I'm Just Unhappy...?

Question

Im a Sophomore in college and I am at rock bottom. Im strugglin to make decent grades and my boyfriend who provided the most emotional support was murdered last year, and then I find out he was cheating on me. I work a lame fast food job and my managers and assigning work from other ppl to me.I have horrible self centered 'friends', who I'm slowly removing from my life. I go 2 my dorm room for privacy but I never get any cuz my roommates is always here, she is so annoying she sits in the room all day and not say anything.Winter break is coming up and my parents threw away all my clothes,shoes books cuz they need to make room and they were hoping I wasn't coming home. So Im trying to find somewhere to stay for the break with 400 dollars.I'm 19 and can't drive. There is not a single person I can name who is cares about my well being. I'm running on empty please please offer encouraging words threw this difficult time. No one deserves this life.

Answer 1

Every day look in the mirror and say out loud

I deserve the best in life
I can do whatever I want in life
I can do whatever I want with my life
I will make new friends
I will get a better job because I deserve one and want one
I have much pride in myself

Think of more things that you want to change in your life and add them to the list have at least 10 things on the list that will improve your life and that pertain to you. This really works; many successful people do this every day changing the list as needed. Make a poster of these things and put them in several places that you look at every day like on the bathroom mirror, on your desk, and you might want to put one on your pillow under the bedspread so you can see it right before you go to bed. You can have what you want out of life but you have to make it happen. You are on a good starting path by going to college so stick with it no matter how hard it is. You may have to cut your classes down so you have more time to study each subject. As a college sophomore you can get a better job than at in fast food. If you are in a big town and are fast go for being a waitress in an upscale restaurant, one that serves liquor if possible. You don’t have to be 21 to serve liquor, just to drink it and a good waitress can make about 150 to 250 dollars a day in the appropriate restaurant in the right city. If you can’t do that then get a job doing something in the field that you are studying. New employment can mean new friends. As for your family if they are paying for your education let them, as it will help you throughout your life. After graduating leave them if you want to. You will someday meet a nice young man but be sure to pick one that you like the parents of and that like you back so if you marry they can be your new family. Only hang out with good people who are upstanding citizens meaning only be seen with honest upstanding people as you are judged by the people you are seen with. Good luck with your future, it will work out if you let it, and may the Lord grant you the righteous desires of your heart.▲

Answer 2

Your parents sound horrible. I think that when your boyfriend was killed, you probably should have let school for a semester and went home.,but I guess not to your parents. You have a lot of responsibility on your shoulders to be so young. Do you have older siblings that could help.Do you have a good friend that you have known for a while that you can spend these holidays with. Reach out to your instructors. Get help as soon as possible.For every person you remove from your life, replace that person with another. You cannot isolate at this time. I wish that I had a daughter. I have a son, but I have always wanted a daughter as well. Email me if you like [e-mail]. I care and we can get thru this. There are plenty of people who care but you have to let people that you are physically close to you what your problems are and that you need help. REACH OUT !!!

Answer 3

I hope my input is ok here. Y'all know I wasn't adopted, but I did have a pretty crappy childhood and young adulthood. I was abused in just about every imaginable way. I am a very happy adult, in spite of all that has happened in my life. I don't have to be happy about my childhood circumstances to be a happy adult. I don't have to have "gotten over" the abuse in order to be happy most of the time. I don't have to "forget" about the horrible things that have happened to me to have a positive outlook. I've removed some people from my life who hurt me, and I work every day on improving my life, my outlook, my disposition, and my service to others. I've also known (personally and professionally) many, many people who have had horrible lives (adoptees and non-adoptees), and generally speaking, they were ALL happy people, who had bad days now and then. Much like normal people in fact, lol. I recall this girl I worked with who was abandoned by her AP's while in a residential treatment facility. She was a great kid, she had the most awesome personality, and for the most part, she was happy. Of course, it hurt her to her very core that she was being abandoned for a second time...but she was wise beyond her years, and she knew it wasn't about her.

Answer 4

I promise you someone does. No one knows what you are going through, but you. Do something that makes you happu, even if it's just for a day. Just remember, it won't be like this forever. Maybe apply for a different job, not fast food. You can meet new friends, new conncection, and maybe earn an extra dollar. I feel kinda like this somethimes, you need to make a small change in your life that way you do not get stuck in a rut. It will all be worth it, if you just stick it out. Don't forget to do something for yourself every once in a while :)

Answer 5

Don't define your life by whether certain people care for you or not. Perhaps you are attracting the wrong people in your life. A positive attitude change and some soul searching can change your life dramatically. Don't sit and wait for someone to come and rescue you. You can do it yourself and the rewards are much greater. I suggest reading "The Power of Intention" or "Inspiration" by Dr. Wayne Dyer. It has helped me greatly and I am much happier now. You can overcome anything. God loves you very much. Good Luck to you.

Answer 6

Every cloud has a silver lining.

On a side-note. Because of your current state of affairs your friends may seen really self-centred but in actual fact everyone had to look out for themselves just a little bitty bit. Try to cut them some slack yea? Maybe they just dont have a way to help you.

Answer 7

Sounds like normal college student stresses. Don't worry I didn't get my license til I was 25. You are never too old to learn. Just be patient. Get the difficult things out the way first. Such as school. Then it will seem easy afterwords. But life is full of surprises it's just how you handle them that controls your happiness.

Answer 8

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Answer 9

Aww hun, so touching ur story is. its a very lonely world,you have lots of worries i see,its ok,sometimes life's like that,we all need a shoulder to lean on.dont let your worries weigh down too much on you. you are young and tomorrow will turn out fine only if you believe.

Answer 10

The sun will come out tomorrow.