the world did you fall in love with him when you had such different values?

I would celebrate it and let him go fishing or hunting

Answer 7

Yikes, you are in a tough position. I know that many couples of different faiths teach their children both faiths and celebrate both faiths. What would your husband like to do for the holiday?

Jesus' birth can be celebrated any time of year or everyday for that matter! Christmas did come from a pagan holiday but like any good Christian, we know that God takes what some would use for bad and changes it for good. No matter what you hear, Jesus was born and we celebrate His birth at Christmas time.

Answer 8

He married you knowing the differences...so remind him of that. Your child can grow-up knowing and learning about both beliefs and then make a choice when age ready. Decorate your home-but dont overdue. Explain to your husband you are not trying to shove anything in his face-or trying to "convert" him or even disrespecting him. Just you have grown with your beliefs from a child to an adult-they are instilled in you, as his beliefs are in him. You will being giving you child knowledges of 2 different beliefs. Knowledge is what makes people grow--grow in their minds--Its something we do as parents--teach our children "choices".
Good luck an Merry Christmas!

Answer 9

Oooh, this could be a problem. My grandpa converted to JW after he married my grandma, and it (among other things) led them to a divorce. Honestly, unless he really wants to join the festivities, he probably won't get into it. You can try to ask him to put on a good face for your child. Talk about it. You each need to know what you will teach your child (about Santa, Jesus, the reason some people celebrate and others don't, etc). Good luck!

Answer 10

well,belief's is not the topic here,this is not just the season of christ's natal day but celebrate it as custom of family reunion, make it a season of bonding,we catholic called this a merry making season,so why don't you think of something that makes your family merry and be grateful at it and that's the real spirit of christmas