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seriously, why do us guys have to be the ones to start a conversation, keep up the conversation, flirt & ask them out?, why can't girls do it more often?, well I'm 18, gonna be 19 in a month, & I'm still virgin & haven't had a girlfriend, been out on a date or a one-night stand, I know that girls make the first move sometimes, but they never make the first move on me, I'm a shy person, but that doesn't mean I never approach girls, I usually approach them when they are alone, I'm not comfortable approaching them in front of people or if they are with their friends, plus I'm always scared of asking them for their number cause I don't wanna get a fake one or a made-up excuse that they can't give it out, which is obviously a rejection. Sometimes I wish it was a girl cause it seems more easy for them, cause in my opinion, if a good looking boy is shy or won't make the first move, he won't get girls, but if a good looking girl is shy, she willl still get a lot of boys

2006-11-28 19:41:08 · 20 answers · asked by introvertedguy06 6 in Family & Relationships Singles & Dating

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because it's natural human and animal behaviour, males have to make the first move ,hence better chance of passing on thier genes.

2006-11-28 19:42:56 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0 1

Well, being scared is just an imaginary thing your mind made up for you.. come out of your dark cave and move on to the bright world.. there is alot of girls making the first move nowadays.. for example.. they walk up to you.. they smile to you.. they giggle sometimes around you.. drop something around you.. this are all the first move from us for some conversation sometimes.. though alot was mistaken.. well, wat to say.. sometimes guy's are a little blur.. can't do much.. open your eyes a bit bigger, next time.. catch some sign around you.. it's simple.. if you still cannot get yourself a date.. there is always online dating.. dun worry.. you are still young.. you are only 18, i'm 17, yet i still didn't date anyone yet.. there's a lot singles around and you didn't notice it.. it's not necessary that you have to find love yourself.. Let it find you instead.. it will be better like that...

2006-11-29 03:58:32 · answer #2 · answered by teri_lqy 1 · 0 0

Get over your shyness however you have to it will hold you back is all aspects of life. Your a dude, deal with it, you will be rejected many times to come, it's just one of the way life shapes you. Don't only talk to girls when they are alone, that just gives a girl the impression you will be some obsessive controller who alienates her from the world. Be yourself and someone will like you for who you are, build up your self-confidence, you are going to need a buttload of it in life, so act confident and you will become it.
Quit using the word "shy" as a descriptor of yourself, the more you say something the stronger it grabs you subconciously and the harder to break it. Replace "shy" with "reserved", it isn't a negative or a handicap like the word shy is.
Take chances or life and everyone will just go on by, if you have trouble talking to groups of people picture them naked when your talking--it got me thru speech class.
Know that the girls who are forward enough to be asking guys out usually tend to be the same ones who are "putting out" to any and every taker, not the kind of chick you want for more than a few hours anyway. Every risk you take no matter what the outcome makes it a little easier.
The two guys I was the craziest about in my life and ended up in long-term relationships with were guys I had rejected a couple times at least. Smart guys know that no matter how obnoxious they are, how bad they look or how much they annoy you, persistance can make all the difference in the world.
Know that no matter how someone acts they are still probably just as self-concious as you on the inside. No one is going to critique you as hard as you do yourself, they are too busy worrying about what they will say next or how they look. No one pays half as much attention to what you are doing or saying as you think, they are overwhelmingly self-concious. Chill out and speak up or you will wake up and realize that all the opportunities went to someone who however obnoxious or ignorant took the chance to go for it. Get out of your comfort zone everytime you are in public, just talk to a stranger, chances are they aren't talking the same reason you aren't...they also don't know what to say. Force yourself to be outgoing, people will like you or dislike you but you'll never know til you put yourself out there. Don't take rejection as a bad thing, it is not your desired outcome however life is full of it, so suck it up and try again....you have nothing to lose unless you try. Everything that happens makes you a wiser, stronger, more experienced person....builds character....so start building it. Nothing is easy in life, and chicks have things to deal with that are just as bad.....face it life isn't fair.
Good Luck......start tomorrow and make it happen captain!!

2006-11-29 04:32:15 · answer #3 · answered by ? 2 · 0 0

I know it's weird...Since we (women) are asking to have equal rights!!!Anyhow,if you go back in the years,u'll c that men were the hunters all along!And men are suppose to be,still. It feels more sexy when a man is trying to win a woman...but only when he does it in a clever way, and not by doing stupid moves! You don't have to be shy.There is no point in doing that.You'll get nothing out of it...The only thing you'll get is keeping urself in the margin.So go outhere...and check your abilities as a natural hunter! Next time you see a girl you like don't stay back...Check her out closely,look at the way she acts,even if she's with friends you will be able to tell whether she likes you or not...if she is looking at you,smile at her...walk to her in a smart way and then talk to her and her friends and act cool but not stupid!Just be yourself!Try to see if she is responding to your call and then put your manly instict into work! Good luck!

2006-11-29 03:58:56 · answer #4 · answered by Soulla 2 · 0 0

you need to be inviting to a woman for her to make the "moves" on you. If she knows you are interested, by looks, smiles, a little conversation, she will make the move on you. No one likes to be rejected. So if she has an idea that you like her, even a little one, then she'll make the first move... unless she is shy also... then well your stuck...
If I like someone, and i have an idea that he seems interested, and i like him, I will make the first move. I have been shot down about 2 or 3 times. It sucks, but it's part of life and dating...
good luck

2006-11-29 03:49:41 · answer #5 · answered by Q'S & A'S 2 · 0 0

you just have to put yourself out there. Don't be afraid of rejection! it does happen to everyone and trust me your going to get your fair share, everybody does. you just have to keep at it and hope for the best. It isn't that easy for us girls either. We actually worry more about rejection than you men. Also we have alot more insecurities than men also.Just make sure you are very sensitive and willing to share your feelings. Try to express your felings too but still be manly about things.And trust me Stay A Virgin as long as possible. The one your waiting for will be worth it. But don't be afraid to get some sort of expierince along the way!!! good Luck.

2006-11-29 03:55:02 · answer #6 · answered by Mary Jane 2 · 0 0

Remember a few decades ago it wasn't really right for a girl to approach a guy. I think some girls are still stuck on that!

Also girls are more emotional so they are more scared for rejection than most guys.

But the bottom line is you snooze you looze!!
If you want something done do it yourself!!!

2006-11-29 03:48:26 · answer #7 · answered by lestai 1 · 0 1

it isn't that easy to be a girl. we get heartbroken all the ime. we fall for guys who turn out to be jerks and then we ask ourselves why we are in the posistion we are in! trust me, guys have it easier! yeah a lot of irls won't make the first move but i did! my fiance and i are gettiing married next month and all because i asked him out to a movie!!!!

2006-11-29 03:47:22 · answer #8 · answered by chantal h 2 · 0 0

u just have to ask and act confident and not all girls are that way i am not my bf is really shy so i had to make the first moves and stuff

2006-11-29 03:45:23 · answer #9 · answered by :):):) 3 · 0 0

well i agree with you man, but in nature, guys should be the hunter not us girls. i mean we can still do that but in your heart, u still want to do the first moves and you get turned off with girls who are aggressive and perhaps if that is the case, not generic thought, that if the girl showed first signs, u tend to not get serious of your intention but if you feel that girl is somewhat reserved, that excites you and pursue her more.. :) shyness can be improve, you need to be with the "guys" and try to make friends at least for now.. :) good luck

2006-11-29 03:44:48 · answer #10 · answered by rizaplanco 1 · 0 1

I AM A VERY SHY PERSON ASWELL,IVE ALWAYS FELT UNCONFORTABLE APPROACHING GUYS,SOME PEOPLE LIKE SHY TYPES,GIRLS HAVE IT JUST AS BAD AS GUYS DO BELIEVE ME!WE ARE ALL AFRAID OF BEING REJECTED,BUT SOMETIMES YOU HAVE TO TAKE A CHANCE,LOTS OF LUCK

2006-11-29 03:52:00 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

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