Why is that people think that suicide is a act of selfishness when they have know clue of what that person may

Question

People have know clue of wat a person is facing in there life to want to commit suicide. How do we know that we may not be able to relate to them?

Answer 1

I have been surrounded by suicide over the past few years. As MASH (not that the song was created around MASH, but still MASH made it popular) says: "Suicide is Painless", but only for the one doing the act. Everyone around that person is affected as myself and many people around me have been. Now that could be "selfish" on my part to be thinking of myself and not the person who was suffering, but that's all I can do when they are no longer here.

If I was the one on the other side of the fence, I always wonder why I wouldn't be thinking "well if I have nothing to lose, I may as well live life as if I have nothing to lose and just do whatever I want to do." I have never been able to completely put myself in any of my friend's situations, though. It is not mine or anyone else's right to judge the person who is so depressed that they feel they are doing themselves and the world right by removing themselves from the situation, but the "selfishness" might come in not thinking about anyone except yourself at the time that you are going to take your life.

If there is someone saying that it was "selfish" to take your life after you have done it, then there is someone who cared enough for you that you had reason to stay alive. Think about that before even THINKING of taking your life.

Answer 2

Most people can not relate...There is a zone people go to that unless you have been there you wouldn't understand. I was in an accident and paralyzed on the right side and in pain that you could never in your life understand...Everything i did was a task and i hated everything and everyone around me. Three days i stayed in my room staring at the closet where my gun was...Thankfully it was a rifle and i had no way to pull the trigger. I'm also thankful i found it somewhere in me to tell my mother what i had planned, i shouldn't have told her while we were driving tho. Every gun in the house was removed....I do have most of the use on that side now, but the pain will never go away and now you could say pain is normal for me, people who have what i have normally end up killing themselves.
Working as a firefighter i have seen plenty of suicides...One that sticks in my head is a 12 year boy, he was suspended from school because he had a little pocket knife...He shot himself in the head, in the master bathroom with a 22 rifle...We knew it was pointless, but worked on him for the sake of his parents...There had to be more to the story then what we got...Why kill yourself for something that minor???
But to end this babbling, i feel that there are some cases where people are better off ending it and those like the little boy who suicide was pointless. But if you could see the families after one of these, the sadness words can not describe it....

Answer 3

Because people who have never are would never have a thought of suicide have never been in that suicidal persons shoes/place to know how they feel deep inside
Often the people closest to them are the ones who have hurt them (that is a feeling you can't imagine)
Some feel is a way to save themselves to get free from the hell in which they feel no way out
People who feel that is an act of selfisness are the ones who are selfish and blind not to have seen how this person was feeling You just dont wake up one day and go "Hey I'm going to kill myself today" there is a period of time before they do it.

Answer 4

a lot of people are ignorant to mental illness, so without the intelligece they mock it, i also believe there is a lack of understanding that some thing small ind insignificat to one person may be very disstressing and harmfull to another, people also over look the fact that some suicidal people my feel guilty for anothers suffering and see that removing them selves would protect and be positive for that other person, also in such a state of mine it is hard to rationalise and some times people just want to end the pain and see no other option, people who judge are possibly not open minded, blinded by there own society or just uneducated in the area, the list goes on but look at it this way if youve bin there and come through it or are trying to the you are the wiser and the stronger.

Answer 5

I did think that suicide was selfish till my sister in law committed suicide. The reason she did is her first baby died of SIDS at 2 months old. Then right after that her fiancee broke off the wedding at left her to morn over there baby by her self. She was out of her mind & after what would of been her babies first birthday she killed her self. I don't think she was being selfish. Honestly I don't even think she knew what she was doing she could not even understand anything that was going on around her on a daily baces.

Answer 6

It takes 10 months of hard work for a mother to rear a child. There may be ups and downs in life. How good a human being are you when you cannot stand bad times. That's cowardliness and of course selfishness. When a person is deprived of happiness that does not mean that you leave the other alone and commit this act. Stick together and solve it out.

Answer 7

You are the Creator of your own world. If you do not like what is happening in your life make some new decisions.
If you knew what happen after you commit sucide then you would never consider it.
There is no such thing as death! You are 'consciousness' not your body. If you think it is difficult on this side just wait tell you get to the other side.
Think in these terms.... "jumping out of the frying pan into the fire".

Answer 8

Ignorance of Mental Health Issues and Life.

You are absolutely correct. Many People have no idea of the feelings of a person contemplating taking their own life.

When people have no options and the stresses in their life are too great for them to handle, they can decide to take their own life.

Many times, all we need is a helping hand....someone to confide in and someone to listen with out judgment.

Should a person feel that desperate, feel that alone...They need to seek an understanding person who can help them cope for the short term.

The long term involves Professional help and possible medication
to stabilize the situation.

A human life is impotent....Life is worth saving at all costs.

So, we are here to help and to understand. We are here to insure that you have a friend...Some one that you can Trust.

Reach out for that help...You will be surprised at how many people will help you.

God Bless.

Answer 9

I dont think sucicde is a act of selfishness it can sometimes be the ultimate act of kindness as sometimes life is too hard with that person around!
I think people claim it is selfish cos they are left behind and its really hard
I dont think anyone really goes into suicide without a lot of issue

Answer 10

Because of the devastation to the family who often had no idea there was a problem. Many suicides hide their problems leaving the family devastated, angry, confused and mourning for a long , long time and who often need therapy as a result to deal with feelings of guilt, helplessness and believe they could have fixed it if they knew.