My mom comes inbetween our friendship all the time she think she is one of the sisters, we are all grown with kids of our own and we live far apart from each other, my sister and myself got into an arguement when we went on vacation together and my mom came along, and it all went wrong I think she is the bigger sister and should apologize to me, I would like to have a good relation again, but she is so hard to get along with what to do ?
2006-11-28 23:58:50 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
IF your wanting to make amends with your sister, your going to have to swallow the fact she was the one who was wrong.
Your still too busy pointing fingers on who did what!
How do I know, because I'm the same with my sister. Has been this way for a few years now. EVEN though I know she was the wrong one, I'm the one who has tired a few times to be the one who contacts her. IF she answers her phone, she acts like we're good old buddies, but she still hasn't bothered contact6ing me!!
Good Luck. Take the blame even if it's not you that should be.
2006-11-29 00:11:12 · answer #1 · answered by peggin_beast 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Accept that she is the way that she is, recognize that it is you that wants to get along so you should put aside the foolish pride and just talk to your sister. You are lucky to have a sister and the time will come when you will need each other so the longer you wait the harder it is. You never know she might be thinking the same thing about getting together to talk to you. Good luck but a sister is worth the effort.
2006-11-29 08:03:53 · answer #2 · answered by CindyLu 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So if you die having always been very careful not to apologize first if you were not in the wrong, what have you gained?
Is your sister always hard to get along with? Vacation aside, have you had good times? If you decide to try to reestablish a relationship with your sister, limit your contact with her to settings in which you have the highest probability of having positive experiences together. If there are topics you can't talk with her about, don't try. If she brings up topics you don't want to here about, just let it go in one ear and out the other. Repeat after me. "mmmhmm, mmmhmm, mmmhmm, how about this weather?"
Finally, just because you are ready to reestablish a relationship with your sister doesn't mean she is ready to speak with you--hopefully she is, but you won't know for sure until you try.
If your initial effort doesn't go as well as you hoped, don't be angry. You will know that you tried. Try again another time.
And know that family aren't necessarily supposed to be friends. Make sure you have the friends you need outside your family.
2006-11-29 08:30:25 · answer #3 · answered by Millie M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She may be the bigger sister in that she is older that you, but you can still be the bigger person and apologise first. The key to a successful apology is to have no expectations. If you're simply apologising so you can start talking again its not for the right reasons. Apologise simply because you feel that you may have said something that you didn't mean and leave it at that. Don't expect anything from her. You can tell her of your intention to start talking again but whether she decides to do that ( and apologise for her part in the argument) is her choice.
2006-11-29 08:06:33 · answer #4 · answered by Belle 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be the bigger person and call your sister. Days and times are short. Just let your mom know that you and your sister can handle things. Work it out with Big Sis. Good Luck.
2006-11-29 08:31:12 · answer #5 · answered by SHARON S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Life is to short, just apologize even though you are not the one in the wrong. Then you can get your relationship back on track. We are not guaranteed another day on this earth. Best not to waste a moment. That is the thing with family, they hurt us, upset us and we have to just get over it. Friends we choose, family, God has assigned to us. Good luck and God bless*****
2006-11-29 08:03:37 · answer #6 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is not strange for me because I'm also having same problem with my brother. I think stop talking isn't solution for problems, don't wait for apologize from her side u also can apologize her..talking is important who says apologize is not important so go ahead all the best
2006-11-29 08:06:24 · answer #7 · answered by uday 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first, talk with her when shes not angry. then you have to tell your mom was is wrong why she always comes between your friendship. you should first apologize and she will come along.
2006-11-29 08:02:13 · answer #8 · answered by My_Girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋