How is the wedding night traditionally consummated in Isalm?

Answer 1

It is disliked to:


Face the qibla. (Ibn `Abidin)
Be in the presence of a mature child. (Ibn `Abidin)
Talk, for it is from the sunna not to talk excessively during intercourse. (Ibn `Abidin)

It is proper to cover up a Qur’an in the bedroom. (Ibn `Abidin)

It is best to avoid looking at each other’s private parts, though some Companions held that it is fine because it increases desire. (Durar)

Ibn al-Hajj al-Maliki mentioned in al-Madkhal:


The beginning of the night is better…
One must avoid intercourse with one’s wife before any foreplay, because it has been interdicted. Rather, one should play around with her and jest with kisses, touches and the like. Then, one sees that she is ready, prepared, and desirous of him, only then should he initiate intercourse. The wisdom of the Lawgiver in this is evident, for the woman derives pleasure as a man does. If he approaches her while she is unprepared, he may fulfill his need, but she may not, and would feel frustrated…
Before penetration, one should say, Bismillah Allahumma Jannibna al-Shaytan, wa Jannib ish-Shaytanu ma Razaqtana, as has been authentically reported in the sunna…
One should be careful to fulfill the rights of the wife with regards to intercourse, and to safeguard her religion. One should fulfill oneself [=orgasm] after she has achieved fulfillment, to be under the general rubric of the Prophet’s saying (Allah bless him and give him peace), “Allah is in the assistance of a servant as long as he is in the assistance of his fellow.”
One should not have intercourse without covers…
It is best to perform ghusl before sleeping after intercourse. Or, at least to do wudu and wash the private parts. [f: One should not, at the very least, leave washing the private parts.]

These are general guidelines. Ruqayya Waris Maqsood’s book on marriage goes into some detail on the subject, as does Imam al-Ghazali’s work.

Anal sex is, of course haram.

Mutual hand stimulation is permitted.

Sexual fluids are najis, so oral sex is detested.

During mentruation (hayd), intercourse is haram. So is direct skin contact between the wife’s navel and knee. Everything else, however, remains permitted.

And Allah knows best.

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Answer 3

Amu Abdal has covered the matter in detail. Just one thing to add, in certain countries and in the more rural areas of others it is tradition to hang the wedding night bedsheet from the bedroom window (the couple ususally stay with one of the sets of parents) to prove by the blood stain that the bride was a virgin and the marriage has been successfully consumated.

Answer 4

Muslim jurists are of the view that on their first time together on the wedding night a Muslim groom is recommended to place his hand on the bride’s forehead and seek Allah’s blessing for them both. This is based on the hadith of the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) that reads: “When one of you marries a woman or buys a servant (this was before the abolition of slavery), let him say ‘O Allah! I seek from You her good and the good You created in her; and I seek refuge in You from her evil and the evil You created in her.’”

It is also a Sunnah to offer two rak`ahs (prayer units) in which the husband leads his wife. This is a sign of showing obedience and submission to Allah when they are still on the threshold of their new family life. Also, a husband is recommended to offer his wife something to drink after having some sips of the same glass. On making love to his wife for the first time, a Muslim husband should say: “O Allah! Keep Satan away from us and keep him away from any offspring You may bless us with.”

Answer 5

Well in actual Muslim countries most of the marriages are arranged,with girls with no knowledge of sex being married of to men older than they and more prepared for a sexual relationship. So I would say that the first night for many Muslim women is more of a rape than consumation.

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Answer 6

Usually you would do it because you want to be close to the man/woman you just married. Because you love them and you just committed the rest of your life to them. Legally though you aren't 'married' until you consummate your marriage

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Answer 7

Mmmmmm...Muslim Jurists deciding what people should do on their wedding night - lovely. OK, time to get out of the dark ages.

Answer 8

Never been marries to a Muslim but plenty of sex I should think.
Does every Muslim go through the religious mumbo jumbo?
I do not think so.

Answer 9

weird question!!! the same as any couple apart from the fact that non muslims have already consummated it outside marriage.

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