Just wondering if I should be worried....
2006-11-29 00:11:45 · 14 answers · asked by Sporty 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Community Service
I didn't get introduced to my partners parents for a year or more because they were not comfortable with their son being a puff and he wasn't going to allow them to judge me with prejudice. Now they love me. I was also worried, wondering why so i asked him.
2006-11-29 00:18:30 · answer #1 · answered by Powerpuffgeezer 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to look at the relationship in a whole. Is your relationship on a serious track, or is this just a casual relationship. In general a person will not introdue their partner to their parents (family) unless they know that the relationship will go somewhere. But if its not then they will hold off, I don't introduce anyone to my family until I know its a sure deal, this is a lasting relationship and this person will be around for a while. Because if I do and they end up liking this person when a break off happens its not just you that is getting hurt, your family is now envolved with that as well. So that maybe what your partner is waiting on. At this point they may not view the relationship to be serious enough to take that step yet.
2006-11-29 13:48:41 · answer #2 · answered by twnmsk 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want things to be long-term/permanent and it's moving too slowly for you, then you need to establish why.
If it's a full-on relationship then I personally would be getting a little concerned that they didn't think I was important enough or special enough to do the 'meet the parents' thing. Though having said that, context matters, and there's probably a good reason.
On the other hand, if it's a casual relationship, then it may be slow-burning and it'll all happen in due course.
Have you introduced them to your parents yet? If not, suggest it and see what their reaction is; if you have, then I'd think about having a serious chat about where your relationship is going, just to check you both want the same things. My ex was very reluctant to do family stuff with me at first and I persuaded him after a while that I'd like to meet them and they wanted to meet me, so we did, but it all fizzled out after about 4 years (I'd thought he wanted to be permanent, but he had other ideas) so just take care that you're not chasing castles in the air with this person.
2006-11-29 08:23:52 · answer #3 · answered by SilverSongster 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do not think I have, although there may be one who did not introduce me to her father. There was a bit of a mystery regarding what had happened to him. He was either in prison, AWOL, or some other strange place. I did pick up on the fact that she did not like gambling because of her father, but I never really got much more out of her before I moved away from that area and we lost touch.
What should you be worried about? - Who were you with when you first met her, and in what circumstances?
2006-11-29 08:27:31 · answer #4 · answered by James 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My ex Boyfriend (who i went out with for 2 1/2 years) didn't introduce me to his parents at all! So i really don't know, cos my Current partner introduced me to his parents after 2 weeks!
2006-11-29 08:23:11 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry.
I didn't meet my in laws til about 12 months down the line. My fella knew his family too well and knows they would have gotten way too excited about bringing home a girl. My fella needed to be sure that I was serious about him and that things were gonna last before he brought me round to his family. Sounds like a harsh thing to do, but when I met them I could see why. They treat me like one of their own, and it would have been very hard for him to answer questions if our relationship hadn't worked out. He was always honest about it and I didn't have a problem with it. I am not one to rush things though!
Maybe your fella is doing the same and is sussing out your future together. Don't fret, there will be a reason! Just ask him.
2006-11-29 08:20:27 · answer #6 · answered by Liggy Lee 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My daughter's boyfriend did not introduce her to his parents for about 8 months. When they did finally meet they got along well. They are now engaged and getting married next spring.
2006-12-01 11:51:19 · answer #7 · answered by Suzie Q 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My boyfriend and I were just dating for about five months before we decided to be exclusive. I did not meet his parents for another four months, and he met my family two months after that. (My family lives in a different part of the country.)
I think "meeting the family" can be very stressful for some people. Has he/she met your family? Have you asked him/her (gently) why you haven't "met the fam"?
2006-12-02 15:05:23 · answer #8 · answered by Emily R. 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not that I can remember, no. But they may be embarrassed about their family and not wish to put you off.
I think you need to ask them straight out why not - wouldn't really be worried though
2006-11-29 08:26:13 · answer #9 · answered by Crofty 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am married and my wife never met my parents and I never met hers (of course the reason is they all died before we even met).
2006-11-29 08:14:07 · answer #10 · answered by victorschool1 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋