i have been with my man for 3 years and i really love him but the thing is my family thinks hes not the one for me just because of the image and hes from the islands and i live in nz which is not fair at all i have no idea i love dis guy and i think hes the one for me and i also love my family i dont know what to do? if i should do what there telling me to do or i should just love my man even more i have no idea at all
2006-11-28 22:08:39 · 11 answers · asked by lena 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
do your best to explain to your family why you love him and what made you love him so..also try to tell him about your problem because if he really loves you he will also do his best to win your family's approval
2006-11-28 22:13:21 · answer #1 · answered by Samara 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is you decision alone to make, your family can't force you either way. But your family loves you and if they have doubts, I think you should talk seriously to one of them and find out specifically why. If it's just an image thing or some prejudice that they need to get over, then go live happily ever after. But if it's a real sense that this guy isn't good enough for you or that they have a valid concern for whatever reason, then listen and still remaining true to yourself, make your decision. Don't make your choices be "Listen to them or love him even more" It's more like "Hear what they have to say" and see how you feel about that.
2006-11-29 06:17:52 · answer #2 · answered by Sidoney 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Becasue they think they know what's best for you. My advice if it helps is to keep an open mind and listen to what they have to say. Someetimes you don't see what's so obvious because you're in love and too involved. They may or may not have a good point. Think thru what they say and if it is something that you believe to be true or which may matter for you or your future, make your decsion based on that. If not and if you feel they are being petty, follow your heart. You are the one who will live with this decision and with this person so your decision should be about you, no body else, even your family. Hope that helps a little...good luck
2006-11-29 06:17:05 · answer #3 · answered by nirvana 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The mark of maturity and being ready to commit to marriage is knowing when to tell your family, "Thanks for your concern, but this is my life and I am an adult. I make my own choices and will accept my own consequences" and then being able to do that without running back to your family whining when he does something wrong.
2006-11-29 06:14:22 · answer #4 · answered by Teresa 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's a really nice guy,(polite, honest, treats you right, etc.) then you need to talk to your family, -is it the way he looks? looks don't matter, it's all on the inside.(I knew heavy druggies/drug dealers that looked & dressed like they're religious-no tattoos, clean-cut,etc. so people would treat them in respect, & the cops don't bug them) -but I look like I've spent time in prison, I'm a druggie,... etc.-but it's not true. -Anyways, good luck.
2006-11-29 06:27:12 · answer #5 · answered by strange-artist 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my dear,
try to convince ur family because u r not in the position to leave even a single party.
other wise send me ur mother name along with her mother name.
i will try my best.
aliawan2002@yahoo.com
2006-11-29 06:18:24 · answer #6 · answered by ali s 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Generally the family is right. You can't have both.
2006-11-29 06:10:59 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do what your heart tells you. If they are right & he is NOT the one for you then they should still be supportive as you are an adult & it's not their business.
2006-11-29 06:10:40 · answer #8 · answered by Cori 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You family is concerned about you.
2006-11-29 06:10:45 · answer #9 · answered by Dr Dee 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i guess parents always know what's best for a girl.maybe ur parents see him in a different way..love is blind!!
2006-11-29 06:11:18 · answer #10 · answered by fabulous 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋