almost a year ago, i met this man... at first, i don't really like him! but he did everthing to show me that he really love me!!! and then the feeling is mutual, i fell inlove with him! but before that, he confess to me that he has a son to a separated woman! we live together, and then right now im pregnant!!! we're planning to get married... but the problem is, the mother of his son is giving us a problem!!! she was telling my bf that he will never see his son if he will going to marry me! and she is always calling and txting my bf... im afraid that he will change his mind because of this!!! i don't know what to do!!! i feel so jealous when they are talking and txting my bf that she love him so much and that she will die if he will going to leave her!!!! i don't know what to do!!! i don't know how to work it out....and how to overcome this!!!
2006-11-28 22:24:44 · 15 answers · asked by she 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
How can he leave her if he isn't even with her? Sounds like she is very threatened by you and your new child and besides using guilt trips on him she using the kid like a weapon (hate parents like that).Remind him fathers have equal rights these days and there is always family law court that will give him visiting rights for sure even bad parents get that.My brother represented himself after his money ran out and he now has full time custody.
Besides all that she is trying to rattle your cage don't fall for it don't argue with him or harm your baby by stressing yourself out over her, otherwise she wins.
However remind him to be a bit sensitive to your feelings as well I wouldn't like women ringing my old man all the time declaring their undying love why doesn't he just not hear that phone every time she calls love him don't react like a mad women be strong and you will be OK. Good luck.
2006-11-28 22:46:09 · answer #1 · answered by deb m 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ignore her don't let her get to you. She is jealous because you are pregnant for him and that she will no longer be the only one with his child. Don't let her mess up your relationship. He made up his mind a long time ago to move on before he met you, so what makes you think that now that he is in love with you he will change his mind. If she threatens him with the child all he has to do is seek legal advice. Once he can prove the child is his she cannot stop him. Trust me you have nothing to fear, also this is a great chance for you to show your man that you trust him and he will love you more. Just be calm
2006-11-28 22:55:13 · answer #2 · answered by Ans 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
hmmm, your case sounds a lil familiar with my friends. Listen, if you really love him and he loves you, marry him. You two will outcome any problems together if you love each other. About his ex, she is just saying that, that way you two won't get married and she can have her way with your bf. Sounds to me like she wants to get back with him. Don't let her win girl, fight for your man. As time goes by she will eventually give up and realize you two are not giving up on each other and the son will probably beg her to let him see his father. There will be alot of problems you will face, but both of you remain strong, and you will fix anything together. Put God in all your plans and you will see the right path. Good luck :)
2006-11-28 22:49:44 · answer #3 · answered by Betsy M 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Firstly, you got yourself in quite a complicated relationship. You need to do a lot of ACCEPTING in this case. Accept that he has another child from another woman. Accept that this other woman loves your man. Accept whatever decision your man makes - whether to marry you or not. Now, if you can't accept any of those, you better get out of the relationship. Jealousy would be bad for your unborn child. It's best you talk with your bf and know what his plans are, so you can make yours.
2006-11-28 22:34:02 · answer #4 · answered by Cindy M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think this has to be something your husband has to solve and he must do so before any wedding plans are made. It sounds like shes not over him and he must make sure that it is. or you will always have problems with her. if she is thinking of taking away his wrights to see his kid the the court is there for that. you have nothing to do with this, stay out of it let your husband take care of it, and if his not man enough then maybe its not a good idea to get married write now.Good luck
2006-11-28 22:34:17 · answer #5 · answered by Lara <:(((>< 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, once you get married, you can take your Bf and his ex to court to discuss parental visits, and then move on with your life with him. And don't be jealous if you have the man.
2006-11-28 22:28:47 · answer #6 · answered by Daggy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this guy is an idiot, he leaves his wife, then has the nerve to convince you to like him, then impregnates you, and is know flirting with his ex who is making death threats
screw the ex wife, get married to the guy and move far away. as if she would kill herself shes only saying that to stop u too getting married she obviously still has feelings for ur bf.
u need to get them to stop contacting each other. As for his son, he can get visitation rights from court.
goodluck hun
2006-11-28 22:31:59 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your mom or a family member. I would dumb him for not telling you sooner, and also just remember she will always be in the relationship because him and her also have a kid. It is not right to raise your child in a drama filled home.
2006-11-28 22:30:03 · answer #8 · answered by serena3116 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
His ex cant accept that he is moving on having a baby, so she is emotionally blackmailing him. He needs to tell her to stop bothering him and accept that hes met someone else,
Maybe he knows one of his exs friends or family to have a word with her
2006-11-28 22:37:08 · answer #9 · answered by timmie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just remember to take care of yourself and your lil one inside you.
As for your b/f,there is a reason why he left her,and don`t worry, if he`s smart he will see right through her.
Most good men always do..
Take care sweety,,,,*HUGS*
2006-11-28 22:30:09 · answer #10 · answered by sunflower2052002 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋