I just went out with this man once from India, I thought he was nice and genuine, he proclaimed to be. I caught him in one lie after another. It really hurt my feelings that he lied. I was praying last night as I do everynight and his face came into my mind. Since I am a Christian I can forgive him that he lied. I definately am over him..thank god I didn't get too wrapped up into him...but why do I feel like I need to contact him to make sure he is okay ? Should I just let him be? I stopped contact with him in a nasty way because he lied and hurt me(by lying) and pretending that I was dumb.
2006-11-28 18:24:21 · 19 answers · asked by AlphaFeGreatWhite 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Does a leopard change its spots in India?
2006-11-28 18:26:00 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Abusive men , have a way of playing mind games on you . They are expert liars and even though you are the one who has been treated unfairly,the emotional abuse you suffered while you were with him,being told one lie after the other, you are still under his spell. He has you wondering about wether he is ok or not ,and he is probably with someone else,and not even thinking about you. The fact that he lied so many times proves he does not care,because if he did he would tell the truth, God does want us to forgive,but he doesn;t want us to let others make a fool out of us. Focus on someone wholikes you enough to be honest. Maybe you saw his face when you prayed because he needs prayer from all those lies he's been telling. Pray God will make him tell the truth, and quit taking people through changes. India men, are men ,don't forget that ,their are liars in every region of the world. and India is no exception. A liar is a liar no matter where he comes from.
2006-11-29 03:49:47 · answer #2 · answered by CLAIRE KC1 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Alpha: Being a christian doesn't mean leaving your brains at the "door". Does the terminology, "Harmless as a dove - wise as a serpent", have any meaning for you? There is a Liar in the Bible called the "Deceiver" and the "father of the first lie" - I think you catch my drift ? !!! This guy from India lied to you because he thinks you are "dumb" - why prove him right by contacting him, again? Do you really want to be bothered chasing the wind?
2006-11-29 02:32:39 · answer #3 · answered by guraqt2me 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your church learning has made you feeling in this compassionate way but dont apply it for this guy..
You are thinking in this way because you have been taught like that where as he seems to be brought up in different environment wherein he does not feel ashamed of telling a lie even you had caught it..
This is your imagination and your intense love for him that you see his face while you were praying nothing else...
Please dont run after him to receive more emotional blows... Just forget him and never let him come to you...
2006-11-29 03:06:12 · answer #4 · answered by CosmicLight 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just let it be girl just forgive and move on he doesnt deserve anymore words from ur mouth....he shouldnt have lied....remember this is the internet u can pretend to be someone ur not and noone would no otherwise if u never meet them in person or they dont fess up the truth....u cant just trust everyone u meet on here..and if u were completely over him u wouldnt be asking this ?.
2006-11-29 02:32:53 · answer #5 · answered by sweetlady38237 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want to call him, call him. He may be a liar but he is still a person. If you feel guilty about the way things ended fix it and move on. I once moved and changed my number and didn't tell the girl who I broke up with ( she still had the biggest crush on me ). To my defense I was 15. Well about 6 years later I tracked her down and gave her a call. I was married with two kids but I still felt guilty. I called her, apologized for what I did and that was it. I felt better about it afterwards. ( and for those who want to know I made sure it was OK with my wife that I was going to call an ex-girlfriend for this reason.
It hasn't bothered me since
2006-11-29 02:32:15 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
He was probably only in the country to plan out some building that he and his followers want to blow up. Be thankful that you are still alive and get an STD test as soon as the clinic opens in the morning!
2006-11-29 02:29:47 · answer #7 · answered by Jack Knauf 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Dont contact him. If you do, how will you know if he's lying about being OK or not? He did you wrong and you dont owe him anything. Christian or not, it doesnt matter, you dont need someone like that in your life because if you do get in touch with him, you may not be able to get rid of him.
2006-11-29 02:27:45 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I`m so sorry you had to face and deal with this hurt as many of us women had to face and deal with.
If I were you,forgive and forget him.
He messed up,not you sweety.
Move on with your life,and chalk this up as one of life`s experience
.At least you learned .
Take care *Hugs*
2006-11-29 02:34:51 · answer #9 · answered by sunflower2052002 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A liar is always a liar. Can't worry about other people's feelings over your own. If you contact him you are only opening up youself to more hurt.
2006-11-29 02:29:59 · answer #10 · answered by help 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋