I've been real nasty to my in laws to the point of quarelling openly and giving each other the cold shoulder. The reasons are too long-winded to explain here. So what should I do to so-called improve the r'ship? Do I HAVE to lose my pride or eat humble pie? any other way out? If I dun wish to apologise, what else can I do?
2006-11-28 19:53:20 · 5 answers · asked by Mrs Kee 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Depends. Did you start and/or stoke the fire of this fight? If either is true, then yes, you should apologize. There is a reason that pride is one of the seven deadly sins. Sometimes it's necessary to bite the bullet just to get past the pain--then you both can start working on a real relationship that involves compromise and respect.
2006-11-28 20:10:07 · answer #1 · answered by brittanylevesque 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi there oh the joys of the in-laws .....well did you cause the fall out did you start the arguement with them .....if you started all this then im sorry to say that you have to eat a rather large portion of humble pie and try and sort this out ......but on the other hand if you did not start this mess then you can do the mature thing and bring this to a head and start the talking ,and dont go over old ground and say look this has been going on for long enough its time to call this a day and sat thats whats happened has happened and its only 4 weeks to christmas so lets put this to rest and hopefully that should have it sorted ......either way i wish you good luck and take care of youre self xx
2006-11-29 04:38:07 · answer #2 · answered by a parent hows been there !! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When ego gets involved with an emotional trip I think it's up to the most adult person to make a move and fix it. These folks are your husband's family and thus, your family, too. By speaking first with him and telling him your real feelings, perhaps together you can make amends.
From what you've said, it sounds like an apology is in order. I've always thought that if I was wrong that if I just sincerely confessed and asked if we could move on, then it was up to the other person to agree or not.
Hurt feelings are delicate. It feels good to get over it, though, doesn't it? Or would you prefer to have the tension and stress of knowing that the rift exists and shall exist?
If someone has been rude to you, how do you feel if/when they come to you and just want to get over it?
Be an adult and do the right thing.
Yes?
2006-11-29 04:11:30 · answer #3 · answered by vertically challenged 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whether or not you should apologise i.e. eat humble pie depends entirely on whether you did anything wrong in the first place. If you have been treated like crap by them, then it's up to them to apologise to you, not the other way around. However, if you are the one who started the current fight, swallow your pride. It will make you the bigger person.
2006-11-29 03:57:16 · answer #4 · answered by Liz 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps say lets call a truce i know both sides have had problems and were a family and lets start over fresh. that way you have not put all the onus on to yourself if you feel they too haven't been nice with you.
Then all go out to dinner and start fresh.
2006-11-29 05:23:25 · answer #5 · answered by For ever in my Heart 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋