We are together over a year and have a romantic wkend planned abroad in 2 wks.We also have a holiday planned for February. I love him and I want to marry him next year. How do I hint this to him? I had a weird relationship before this one, and this one is so right for me.I know I want to marry him, he is a pet. How do I subtly hint this without making him feel under pressure?
2006-11-28 21:39:26 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Does anyone have any good hints on the subject of marriage without actually having to ask straight out?
2006-11-28 21:48:24 · update #1
Maybe I could say this: Do you think our relationship is going in the right direction?
How is that?
2006-11-28 22:08:35 · update #2
"He is a pet"?? What does that mean? Seriously, I've never heard that expression.
If you can't talk openly and honestly about the future of your relationship, then at least one of you isn't ready for a marriage. Communication is a prerequesite.
2006-11-28 21:49:26 · answer #1 · answered by ;-) 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure about this one, Laura, not knowing either of you. I don't think I would hint though. I would either stay off the subject altogether and hope that he'll love you and want enough to marry you to ask you himself - and that way you'll know he married you because he really wanted to and not because you nagged him into it OR I would tell him straight that you hope one day you will be married because you love him so much and you know he's the right man for you. It might be good to make sure he knows you don't want to pressure him in any way though - and actually stick to that and resolve not to put him under pressure, even though you want so badly to marry him next year.
With my own partner, I was staying off the subject until he expressed jealousy of my ex-husband and said he was worried that he'd never be able to give me a really special day with all my family and friends there. I took that as my cue to confess to him that I really did want to marry him but I didn't want him to go through it because it was what I wanted. I told him it had to be what he wanted too. And I also outlined the kind of wedding I had in mind. Luckily my partner is a high earner and we are likely to be able to afford a nice wedding otherwise it would be different.
2006-11-28 22:47:32 · answer #2 · answered by Specsy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some men don't get vague hints. (Myself included.) Do you feel free telling him what you think about your relationship? If the lines of communication aren't open now, maybe you should postpone the idea for a couple months. Get yourself to the point where you feel free to discuss this, without threat of breakup or anything like that.
Maybe this is just me, but I would rather have a wife who actually told me I was fat if I asked (and if I actually was). Being able to say things honestly without making the partner feel threatened, pressured, or unloved in any way is an enviable step to reach in any relationship. Good luck!
2006-11-28 21:54:18 · answer #3 · answered by Robert 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From my experience, you need to first find out his whole perspective about marriage. Is he afraid of it? What image of marriage has he got from others, is he willing to commit to a relationship for the rest of his life.
If he gets the feeling that you're trying to trap him into anything, you may ruin what you have and it will take you much more time to make him believe that it is not the case.
Don't rush, find out first. Men in general tend to have issues with commitment. How old is he? How many relationships did he have in the past. Did any of his other partners ever try to put him in a marriage situation? What happened then? You need to know these things before you make any moves.
2006-11-28 21:45:56 · answer #4 · answered by veroniki 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriage is pretty serious stuff, something probably not best "hinted" at.. If you're both of the age where marriage is feasible, you need to be able to talk upfront with him about it. It sounds like you guys have a good relationship, what with these vacation plans, it seem that he is monogamous, yes? So talk...Don't hint. Playing coy with your life is not a desirable trait at all.
2006-11-28 21:55:57 · answer #5 · answered by Sidoney 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Men don't do hints, you'll waste your whole life dropping hints, so just bite the bullet and ask him out right, if he is gonna say no better to find out now than wait another 2 years only to have your heart broken then.
2006-11-29 00:40:53 · answer #6 · answered by sparkleythings_4you 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The first thing Girls never Say to boys Abt their love but.... if u want to express ur love than show ur importance to him .
Girls hav all the things by which they can control the men......im am a MALE too i shouldnt say like this but i wanna help u .
If ur love is true then u will merry him soon. Send his lovely sms daily take him to parks and romantic place Call him late nights.... But dont say U love him... Do this for One month nad then stop doing all these things ... After a Month Avoid him if he really love u he will come to u .......in this way u can express ur love to him.....
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2006-11-28 21:59:50 · answer #7 · answered by integral_op 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just ask him, you totally have the right to know where he sees this relationship heading, so ask him! dont go all heavy on him, but just say it in the sense of: I DO want to get married at some stage and I want to know if you feel the same way or else what are we doing together.
2006-11-28 21:43:01 · answer #8 · answered by supagrrrl84 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No subtle way here. If he's marrying material, go right ahead and ask him. Maybe you 2 are close enough to talk about how you feel about him and how he really feels about you - what he plans for your future together.
2006-11-28 22:02:35 · answer #9 · answered by Cindy M 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ask him where he sees your relationship heading toward. Where does he see you two in a year? Tell him you have been thinking about your future together. I know you will probably be nervous so good luck.
2006-11-29 08:21:49 · answer #10 · answered by MISS 84 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋