I just started a new college and I noticed an attractive guy their. Noticing me also I also saw him and another guy starring at me and they said something to each other but I don't know what was said. I may have overheard a conversation and I think I heard the person say he was married or getting married. He is very attractive and I feel a "strong sexual tension" when im around him. I can't even look him in the face without getting caught up into fantasy. It is very uncomfortable so I try my best to avoid him. But when we have classes together I get really nervous. It's difficult for me to concentrate. I also tend to act really stupid and jittery around this person. Know the tables have turned and im doing the starring at him. It's been a week and I think about this person 24/7. Im not a home wrecker and im not sure of this person's situation. Is it possible this person is attracted to me also and may feel the same way. Do you think he thinks im stupid because I get nervous around him
2006-11-28 19:09:36 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
This appears to be a case of Infatuation.
Some of the “symptoms” of infatuation are; feelings of panic, uncertainty, overpowering lust, feverish excitement, impatience, and/or jealously.
When infatuated, we are thrilled, but not happy, wanting to trust, yet suspicious. There are lingering, nagging doubts about our “partner in infatuation” and their love for us. We’re miserable when they’re away, almost like we’re not complete unless we’re with them. It’s a rush and it’s intense. It’s difficult to concentrate. And most infatuation relationships have a high degree of sexual charge around them. Somehow being with them is not complete unless in ends in some type of sexual encounter.
Do any of these “symptoms” resemble feelings of love? Hardly. So why do we become infatuated? Where does it come from? Perhaps it’s biological.
When infatuated we experience a surge of dopamine that rushes through the brain causing us to feel good. Norepinephrine flows through the brain stimulating production of adrenaline (pounding heart). Phenylethalimine (found in chocolate) creates a feeling of bliss. Irrational romantic sentiments may be caused by oxytocin, a primary sexual arousal hormone that signals orgasm and feelings of emotional attachment. Together these chemicals sometimes override the brain activity that governs logic.
The body can build up tolerances to these chemicals so it takes more of the substance to get that special feeling of infatuation. People who jump from relationship to relationship may be craving the intoxicating effects of these substances and may be “infatuation junkies”.
When the chemical flood dries up, the relationship either moves into a loving romantic one or there is disillusionment, and the relationship ends.
Source:
http://www.selfcreation.com/love/infatuation.htm
2006-11-28 19:18:25 · answer #1 · answered by ideaquest 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When I saw the small portion of your question the one that said ''do you ever do weird things when your bored?'' I thought, heck yes! But now that I see you list, I'm sorry to say that I would never do half of the things you listed. But hey, who cares? Thats just you. Whatever works!
2016-03-13 00:28:19 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He keeps talking with you - doesn't he? If he thought that you were "stupid", he wouldn't bother much with you - would he? You want this guy, as you have stated and you must realize that he is someone else's. Don't put yourself through this knowing he will be some other woman's catch. There is one out there for you but you haven't found him as of yet - but he's there !!! Your energy would be better spent finding him. Good luck to you !!!
2006-11-28 19:18:15 · answer #3 · answered by guraqt2me 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
infatuation is the best answer i can give. and this is the reason why you cant look him in the face and get jittery. you have become infatuated to the point where you hold him on a bit of a higher pedestal, and you are afraid for him to know what you really think. i guess in a sense you want him, but you are afraid to find out that he may not want you.
2006-11-28 19:17:21 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is sexual attraction and it can and often does happen between strangers. After all, everyone is a stranger to us until we meet them. Try talking to him about the classes your taking together. Keep it simple at first and see where it goes.
2006-11-28 19:14:15 · answer #5 · answered by godeep 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I don't know.
Ask HIM
2006-11-28 19:11:16 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
MAYBE. BUT just let it go if he is getting married.
2006-11-28 19:11:54 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
ya when i was braiding his butt hair
2006-11-28 19:11:00 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋