ME AND MY FIANCEE WANT TO GET MARRIED. i WOULD LIKE A CHURCH WEDDING AT OUR CHURCH BUT HE WANTS A JUSTICE OF THE PEACE WEDDING SINCE FAMILY LIVE OUT OF TOWN. wHIC WAY CAN I GO ABOUT THIS AND NOT HURT HIS FEELINGS
2006-11-29 00:50:34 · 7 answers · asked by Jennifer Witchey 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Okay, here's how I understand your situation.
Option 1: You have a church wedding. His family either travels in from out of town if they choose to, or they don't come. Basically, some will come.
Option 2: You have a justice of the peace wedding. None of his family comes because they aren't invited.
I would think that option 1 would be better. I myself would prefer to receive an invitation for an out-of-town wedding so that I can decide for myself if I want to go, rather than be denied an invitation because someone assumes I won't go.
2006-11-29 02:09:21 · answer #1 · answered by Pink Denial 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What are your reasons for a church wedding? Are you or your family religous? If so, he needs to respect that and have the wedding in a church. If he refuses, then your setting yourself up for a lot more problems in the future. This is a special moment in your lives together and if he can't respect your beliefs now, then he definitely won't later.
Talk to him, his reason doesn't make any sense at all. My family lived out of town too, but my wife wanted to get married in a church (even though she wasn't of that faith). So because I did believe in the church's teachings that she wanted, I got baptized so that we could get married there. I did it for her because it didn't really matter to me where we got married as long as we got married.
If he truly loves you, he'll give you the church wedding. If not, take that as a warning sign of things to come.
2006-11-29 08:58:10 · answer #2 · answered by tipper 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You both need to come to an agreement...if he wants to go to the JP, then have a huge reception instead. Family might live out of town, but they will come to celebrate with you.
2006-11-29 11:05:19 · answer #3 · answered by VAWeddingSpecialist 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
FIRST, IS IT IN YOUR BUDGET? YOU KNOW YOU HAVE TO LIVE AFTER THE WEDDING.
SECOND. WHAT'S WRONG WITH THE JOP/
YOU WANT TO GET MARRIED RIGHT?
AND YOU GUYS LOVE EACH OTHER RIGHT?
SO WHY GO THRU THE TROUBLE WITH ALL THAT DRAMA . GO ON AND GET MARRIED. DO WHAT MAKES YOU HAPPY. REMEMBER, YOU HAVE TO BE ON ONE ACCORD. HAVE A GATHERING WHEN YOUR FAMILY'S CAN COME TOGETHER LATER. TIME WAITS ON NO ONE.
2006-11-29 09:17:46 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best way for your both to enjoy the day, don't invite family! We didn't invite any family at all and it was the best day ever! It's YOUR day, so enjoy it, do what you both want, not for other people but for yourselves. Congratulations by the way :)
2006-11-29 10:40:40 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why not do both, one by yourselves, the other wherever the family lives? Compromise is one of the secrets of a long relashionship & a happy marriage.
2006-11-29 08:53:48 · answer #6 · answered by mstrywmn 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If his family won't be there, then why does he care?
2006-11-29 09:47:24 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋