jehovah's witnesses please answer?

Question

okay many members of my family are jw's
but there has always been something that bothers me. ]
why are jw's not allowed to date, but can get married.
how can meet someone to marry, if u can;t date

Answer 1

The Jehovah's Witness religion does *NOT* forbid, restrict, or "punish" those who date (as long as they are 'free to marry' legally and Scripturally). That does not mean that dating implies any promise to marry, but it does mean that a person must be single, widowed, or properly divorced and be of sufficient age to marry in his state or country; clearly that would exclude pre-teens and young teenagers almost everywhere.

If there are local customs or personal/family preferences which are stricter than that, please understand them as such.

It is true that Jehovah's Witnesses value chastity and virtue, and believe the bible's teaching that sexual relations are only appropriate within marriage. The bible instructs underage children to obey their parents, so a particular Witness parent may have a family rule against dating. In some places, chaperones or 'group dating' may seem mandatory due to local sensibilities, but neither of these is a requirement of the bible for Jehovah's Witnesses.

Jehovah's Witnesses are greatly deferential to local sensibilities with regard to courtship and marriage. For example, in tribal areas where it is the custom, Jehovah's Witness parents and grooms may choose to ask for and pay a reasonable "bride price". In parts of India and Pakistan, Witness youths may choose to go along with an arranged marriage by their parents, especially if their "betrothed" is also a Witness. Of course, the vast majority of Jehovah's Witnesses decide for themselves regarding with whom they will pursue, continue, and perhaps solemnize a relationship.

As a religious minority who greatly prefer to marry only within their faith, it is true that finding a life partner can be challenging for a devout Jehovah's Witness. Each congregation is scheduled for three large assemblies each year, ideally spaced about four months apart. Hundreds, thousands, or tens of thousands of Jehovah's Witnesses attend each of these all-day or multi-day meetings; in addition to the formal discourses, each Witness is encouraged to freely associate in the hours before and after the program and during the 90-minute (approx) noontime break.

Also, their 'regional building' organizations typically coordinate hundreds or thousands of volunteers from several counties or states to converge on projects to build or renovate houses of worship quickly and efficiently, and to respond to disasters as needed. Anyone 18 or over can volunteer on his own, and a 17- or 16-year-old can do so alongside a designated adult.

There are other opportunities for Jehovah's Witnesses to widen their social circles within the faith, and they are encouraged to do so with a view to upbuilding one another. Of course, the young people may have more on their minds than simple encouragement (nudge nudge, wink wink).

(Hebrews 10:24-25) Let us consider one another to incite to love and fine works, 25 not forsaking the gathering of ourselves together, as some have the custom, but encouraging one another, and all the more so as you behold the day drawing near.

Learn more:
http://jw-media.org/people/worship.htm
http://watchtower.org/e/rq/article_14.htm
http://watchtower.org/e/20000715/article_01.htm
http://watchtower.org/e/20040608/article_01.htm
http://watchtower.org/e/20050822/article_01.htm
http://watchtower.org/e/19990215/article_01.htm
http://watchtower.org/e/20040508a/article_01.htm

Answer 2

I am one of Jehovah's witnesses also, its not that we are not allowed to date (you as an individual can do what ever you want) What it is, is that, we should be past the bloom of youth (bible reference 1Corinthians 7:36) meaning 13,14, 15, 16 or even 17 year old Christians who are trying to be moral should not b thinking of dating yet. Because honestly, if you aren't in a position to marry soon, you should not be dating yet. I am married, I am 23, I have been married for 3 years, and even though the bible does not give an exact age of what is past the bloom of youth, you can sometimes make that decision based on your maturity & own life, my husband & I both had good jobs & were actually ready to court with the view of marrying soon if we came to that point, & we did. Also by not casually dating you are less likely to get involved in immoral acts..... you know like sexual acts, even if its not actually sex it's self. Thats one reason the older men in the congregation heed us ... If you decide to date, you need to have a chaperon, yes a chaperon, many people think that is totally wack but if you want to really keep your precious relationship with God clean & in good standing, you would want to date only when the time is right & have a chaperon! I hope this answered your question. Hopefully I will talk to you soon.
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Answer 3

JWs are allowed to date but they do this when they are READY for marriage. If dating, they should have someone with them so to avoid situations where it can lead to immorality. The Bible also says that if someone is past the bloom of youth then if they want to marry then they actually can. 1 Cor 7:36.

Answer 4

a sturdy individual with a organic coronary heart taught catholic because of the fact start, could they be destroyed. I dont think of they could be you already know. in particular because of the fact in case you look at it this way, how many sturdy organic human beings would desire to there have been previously the witnesses. (Im no longer knocking the witnesses however the present business enterprise in basic terms got here into being interior the 1800s) Why would desire to they be destroyed in the event that they hadnt been given the prospect to appreciate the certainty? It states particularly of course there will be a resurrection of the two the righteous and unrighteous (Acts 24:15).. and that that people who in no way knew Gods way could get carry of an excellent gamble in the time of Christs 1000 12 months reign to learn it. Revelation 20 people who shouldnt die in armageddon would die via motives that would no longer be controlled, yet whilst they do then they are going to be resurrected and in the event that they didnt understand the excellent way they'll get carry of the prospect to learn it. The wages sin will pay is loss of existence, so which you have paid off the salary off sin in case you die. and you get the prospect of accepting Gods way. Romans 6:23 additionally with the 2d component of your question, in the event that they have been trully repentant then definite Im particular God could forgive them. yet they couldnt only pretend and attempt to fool God, they actually could in actual fact deep of their hearts would desire to be sorry. Acts 26:18

Answer 5

Witnesses don't believe in recreational dating. They believe dating is only for the purpose for finding your spouse. When you are of age to get married, then you start dating.

They feel that a 14 year old, 15 year old aren't ready for marriage, hence why they aren't suppose to "date"

Answer 6

You got your answer above. As always achtung heiss is on the mark. I just wanted to add that as a Witness, I feel grateful for the guidelines the Bible gives us in regards to dating. By following these guidelines, and only dating with marriage in mind, young people are protected from premature sexualization, STD'S, and unwanted pregnancy. We are also protected from the broken hearts that are the results of becoming romantically y involved with someone who is not marriage minded.

Answer 7

You have your answers above, but I wanted to put in a personal experience.

When I was 18, I was seeing Mary Duffer from Phoenix, AZ. One time when we went out, we took a couple of her friends, from two of the Phoenix congregations, as chaperons. I was from San Diego.

It was an interesting choice, in that they usually threw rocks at each other. She (age 17) thought he was a pompous ***, and he (age 22) thought she was stuck up. Yes, even witnesses have disagreements.

Three hours into the the evening we had to throw cold water on them. They got married six months later, had one child five years later, born five months premature. They are still married.

Answer 8

As a teenager, I was not allowed to date but I had many friends of the opposite sex and I learned to be respectful of them and to expect that they treat me with respect and dignity in return. When I was mature enough to marry (I am with Papa Bear and his often-stated opinion that a woman should be at least 24 and a man should be at least 30 before they are truly considered grown up), I dated and married.

I travelled, went to school, established myself in a good job and learned another language (one of the more difficult ones) to increase my ministry and learn about another culture. I avoided STDs, unplanned parenthood, hurt feelings (not to say that I never had a crush or felt heartbroken), regretful words, etc. I still have good relationships with most of the kids I hung out with as a teenager...a lot of them are also happily married today...those that aren't are enjoying their single lives with a clean conscience.

Answer 9

If you take the overall picture of the JW, you will see that their teachings are a million miles from the Truth, I have always wonder why they send not the same person to the same house, but different ones to a house, I have had them here at my house, & when my Bible is opened to them, they are ready to leave, what are they afraid of, If their faith is the true way,(which it is not) why do they flee.

Answer 10

Seems to be a good religious teaching. How close is it to Muslim clture. They, too, do not permit a boy and a girl meeting aline. In such a meeting 'the 3rd person' is Satan.