Why do I always think that all the worst thing in life will happen to me?

Question

I always think that my mum is going to die and that my dad will get married again. My brother will be killed in accident. And that i'll be left alone. Thinking about all these make me feel sad and depressed. I dont know what to do. Today I spent my whole day thinking about those things and crying. I dont know why those thoughts keep on coming to my mind. Am I really afraid of my future?

Mum and dad got divorced after 3 years of mariage.

Answer 1

I agree with other, I'm the same, a natural pessimist.
Whenever u have a negative thought about urself or the future, imediately replace it with a positive tought.. eg. if u think I'll never have a good career, I'll never ne anything, say 2 urself, I'll have a wonderful career & be successful.
I highly recommend Louise L. Hay books; they have helped me a lot. You Can heal Your Life or I Can Do It are my favourites. She aslo has a radio show online with well known authors giving advice & inspiration 2 callers, this is the link if u r interested:

http://www.hayhouseradio.com/

much luv
KK

Answer 2

i gather that you are a teenager from your previous questions. Most teengagers get miserable. You think too much and this negagtive attutide will take you over if you dont control it soon. I dont want to sound harsh, but people dont like being around moody/miserable people - its human nature, so try to lighten up otherwise you may start losing friends-that will make you feel worse. Try to get involved in sports/clubs/hobbies - do things for other people. It is healthy to cry sometimes. Maybe you get PMS which can make some women quite teary and emotional and down. Try to push away any fearful thoughts that you have. Listen to happy music - avoid angry or melancholic music. Do something positive everyday, join aerobics classes with a friend or something. After all these changes you might not feel so affraid of your future. Good luck.

Answer 3

Your obviously suffering from depression darling.

Have a word about the way you feel with your mum, and get her to take you to the doctor. He may be able to subscribe some tablets to make you feel better.

Your only young and should be enjoying your life not thinking about the worse things that could happen to you in it.

Be brave, as I say have a word with mum, she loves you and will want to help you.

However, if your closer to dad, which some girls are (I pressume you are a girl,by what you have written) talk to him, just because you live apart,doesn't always mean that he cares any less for you,the love he has for you is very different than the love he once had for your mum.

God bless and good luck.

Answer 4

Perhaps that is because something in your life did happen. And you were traumatized by that event. Like your parents divorce. You are depressed. Seek a Dr. of psychology or psychiatry after you book an appointment with your medical physician. He or she will take care of you. Do tests that need to be done. And will give you either a referral to the former and or give you an antidepressant.

Answer 5

It can be very scary. Perhaps you view the world to be a hostile place. I can imagine how you feel.

You also must be a person who doesn't like to take risks. You need to have faith in both the good as well as the bad. The world is what it is. It isn't out to get you (Though it may seem that way). And above all, you are not powerless. You have the power to do many things always remember that.

Answer 6

Pretty similar like my case, girl. I used to be that way, where I am at the point of feeling insecure of everything. I wasn't loved by my parents before so I think that is the main root of my insecurity in me.
I used to get depress and unhappy very often and still sometimes now. I used to think that I might not be loved forever and I might suffer for loneliness all my life without any love.
But I think you should just have to believe that those feelings inside you are just yours, which in reality is not true at all. I, myself, don't completely understand why I could be thinking like that. Is that something in the air that makes me think so? I dunno. I just rebel against all odds, girl. That's what I do and hopefully you can surpass your depress feeling like I've been working on it now. :)

Answer 7

It is quite natural. If you can look at your thoughts and see the connections to behaviour, then perhaps read somemore about cognitive behaviour approaches. Lots of material on the web for self help. Join a group or make a plan to see a counsellor or CBT therapist. It will help.

Answer 8

You may be depressed and making yourself worse by all your worry
You can try your basic deep breathing to relax (wont happen over night) maybe take a yoga class to clear your mind also.
You seem young by your question
Talk to you family about how you feel let them know your are scared
I remember at one time when I was young feeling the same now I'm the mom and worry about my child.
Remember there is no over night cure you wont wake up tomorrow and not be thinking takes a little time to learn to relax yourself get to know your body deep inside. If this doesn't help see a therapist to help I had to Give it time you will feel better (easy for me to say I know)

Answer 9

If these thoughts only started after the separation of your parents then it sounds to me like you just haven't been able to cope with their split, it's a very difficult thing to go through and you should speak to a therapist about it so they can walk you through the steps of grieving. If you let your situation go on it can develop into a life long struggle where you will worry about pretty much everything.

Answer 10

That's the amount of confidence you exhibited on your parents and brother. I don't know how old you are but I certainly know that how many ever years you have spent with your family, you certainly have not tried to understand them. Your dad cannot marry another woman. Your brother will live long and so will your mother. May be you should get along with them understand them better and pend as much time. This will eliminate all your negative thoughts. Get together as a family and life would be golden.