this guy has been chasing me for years. i really like him. hes says he likes me too. we are not dating. he does want to take things further sexually but i have only kissed him. i have been a bit of a tease if im honest which has upset him a bit!!lol
how can i be sure that i aint on his "do do list"?and aint seen as a "trophy"?
i aint planning on sleeping with him unless we start dating.i do however want to move to "next base" from kissing. he doesnt know this.
is that "far enough" considering we aint dating?
2006-11-28 23:52:08 · 8 answers · asked by Blue Eyes 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I would ask him if he wants to start dating. If he tells you no, then you've got your answer...you're just a piece of @ss to him.
Next, if you do start dating, I recommend you wait a few months to put out. I mean, if that's all he's after, he's going to lose interest having to wait that long. I'm not saying you can't make out...just don't go all the way until you've figured out if it's just a physical connection he's after.
2006-11-28 23:56:16 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you're not dating him, you shouldn't be kissing him. And since you did, it may be better to take things a bit slow so that he wouldn't think you're cheap or a trophy. Start from the beginning in the typical dating mood, and take it from there. The fact that you've kissed him before doesn't mean you have to kiss him again to show him you want to date him. Just thought I'd share...
2006-11-28 23:58:24 · answer #2 · answered by nirvana 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Anything further than kissing on the cheek is either intention to start dating (such as full-on kissing) or actually starting dating (anything further than kissing). Make your mind up about this guy, and either go for a relationship, or stop being a nasty tease and let him go, so he can have a healthy relationship elsewhere. You are being cruel to him.
2006-11-28 23:55:35 · answer #3 · answered by cuddles_gb 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have every right not to if your not together. I would say to him your not going to sleep with him unless he commits to you and become a couple... and then when you feel comfortable within the relationship then take it further. But, you saying he might make you feel like a nothing notch on the bed is he the sort of bloke you want to be with???? Good luck take it at your pace Hun xxx
2006-11-29 00:05:27 · answer #4 · answered by sparkling Princess 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you know, guys really think that they are really a man if they have many girls around him. on your case, the "far enough" is really considered you and the guy arent dating. its like you have just have enough. well, your planning from going to a higher level than kissing. well, you might wanna first show it to him or date him first.
2006-11-28 23:58:04 · answer #5 · answered by My_Girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don' t sleep with him unless you do date...why give him cake to eat as well ( you're the cake) Keep teasing him and set your boundaries.....alternatively you could shag his brains out and tell him YOU used him for sex...maybe that's what he needs
2006-11-28 23:57:03 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want him to be your man tell him. Tell him you don't want to be his sex buddy so its all or nothing. He isn't dating you becuz the two of you aren't sexually intimate with each other. Now, decide if you want him or not..
2006-11-28 23:57:54 · answer #7 · answered by Virgo Fa Sho!! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah def! wait until he asks you out then make him wait another month so you know its for real.
2006-11-28 23:56:16 · answer #8 · answered by BLONDESHELL 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋