My bf age 50 does not want sex, he tells it is not me, But i think it is, or he is getting it someother place. What can i do????
2006-11-28 23:09:30 · 17 answers · asked by deedee40_99 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
u really need to say how old u r tooo...and why would he be turned off by u...u seem nice enough and can spell etc...(-:
too broad to answer...he may or may not be...most shadows are o our own making...so ask him flat out and save yourself the heartache...
2006-11-28 23:14:03 · answer #1 · answered by 67ImpalaSS 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
It could just be his age, or his current situation. What else is going on in his life? Is he worried about anything? If it goes on a long time, insist he sees the doctor, because it's unusual for a man of that age to not be interested in sex at all. I don't think he's getting it elsewhere - they say the more sex you have the more you want, so he would still want it with you. It could be a physical problem, or it could be that having turned 50, maybe he "feels old" and needs reassuring that he's still attractive.
If that's the case, tell him a lot of women much prefer men of his age. If I were single, I would happily date a man in his 50s, whereas I wouldn't date a man in his 20s (too much like cradle-snatching!)
Good luck. I'm sure you'll be able to sort it out.
2006-11-29 07:16:01 · answer #2 · answered by Specsy 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Have you had sex before? Maybe he just wants to take his time. Sometimes sex can complicate relationships. People think that after they have sex, they feel obligated to stay in that relationship. If he wants a committed relationship, he will eventually have sex with you. If he's unsure about the relationship, you may have to wait. Another reason might be Erectile Dysfunction. ED affects a lot of men and it can be very embarrassing if he feels like he can't perform. Talk to him about it in a kind and gentle way, and if this is a problem, see his doctor. There are meds out there that can help him.
2006-11-29 07:20:21 · answer #3 · answered by leigh 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
There are many options.
First off, if you really respect him and love him, discuss with him what is going on. Does he have Erectile Dysfunction? Is he on high blood pressure meds or on blood thinners? He *may* allow you to have a 'buddy' with which you only have a physical relationship with and nothing else. This may not go over well but I know of someone who is in the same situation and her husband lets her go out and have a physical relationship with others. You can also buy a toy or two and he can help you with it, or you can do it on your own.
another option is to leave him. If you are not that into him or if sex is really important to you, then maybe just be friends with him. Don't burn any bridges.
Also, is he completely straight or is he 'curious' about experimenting with things? This is where communication really helps out.
Good luck to you and hope things work out for you.
2006-11-29 07:15:04 · answer #4 · answered by Jennifer L 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
have you been keeping the Coochie clean and trim, and what are you expecting from him?
he could be sleeping with another woman, but he just might not be interested in sex.
Age gives you issues, and has he been married before?
if so that could be it.
he could just be embarrased about his looks.
And he might not be too good in the sack.
But i wanna get one thing straight.
DO NOT give him BJ's, or hand jobs, or sex unless he is giving you yours first.
Sex is pointless unless you get off too.
Older guys have issues there, and you should discuss it with him.
2006-11-29 07:15:01 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
He is probably taking some medicines that's why his libido is down or there are other factors why he doesn't want. One probable reason is stree. Make him feel that he is love and everything is and will be alright.
2006-11-29 07:20:36 · answer #6 · answered by my 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Probe, ask him why and have him open up why he doesnt want to have sex?
Ask him if there is something wrong with you that make him not want sex
Try to extract the answers from him
2006-11-29 07:12:44 · answer #7 · answered by meaurge 2 · 3⤊ 1⤋
50 yrs of age, i don't think if his pet is stronger as what you think. since you are too young, he might feel insecurity from you attaing all the time you need.
2006-11-29 07:16:17 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
50 years old? He's probably either too tired or he's losing his sexual prowess. You two should see a doctor.
2006-11-29 07:12:20 · answer #9 · answered by Low Key 6 · 2⤊ 2⤋
If you want to be in a sexless relationship then stay...if you want more out of life...like love, honesty, sex.....move on...good luck
2006-11-29 07:11:50 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋