My 20 yr old stepsister(unofficially)has been constantly wearing my clothes.Me and my dad have been living with her and her mom for about 2 yrs.we're pretty close. Last summer i got a job; bought my own clothes for the first time ever,feeling like an adult for the first time too. My stepsister said they were cute, i made the mistake of saying she could "borrow them whenever" and i think i even said she didn't have to ask. Now she takes them whenever; doesn't even ask when she is going to her friends for days @ a time. 1st, my shirts,my jeans,than my jackets and my socks. Im very meticulous and clean(She knows it ), so i have alot of jackets and clothes from the sixth grade that i still wear(Im a senior now).I know i have more clothes than she does,but she doesn't take care of my clothes(or hers).she lets the dogs jump on her w/their muddy paws and the cat claw my pants. she got bleach on my shirt. i feel greedy, but i worked hard for my stuff, isnt it common courtesy 2 at least ask?
2006-11-28 18:30:24 · 12 answers · asked by Little Eyes 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Nothing to do with greed !!! You are offended because she is taking you up on your initial offer to wear your clothes - "whenever" !!! Now; you would be wise to say to her, " I've noticed that you are not taking care of MY clothes that I allowed you, back then, to wear". "Since you don't take care of them, you can no longer wear them !" You may even, be a little generous, and give her a few items you have grown bored with, to break the tension with . Feeling "greedy" is a negative feeling on your part. You are really feeling responsible - a rare commodity in this world. Good luck to you.
2006-11-28 18:42:22 · answer #1 · answered by guraqt2me 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is common courtesy to ask, But you did tell her that she didn't have to ask. Although she should have the common courtesy to take care of said clothes when she borrows them, and since she doesn't you can tell her that you want her to ask from this point on. That wouldn't be greedy.
2006-11-29 07:41:58 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you should talk to her face to face and get a solution to this problem. She is 20 years old and not a kid, I believe both of you can iron this out like mature adults.
There is a limit to everything. Also, I believe that she did not purposely dirty your clothes or chose not to take care of your clothes properly since she does not even do that for hers. Try talking to her and perhaps at the same time, tell her how important it is to cherish her own stuff.
My younger sister is about the same like yours and once she starts to take my clothes to wear, i will never get to see it again. She always misplaces them somewhere in the house or in her room. I talked to her about this and now, she asks before taking my clothes and this made things better for us now. At least the fights over the clothes are lesser.
Good luck with this.
2006-11-29 02:37:39 · answer #3 · answered by bahbahbah 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
You told her that she could "borrow" whenever without asking. That's what she is doing. You should have a talk with her though and tell her that if she can not take proper care of your clothes, then you are not going to let her borrow them anymore.
2006-11-29 02:48:19 · answer #4 · answered by sweetgurl13069 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you told her that she could wear them whenever, then she's only doing what you said she could. Maybe sit down and talk to her and suggest that she start asking from now on
2006-11-29 02:38:21 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like it's time for the talk that begins, "This is not working out quite the way I expected...."
Best to do this when you are not angry or upset, and not when she is putting something on and is about to walk out the door...
Good luck
2006-11-29 02:37:46 · answer #6 · answered by Ms. Switch 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You said "borrow them whenever" without asking and she did. Next time don't make the offer.
2006-11-29 02:34:08 · answer #7 · answered by Violet Pearl 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
yes it is common courtesy and it is not being greedy. my sisters have stolen my stuff for years and I hate it!
2006-11-29 02:42:38 · answer #8 · answered by Meg 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You cant be mad at her for taking you up on your kindness, but it never hurts to clarify the rules.
2006-11-29 02:38:01 · answer #9 · answered by trynshockme 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
alright, im a triplet so i know how u feel. no its not alright its an invasion of sapce. lay down some rules
2006-11-29 02:36:18 · answer #10 · answered by stu k 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋