Who is with me? I try and not read the marriage/divorce questions because they're all on cheating. That scares me. Makes me not want to get married. Isn't marriage supposed to be a happy start of a new chapter and making babies and buying a house, etc.? Geeezzz. It makes me sad to think how many people cheat! I would not put up with my man cheating. There is no question about it. Does this scare anyone else besides me?
2006-11-29 01:02:23 · 11 answers · asked by inlovewow 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I don't like it either. But lets cut out the once a cheater always a cheater. It's a bit childish don't you think. We all have done something unsavory in our lives. It would be unfair for someone to label us for that point in our lives or the rest of our lives.
2006-11-29 01:11:56 · answer #1 · answered by Wordsmith 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are right in being concerned. But I will caution you. Based on the behavior of many I have seen, they jump into a hugely serious relationship a long time before they even know the person. I am guilty of this too in the past and learned from it.
Some of the old fashioned ways are best for the reason that they are based on sound practices. Now this is just my opinion and what works (sort of) for me. I believe nobody can know another till at least 10 months have passed. When a couple first meet, they have their best face on usually only showing their good qualities. I don't believe anyone can keep up that behavior for more than 3-6 months. It is then you see the whole person you are involved with. So just take your time in any relationship, get to know each other and make sure you don't have to be totally dependent on a possible mate.
2006-11-29 01:08:42 · answer #2 · answered by Rich B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I find it aggravating, but it does not scare me. I have been married for over 10 years. A marriage is what you make. And all of the cheating is because people get married for the wrong reasons or before they really truly know each other.
2006-11-29 01:07:09 · answer #3 · answered by hummingbird 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ah, don't sweat it. The happy ones don't bother with typing up problems on Yahoo Answers "Marriage & Divorce" section.
Though I live in South Florida, and I swear down here it is almost like a wedding ring is a license to sleep around. I'm not scared, but I'm embarrassed for these people.
2006-11-29 01:06:05 · answer #4 · answered by CSlave 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No one wants to be with a cheater and be cheated especially if you've put your trust, love and respect to the other person. I have been cheated as well but that does not keep me from desiring to be married someday and truly believing that the one I am going to end up with will never do that to me.
WHY?
Because I have placed my trust -- and will continue to do so -- on God, that the man He will choose for me will be someone who has stood the test of time and have proved himself to be faithful.
Fears are natural but if you allow your fears to overcome you, it will hound you for the rest of your life.
2006-11-29 01:42:01 · answer #5 · answered by Alias G 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your absolutely right cheating sucks, i just don't understand why someone would want to do that to another person after making so many promises. i have just got out of a relationship an my gf cheated on me so i know from fist hand experience
2006-11-29 01:19:04 · answer #6 · answered by Matt C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You think you hate cheaters??? I married twice and the first wife I caught in MY bed with one of my rodeo buddies(past tense) and the second one was banging my sisters husband for his income and we both took that one up the A**. I guess my $76,000.00 a year income wasn't good enough for the bit**. I'd kill for just one woman that knows what monogamy means! sorry, hit a sore spot. good luck to you
2006-11-29 01:19:33 · answer #7 · answered by dhwilson58 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
considering i'm 20 and only had 2 girlfriends who haven't cheated on me, 1 of them used me, the other lied to me constintly, so yes the fear is branded into my head and heart yes
2006-11-29 01:06:20 · answer #8 · answered by Todd M 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yeah because im scared of getting hurt, im with you on this once a cheater always a cheater!!! -x-
2006-11-29 01:05:54 · answer #9 · answered by Lousiana 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Doesn't scare me. I already know that 90% of the people here and everywhere are idiots. I am just glad not to be one of them.
2006-11-29 01:06:28 · answer #10 · answered by Jon O 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋