How do you move on from someone you love? How do you just make that decision and stick with it?

Question

After years of wondering where this relationship is going, I have been considering moving on. He tells me he loves me, but really has not moved towards a commitment with me. I love him a lot, he has been an important part of my life for 2 years now. I can't imagine not having him as part of my life. How do I even begin to just let go? How do I stop myself from picking up the phone just to hear his voice???

Answer 1

How do you stop yourself from doing anything? You just stop.

Answer 2

Honey, I know what you're going through. I had this same problem. You just have to ask yourself "Does he want the same things that I want out of the relationship?" I was in a 1 year and 7 month relationship with someone who I thought was my true love. And it didn't work out. Just dig a little deeper into his feelings to see if they go along with yours. If not, that's a sign telling you to move on. It's just like my friend Christine said "It's better to be loved then not loved at all." Follow your heart, girl. And listen to Mary J. Blige's "Not gone cry".

Answer 3

I've met someone like that before and waiting for him to actually commit to the relationship was torturing me. I moved on after making that decision. It was hard at first but with great friends, I believe you can do it.

If you want to give this guy another chance, the exact cycle might repeat itself again.

or what you can do is to just find yourself another guy and with the new guy's company, i'm sure you'll move on without feeling much loneliness.

Answer 4

have you tried talking to him about it. tell him what you are looking for in the relationship. if he loves you he will be open and let you know how he feels and what he wants. hopefully they are the same thing. it may not happen right then, but give it time. time for you both to change and adapt.
if he isn't looking for the same thing then just slowly let go. don't have any regrets because everything happens for a reason. don't let it control you and how you feel. he may not be mr.right, but if he isn't than mr.right is still out there waiting on you too

Answer 5

Called a Breakup Because It's Broken: The Smart Girl's Break-Up Buddy by Greg Behrendt and Amiira Ruotola-Behrendt (Paperback - Sep 5, 2006)


this book is really funny yet sadly true .. it like gives you all these things to do when you feel like you are going to call him .. and warns about drunk dialing ..

Answer 6

You throw yourself into something other than men. Eventually you will meet new people and find qualities you didn't have in him that you would like to have in someone new. It is all a life experience and we have all been there. It is hard, but it gets easier to cope with. You don't have to forget him, and just be glad you did experience love. There is someone out there that is willing to commit.

Answer 7

he said he loves you. maybe you're not the commited one. 2 years is not that long..cut him some slack. live your life, if someone interesting comes along, consider it. you are not married so don't be so black and white with him. if you love him that much why the hell would you let go? seems like you need to develop other things in your life. he is most likely not your problem.

Answer 8

Two years is long enough to wait...
The best way to mend a broken heart is with a new love...
Move on...
Find a new lover, best friend and someone to care for you..

Answer 9

Just do it. If u are not getting 100% of what YOU want...ur wasting ur time.. The way u feel is not really up to u but the way u react to it is...YOU have to want to.

Answer 10

it sounds like you dont want to let him go so dont theres no reason you should