Im a Sophomore in college and I am at rock bottom. Im strugglin to make decent grades and my boyfriend who provided the most emotional support was murdered last year, and then I find out he was cheating on me. I work a lame fast food job and my managers and assigning work from other ppl to me.I have horrible self centered 'friends', who I'm slowly removing from my life. I go 2 my dorm room for privacy but I never get any cuz my roommates is always here, she is so annoying she sits in the room all day and not say anything.Winter break is coming up and my parents threw away all my clothes,shoes books cuz they need to make room and they were hoping I wasn't coming home. So Im trying to find somewhere to stay for the break with 400 dollars.I'm 19 and can't drive. There is not a single person I can name who is cares about my well being. I'm running on empty please please offer encouraging words threw this difficult time. No one deserves this life.
2006-11-28 22:16:26 · 17 answers · asked by Gifted and Gracious 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
It will all work out in the end just hang in there. Get yourself another job. Working in fast food if you are not the manager is a job for high school dropouts, not a college student. Try to find one doing something in the field you are studying at school and make friends at work. You will have more in common with them then those at the fast food place, after all that is the field you are studying and plan to go into. A lot of children think their parents don’t love them and sometimes it is true and sometimes it isn’t, after all you did not come with a set of instructions when you were born. You may just be going through a self-pity phase that will soon pass. A good way that will make you feel good about yourself is in helping others, like volunteering at a shelter serving food for the homeless. It makes you aware of how much you really have compared to others. Also try turning to the Lord in prayer and by reading the scriptures for the help you are seeking, he is waiting with his arms stretched out wanting to help you but will never force himself on you, you must ask for his help. May the Lord bless you with the righteous desires of your heart.▲
2006-11-30 19:11:35 · answer #1 · answered by # one 6 · 4⤊ 1⤋
Trust me, it gets better. My 20's were the worst time in my life! I had no money, no job and no love-life. Now i have all of those things. One thing that was really good that you wrote was how you are slowing removing those "friends" who really arent friends. Thats a great step! Removing the clutter from your life.
Maybe you can join some clubs at school to make new friends.
As far as your room-mate goes, i never lived in a dorm so i dont know, but can you switch rooms and get a new roommate?
As far as your parents go, if they were really hoping you werent coming home, then i wouldnt go see them!
Christmas's come and go, there will be better ones for you. Not everyones Christmas is great every year.
Maybe take some time and do some stuff for you, like buy some facials or a new makeup kit. or something tasty and special to eat like a steak dinner.
Oh, and your job...trust me, i worked in fast food so i know how you feel. If you hate it like i did, im sure you can find another type of job, maybe in a clothes store or a book store or something that wouldnt be as tedious and greasy!
2006-11-29 06:30:59 · answer #2 · answered by EAT! 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry about your boyfriend and then everything else on top of that. It sounds like everyhting is just so overwhelming right now that there's no way to even see that things might not be as bleak as they feel. Without sounding to Pollyanna, really look at the positives, yes it's a lame job, but you're making money and I've got to say that the only thing worse than what you're going through is going through it with NO money!. You have a roof over your head, you have some cash to take a break when Christmas comes around. Sit down withyour roomate and tell her she needs to take a couple hours away from the dorm every other day, that you're in dire need of having your own space and it's only fair. Please update to let us know where you're going to school (just the area, not the school,) so maybe we'd have ideas for break on where you could go. Is your roomate going to be in the dorm for the holidays? If not maybe, you could see who else is staying behind and you could do like an "orphan's" Christmas. I did that my first X-mas away from home and it was a blast! We got the Charlie Brown tree and there was 5 of us and we ordered Chinese food to be delivered and rented movies. Then on Christmas, we went to the movies and the day after we got manicures and pedicures as our present to ourselves. It was a while ago, but it was great!
2006-11-29 06:29:23 · answer #3 · answered by Sidoney 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I did seven years in prison, and not one of those days did I hang my head, "I can't go on like this..." You need to accept responsibility for your own actions and once you've acknowledged that fact of yourself, you will be surprised how much faster you tackle all obstacles in life without hestitation
P.S. your parents weren't "hoping". They just didn't anticipate your return. Just don't bottle up your frustrations in you-not healthy at all. I feel for you. I wish I had an answer. Maybe you already have the answer, more or less, but you still feel the need to vent. Walk outside late at night and just scream out loud so as to wake everyone up. Do something a tad bit against the rules (not criminally) and you might feel better. Take a big giant hit of a joint and then lie down to sleep...
Turn every negative into a positive, and everything will always work out in the end...
"If you have problems that can be solved, then don't worry. If you have problems that cannot be solved, then why worry?" Jack 2006
2006-11-29 06:21:17 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I could tell you a scary story that would make yours seem like a walk in the park, but it would lose impact in the translation, so I won't. I will only say that you have relied too long on the actions of others to bring you happiness and now you find yourself all alone without a pot to pizz in nor a window to throw it out of. Get used to it, you'll be working without a net for the rest of your life!
Your boyfriend's life seemed to be worth less to you than the fact that he might have had sex with another woman, then it was somehow redeeming to you that he lost his life...do you really see a corellation??? Get yourself together, chick. There are going to be good times and correspondingly bad times in your life; and because you have so much fun during the good ones, you must neceassarily withstand the bad times...it's called "karma". You won't get any more raw deals than the next person; and what doesn't kill you makes you stronger. If you need someone to talk to, send me a message with your email address, I'll be straight with you. Stay up!
2006-11-29 06:27:52 · answer #5 · answered by wetdreamdiver 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay focused on what your in school for, to get an education and find a successful career. Stay focused on getting good grades. The job is only temporary after you graduate you can quit. Maybe try to find a different job. Maybe you can find a different dorm room. Your parents shouldn't have done that to you, thats really mean. When you graduate and find a good job you can tell all the people who have hurt you to F** off. Stick with, don't give up. Don't be afraid to get counseling if you need it, there's nothing wrong with asking for help.
Good luck to you, I hope things work out ok.
2006-11-29 06:32:50 · answer #6 · answered by Rocky 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
what you need is to take a step back a nd re-evaluate. look for the good things. if you dwell on the negative, life will be nagative. if you focus on the positive, things will quickly start looking up.
dont give up, dont do anything irreversable or permanent. take life one day at a time and be patient. everyone goes through hard times. its what you do with the experiences that matters.
also, try to find a friend that isnt self centered and would be willing to let you vent to them. people can be your best source of frustration relief.
just keep a chin up and try to illeviate some of the negative things in your life, like your job. if you dont like it you wont be happy. find something that makes you at least a little happy.
oh yeah, smile. takes less muscles and makes you feel better. dance naked to your favortie song, or go for a long walk and dont think, just observe the things you see around you. feel free to discover your true self and leave the self you think you are behind.
2006-11-29 06:23:16 · answer #7 · answered by Jere_Harless 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hey sweetie,
Can you believe they say these are the best years of your life?? I had a lot of drama during my college years too...but I never let anyone know...I think you are very smart for seeking help online ...try not to wear your emotions so much in real life so that others may pick on your vulnerable spots...please also don't go around moping -- that's the best way to get others to stay away from you...know that you need others for support, either emotionally, socially, or even just for homework support. Use them and help them as well. That's how I was able to finish college successfully, although I had a lot of crap too...gluck and keep yo head up! Email me if you need support.
2006-11-29 06:29:42 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I care and so does God that is horrible about your BF and since he is not here to defend himself you can feel free to give him the benefit of the doubt for your peace of mind. check with your school some colleges have a way for students who can't go home or get home to stay in the dorms ask you never know. i am sorry that your parents are not being there at a time when you need them most ask them to think how they would feel if they knew they would never see you again parents make me sick my oldest daughter(she was 28) was murdered last DEC and we argued a lot as she was pretty set in her ways and didn't want to listen when people tried to help her. A life lesson here we argued on Monday, on Tues i got the strongest urge to take her an early Christmas gift we had bought her a new coat i has tosses around about to give to her early or not I put it in the car and around 4:35 pm. her dad and I went by her house my last memory of her was her dancing around in her new coat happy she kissed me said she loved me and i the same. She was shot at 12:39 a.m. Wed morn and died at 1:07 a.m. If not for my going over there my last memory would be of our argument and that would have killed me. Parents should always be there for their kids
You are right to dump your 2 faced friends i detest back stabbers most of all with friends like that who needs enemys? It is 7:09 a.m. here now and i think maybe I can sleep now if you need a friend e-mail me I don't leave my e-mail address up all the time but it will be there tonight I have been through a lot in life and have seen a lot maybe I can help you until you get emotionally back on your feet God bless you honey it will be OK this i pray and I know it shall be answered as I lay down I will say a special prayer for you to my angel daughter to look out for you what state or country are you in so she can hover over you
2006-11-29 07:13:05 · answer #9 · answered by katlady927 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You sound very deppresive dear, but i can tell you that there are more people that suffer more and more and their life is terrible "for the moment". I also had very difficult times but since few months ago my life changed. I couldn't believe it i am so happy...and you know what? Many times i felt that everything is wrong and i am unlucky. Believe me now i think that i was so wrong and that life can change from time to time, everyone has difficulties and still these people are strong and they continue their life as nothing happened. I know a lot of them............Just wait and be patient, believe in God because this is only temporary................You will see and you will he happy again just believe...
2006-11-29 06:28:17 · answer #10 · answered by Sara 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋