after four years...she now started feeling that i love her for sex...I m not denaing that when i see her i feel sex...but i love her too...but now i wanna let her know that i dont want sex from her...how to hide my temptation???
2006-11-28 21:05:00 · 14 answers · asked by sureshflourish 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Common buddy,you don't need to hide any thing.Just be yourself as i believe your girlfriend chose you for who you are.So don't try to pretend to be somebody else.Now to hide temptation,you can do one thing....just keep talking to her as much as possible.That will make you feel easy with her and will help you to get rid of your temptation.
2006-11-28 21:43:08 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi there .......what !!??ok let me get this right ....you have been with this lady for 4 years and now she is a bit miffed with things and says that all you want her for is sex ......so youre response to this is .....ignore her ........what do you wanmt to do prove her right ....!!!!!!and have even more problems on youre plate ......i take it you do very little around the house and if there are kids around then she has to do all the wiping of noses bums and all the rest of the work around the house ......including looking after you !!!???dont even think of lying here im a woman and i know the signs of a totally pissed of woman and i can understand why we get to this stage and you males never see it coming ......when was the last time you did anything for youre woman like go and run her a bath ....??make her a meal take her out just the 2 of you ??sit beside her and just give her a cuddle and tell her that you love her ......mind you if you tried this at the moment she is going to be thinking that you are only after sex ...you are going to have to do the male thing and eat humble pie if you want this to calm down get her a nice bunch of flowers and run her a bath say that she is not foing anything tonight and that she is to sit down and put her feet up and tell her that you are not after sex that you want to look after her as you love her ....and give her a cuddle and a kiss and believe it or not if you can behave youre self ........she will stop being the ice maidden and start to relax again with you .......but what she really wants is some help and support from you ......get it now !! good luck and take care of each other xx
2006-11-28 21:19:15 · answer #2 · answered by a parent hows been there !! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe take her somewhere she has always wanted to go. Show her that you love her (other than sex). You don't have to hide your temptation, just divert it. After 4 years, you tend to get comfortable with eachother. Take her on a romantic night, something you would have done with her in the beginning of the relationship.
2006-11-28 21:15:52 · answer #3 · answered by serena3116 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's really silly of your girl, especially after four years of relationship. well think back about all the time you two apent together. what did you do? I mean were there times when you two were alone and all you did was may be watch a movie or just sat talking? if yes then i think your gf is just going through a depression phase (which is most common in woman and nothing to worry about) and will be out fo it sooner if you help her.
I suggest that for next one week you make har feel special by may be going out on dates or by simply buying flowers for her, you know all those romantic things?
It might also involve shopping and long discussions about future and relationships. just tell her that you are ready to do anything for her happiness and would never force her to do anything she doesnt want to do. and all that. I know you think its all boring (i mean i undrestand men hate all this) but hey its for the woman you love. and just a question of a week or so. just remember not to rush things up. pamper her and just wait for her to make the first move.
and remeber when you are together may be cuddling or even just sitting together. dont start touching at most obvious sexual body parts such as boobs and arms. she wont like it. just give her a plain simple but loving hug. kis her on her neck and shoulders. may be even give a body massage but dont bring thougts of sex into it. (i know thats difficult but try)
I can asure you that if you follow my guidlines properly, very soon she will not only make the first move to seduse you but in fact will even appologise for her mistake of being unjust to you!
Trust me. I am a woman myself.
2006-11-28 21:25:30 · answer #4 · answered by urfriendfrlife 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey... love and sex both go together if you have perfect understanding...if your love is really honest as you says tell her openly...what good is it going to make for both of you if you ignore her..and hide the temptation...just be honest and tell her what exactly comes in your mind when she is near to and let her feel you are a honest guy...have a nice day.
2006-11-28 21:20:16 · answer #5 · answered by nageshgk27 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Spend time with her outside of the bedroom. That will prove that you are interested in things other than sex.
2006-11-28 21:10:40 · answer #6 · answered by Liz 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
rub one out dude , thats all you have to do
i mean yeah , dont let your friends catch ya' do it
or mom
or girl
but seriously avoid all kind of heavy physical contact like making out dry humping and stuff like that
2006-11-28 21:08:26 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well make excues avoid phsyical contacts....always keep distance look at other women...talk abt other women n go out wid other women...n b a bit closer when ur with other woen
2006-11-28 21:07:38 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just go and tell her this. Express your love, write a poem... otherwise, try to maintain some distance.
2006-11-28 21:09:54 · answer #9 · answered by AB 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is tough atleast after 4 years.. but yaar what are you doing since 4 years??
2006-11-28 21:13:18 · answer #10 · answered by bebu 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋