My bf abused me in june coz he saw me dancing with another guy. He broke up n told me im a cheap gurl along with abuses . then he stopped contacting me. But after a month he started contacting through text mesgs. Again not very pleasant mesgs. but now on 14th nov he again abused me as he kept asking me through text mesgs if i had gone on a date with another guy. But i kept silent and he again abused me through mesgs tht im a prostitute. He told me he wants to slap me n abuse me . When 2 mesgs were sent by chance to him by me, He abused me n mesgd tht if another mesg i send...he will break my hands n abused me. Why does he abuse me???I replied tht im very much scared of him n to keep away from me . He considers me to be a very cheap gurl whereas i was with my parents when he thought me to be dating with some guy as his friends told him so. He only trusts his friends n they keep telling him im bad. He is silent since 15 days now. WILL SUCH A GUY TRY TO CONTACT OR TEXT MESG ME AGAIN???
2006-11-28 22:11:02 · 20 answers · asked by saikiena 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
hey girl.....change your number and ignore him completely from now on....he is not worth it. don't let him affect your life... if you chose to ignore him, he will get tired and stop pestering or intimidating you... move on!
2006-11-28 22:19:21 · answer #1 · answered by (◕‿◕✿) 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure he will. Weak people like that always come crawling back. He may give it a different front this time and act all nice and tell you he's sorry. It's always a trick. They act nice until you let your guard down (could be days, weeks, months even) but in the end they will start up the abuse cycle again. If I were you I'd block all his IM's and get yourself caller id if you don't have it already. People like this always need a foot in the door, and you can deny them that by ignoring every call, every email and every instant message. You might also want to think about contacting the police, because if he gives up on you, he could just turn it around and do it to someone else. I hope you find a guy who respects you, and treats you well. No one deserves to be abused. Good luck.
2006-11-28 22:19:14 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl, First and foremost you should not allow anyone to hurt you. I hate to hear your story and honestly I dont like the sound of men hurting women, and you claim that he is your boyfriend?! Break up with him for heavens sake. A man who is abusing you physically and emotionally is really immoral.
The best thing that you can do is stop communicating with him if it would be best to change your number so you wont be able to receive those abusive words/text messages do it.
Dancing with somebody is not being cheap nonetheless you are dancing erotically well most probably thats flirting but this depends on the situarion.
I was wondering you still keep up the relationship when it started in June? and you let him repeat it in Nov?
Break up with him and make yourself worthy of the respect. Men are so foolish sometimes (maybe all the times...)
But stand up for your right if you have to report that to Women's Right Violation or whatever do it...
2006-11-28 22:24:18 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie you need to get a restraining order on this guy asap. Once a restraining order is in place if he contacts you it is a violation of a court order and there will be legal repercussions which can include jail time.
There are organizations that assist with this type of abuse, they will help you through the steps of the restraining order. You can look online or call your local police or sheriffs office or womens center to get referred to them. They will have all sorts of other resources to help you, including counseling if you want it.
Go get some help, do it today. I'm speaking from personal experience. Knowing what kind of assistance options are out there will empower you and give you lots of tools to deal with this jerk.
2006-11-29 05:59:51 · answer #4 · answered by heart o' gold 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girlfriend,i know what you are going through coz i have been in your shoes once.You can not be too sure,if he is sane,he will not contact you again but if he is insane...which i think he is,he will contact you again and he can even harm you.My advice to you,keep all his texts,confide in your parents and close friends and if the worst goes to the worst,report the matter to the police and use the text messages as your evidence.lastly,dont ever ever reply any of his messages and just assume you have never met him.wash him out of your memory completely and avoid spending alot of time alone coz that is bound to make you remember him.all the best.
2006-11-28 22:26:23 · answer #5 · answered by cherie baibe! 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's up to you. It takes two for an abusive relationship: the abuser and the one letting the abuser get away with it. Contact the police immediately and report him for stalking. Then get a protection order against him.
2006-11-28 22:16:45 · answer #6 · answered by Liz 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He might....I don't know if you want him to or you don't...I hope you don't because he may just follow through with his threats or worse....If he contacts you again, go to the police and get a restraining order...change your phone number so he can't text you and stay away from his friends....do whatever you can do to avoid contact with the abusive and potentially dangerous person. Good luck
2006-11-28 22:16:51 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need help. Call the police. Get a new number or whatever for your text messaging. You can get a restaining order, whatever it takes. Dont come in any contact with him. Make sure you tell the police!!!
I hope everything goes ok
2006-11-28 22:15:36 · answer #8 · answered by Katie M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He seems like a pervert. If he ever contact you again file a case against him to the police and don't answer him back. but if one day you meet him ,don't make him aware that you are afraid of him coz he will take advantage of you
2006-11-28 22:55:19 · answer #9 · answered by sweety 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know what girl.. you better keep your distance to him... coz he will not make you happy.. in a relationship.. violence is not good.. and honey.. if you already had a boyfriend.. don't dance with another guy coz even I, as a girl will think of bad about you.. but as a friend.. just.. kick his *** and break up with him... he's a loser! remember that,,,
2006-11-28 22:19:20 · answer #10 · answered by vhernice 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no future with such a guy.Dont even think of going back to him.Ignore him completely..change ur number if need be and tell your parents about it.
2006-11-28 22:24:52 · answer #11 · answered by ria 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋