Is it wrong for a lady to propose to a man?

Question

U meet this guy in a wedding,u become friends,he takes for lunch,coffee,raves soon afterwards.He calls u every nite,every time u meet he peaks you on the cheeks,then one day you snog,then another day u spend the night at his place but you dont do anything...as in u dont ..... yah! but you share the same bed then the next time u spend at his place you go an extra mile you pet,cuddle and all that but when he was almost puting his pipi in your kaka he realises you are a virgin and you freak out.After that day,the calls,lunch,coffe,raves and any form of communication stops but you keep calling him,taking him for lunch(am a lady)Is there really hope for me and what does the sudden change of character mean?

Answer 1

I'm pretty sure that the woman in this story isn't mature enough to get married anyway, since she is still calling sex "putting his pipi in your kaka".

Regardless, I would back off as it will be very obvious that she is desperate if she proposes now.

Answer 2

Well, it's not wrong for a lady to propose to a man. But think about it. If the man needs a push this is not the way to do it. Now you didn't mention how did you freak out! and why. What did he do after that? did he just left with out saying a word? did you say anything to him at that moment? His behavior doesn't makes sense to me.
This guy run away as soon as he knew you were a virgin. That means he is not ready for a serious relationship. He was working his way to you at first. When he found out you were a virgin he didn't know what to do. If you really like this guy, then give him some space, and if he calls you back on his own, then you might have a chance with him. Is he really worth to loose your virginity with him? You shouldn't keep taking him out for lunch. Just think about it, before you do something you might regret later!!

Answer 3

At this point, if he's backing off and you are still calling him then propose, it would wreak of desperation. Back off and give him a chance to miss you, then find out what the problem is and go from there.

Answer 4

No. There is nothing wrong with it. The idea that men should be the ones who ask women out is a back-warded rule of our society. The whole world doesn't revolve around men. There should be equality in everything.

Answer 5

To be precise, who freaked out? You, or he? Did you make a scene at this point or otherwise scare him off? In this case, it is your turn to make cautious moves back in his direction. If he freaked out, on the other hand, it is his turn and if nothing happens he seems to be the wrong type of guy for you.
In any case, take your time and don't press matters.

Answer 6

No. Its the 21st century, there's nothing wrong with a woman being strong and knowing what she wants.

Answer 7

look mam, im still young but im a man, and from your story i just can say, i don't know! the most important thing is your feeling anyway, someone told me before what love really mean. love is when u try to make someone happy even it's makes u sad. so, before u do anything, just ask your self, are u love this man? are you sure can make him happy with u? love is not about make yourself happy, but make someone u love happy! sorry, just say what come out from my mind, good luck mam

Answer 8

Move on to a better guy. If he's avoiding you, he's totally not worth it.

Answer 9

I think you scared him off. Not that its justified. He shouldn't just stop taking your calls without an explanation. Hes too immature, forget about him.

Answer 10

i think he's an *** for doing that but give him space and time. if he doesn't get back to you in about two days then get over him he's not worth it. plus he is over you and got a new "girlfriend" so who needs men!!!!