my parents are divorced and are both remarried and now my mother got pregnant and i am the only child and can't seem to cope with this new "baby'
2006-11-28 22:57:07 · 15 answers · asked by Lizzy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Instead of fighting the newcomer, make yourself indispensable. Help your mother look after the baby, and try to talk to your mom about roles in your new family. The baby is innocent, don't take out your resentment on your new sibling! Good luck!
2006-11-28 23:01:18 · answer #1 · answered by prairiegurrl 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Take a deep breath and try to think differently. You certainly can't change anything by refusing to accept the situation. Your parents are both now happy, and your mother will need your help and support. As for the new baby, think how much it will love you. There'll be this little person counting the minutes until you get home from school, unable to imagine wanting to be anything other than just like Lizzy.
Your attitude now will shape your future and can avoid creating unnecessary problems for your family. Be positive about the whole situation. Will your mother let you go with her for scans and so on? There are so many ways you can help her, and in helping her, you will grow as a person.
This being a difficult time for your mother, perhaps you will also choose to spend more time with your father and his new wife, at times when you really do need a break from your mum and the new baby.
Don't give way to feelings of jealousy. You are at a stage in your life when you have so much opportunity, and the best years of your life are still ahead of you.
2006-11-28 23:06:46 · answer #2 · answered by Specsy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're not really giving the full facts when you ask this question. I've looked at your profile and the question you answered and you say you are 17 and have a child yourself.
That changes the dynamic of the situation quite radically. If you are concerned that your mother won't be able to support you and your child if she has one of her own then perhaps you should talk to her and to your step-father about how you are all - as a family - going to cope with another addition.
It could be great - it will be nice for your baby to have a playmate.
2006-11-28 23:41:03 · answer #3 · answered by Skidoo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Right now it seems kind of tough because you have always been the only one. After the new baby gets here and you see it, it will change your heart in a lot of ways. Even though you have different fathers doesn't really matter. You will find yourself falling in love with the baby. I have two children and my husband has six children. My two live with us and two of his live with us, but they all get along like most brothers and sisters do. They all love and care for each other even though some have a different mother and some have a different dad. It might be tough in the beginning because babies take alot of work, but hang in there, the attention the new baby gets will eventually even out. Try to be helpful with the baby and your mom will gratefully appreciate it. Good luck, Sweetie.
2006-11-28 23:10:57 · answer #4 · answered by leigh 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Love this child. You're parents won't always be here but you and your new sibling can be there for each other.
You can go one of two ways, you can either love this child and it will love you in return. Or, you can despise this child and it in return will despise you. I would chose the first option, think of all the fun you'll have with this little brother or sister.
The glass is half full not half empty. Also, having this child around will give you something to focus on other than your mom and her new husband.
2006-11-28 23:04:50 · answer #5 · answered by shortimer 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you don't have much of a choice...it's not your life or your body. It's your Mother's and if she is happy then you need to stop acting like a spoiled baby and be happy for her or at least act happy around her because she doesn't need the added stress of you during her pregancy.
Yes you probably be asked to babysit, yes you'll probably be asked to change a stinky diaper (and they will STINK) but the more support you can show your mother the better your relationship with your mother will be in the long run. Your not being replaced.
Besides little brother and sisters are fun when they get a little bigger and they get in the cute stage...they are great for picking up dates. (My brother uses my kids for this) and they make great little slaves (I used to make my brother clean the house when I was told to do it)
2006-11-28 23:04:21 · answer #6 · answered by serephinadragon 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i do not realize the question... you've been the in straight forward words baby and better than in all likelihood you're purely having emotions of pressure because you take advantage of to have your mom's one hundred% undevided interest and now you may want to percentage her... no longer purely with a sparkling step-figure yet NOW you're nerve-racking about her love for the baby besides. do not worry the hot baby received't take over and replace your mom's love for you. mom's are very able to loving a great number of children... if you're having very a lot of issues emotionally out of your new project it would want to be sturdy to consult mom NOW and enable her positioned all of your fears to relax! I truly have 4 little ones (3 boys, a million lady) and that i'm remarried now and pregnant with baby #5. will i love any of my older childrens a lot less? NO I received't. i'm very conscious that my 7 12 months previous daughter (the youngest) is having some pressure about dropping her "spot" in the relations. I truly have instructed her many times that she will be able to continuously be mommy's infant lady (we are having a boy)... yet i'll inform she's no longer confident thoroughly... this signifies that i will might want to be tremendous mom for a at the same time as. i will might want to spend even better time with my daughter after the beginning of this baby to teach that my love for her isn't any a lot less. refer on your mom. she needs to carry close the way you experience. CONGRATS on your first actual sibling! enable this be a thrilling time for you.
2016-10-07 23:01:04 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That doesn't mean your mother will love you less....You will always be the "first" child...Try to accept the fact that your going to have a precious little brother or sister. My son felt the same way when his half sister was born...But now you can't keep them apart...Their always there for each other....
2006-11-28 23:07:23 · answer #8 · answered by Sunshine 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
there's only one thing you can do. get over yourself and deal with it because that baby is coming whether you like it or not. you love your mother right? you want her to be happy right? your mom isn't going to love you any less. having a brother/sister is a blessing. that baby will look up to you. you're going to be that baby's first hero. in a way, you're going to be the third parent. be thankful.
2006-11-28 23:07:02 · answer #9 · answered by WreckinShop 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is a bummer when your parents go off and start over their life's and you are left out in the cold like old meat. Your parents are selfish. Nothing you can do about that it was your rotten luck to get stuck with such people. Don't get stuck being a babysitter to moms new kid. I would move in with my dad and let mom live in her fantasy world of starting over. Hopefully you will soon be going away to collage and can live your own life with minimal contact.
2006-11-28 23:53:25 · answer #10 · answered by lily 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋