HELP i am SO frustrated!?

Question

What do you do when you can't let people go (out of your life) when all they do is frustrate/irritate and just all around make you feel like crap* you-and are so bad for you either way...in or out of your life...how do you let it go...or know if you really should? *this goes for both dater boy and friend*

i have two relationships, one dating and one a friend...and i feel they are so unhealhty for me-but i can't really let them go--and don't know how to know if I should...When do you just let a relationship go? And HOW?

Answer 1

Is there such a thing as breaking up with a friend?
Yes! Sometimes it's best to cut a friend loose if his antics are stressing you out more than cheering you up.

Everyone goes through life experiencing relationships. But it is very rare that one of these relationships span an entire lifetime. People have fun together but also, people often break-up for many reasons. These reasons can range from simply growing apart to finding your partner cheating or simply being too different to be together. Break-ups and reasons for them are not meant to scare someone away from relationships. The simple fact is, one should enjoy relationships, but at the same time, identify warning signs so one can see when a break-up is necessary and when things go sour with your guy, you know a breakup is imminent.

It's hard to do. That's the biggest understatement of all time! Ending a relationship is among the most stressful things a person can undergo and is never easy. It sucks and even less fun than getting rejected is actually having to do the rejecting. Okay, maybe doing the rejecting is a little better. Anyway, if you're thinking about blowing a guy off, here are some ideas on how to give him the brush off that won't break his heart too badly -- or destroy his ego.

You're not interested. He calls and leaves a message. What should you do?
Do not return that call.

And what if you picked up the phone? What then?
Then, "lie". Please lie. Tell him that you just got back together with your friends. This is our very first choice for rejection. Second best is you realized that you are going through a period where you do not want to date at all and just want to focus on yourself. Sure, these excuses might be transparent -- but men feel better to live a lie than face the truth of rejection.

Another possibility, though not quite as good due to possible ambiguity, is the good old "distancing technique". You tell him you are really busy for the next couple of weeks and will call him when things get less crazy -- a bit confusing for most men, but definitely effective and not too painful.

You really gave it a chance, but it's not happening. What should you do?
Again, lie. Your friends are still your best bet. Do not tell him you met someone else recently. That smarts. Choosing someone you just met tells him he lost a contest. No one likes to lose.

Another option - "Honesty" within reason. If it's simply a matter of chemistry -- or lack thereof - tell him. Most guys can survive that after just a few dates. As much as it's going to hurt, tell him the truth. At this point, honest communication is the right thing to do. Be gentle, but do not be too vague. Just give it to him straight and say that you're really sorry.

1. Don't be too specific if it's for reasons no human should ever hear: You smell, you are not good-looking enough, you are boring, you're an idiot -- please refrain from using these (unless you're breaking up with him because he sucked in bed, in which case you better lie.)

2. Don't try to be "friends" once it's over. That just drags out the inevitable; it gives him hope that you might change your mind.

3. Don't have sex with him the night you break up with him or later when he crawls back begging for you to take him back.

4. Insist on NO contact. Breaking off for good is always better for both and less stressful.

Obviously, this all can vary depending on your circumstances and your relationships.

Just remember: Be Gentle, Lying can be good for the male ego and less hurting and Specificity, well, it can sometimes be too specific its better to be Ambiguous.
Good Luck>r

Answer 2

If a person is bad for you in your life, how can they be bad for you when they're out of your life?

You miss them? So what? Better to cope with missing them than to keep someone toxic around so you won't be alone. There are worse things than being alone. So tell them to move on... and you move on too.

Answer 3

You are feeling the withdrawal symptoms of being in love. Just "let it go" and don't dwell on it. With time, you will simply, forget all about him. A new "him" will fill the void created. Good luck !!!

Answer 4

the two on the 2d. I honestly have been ill all day and that i'm pissed off that i could no longer be with my young toddlers and hubby for the most of the day. i'm sexually pissed off because of the fact previously I have been given ill, hubby and that i've got been slightly naughty and it did no longer circulate everywhere because of the fact I ot the tummy flu!!!!! I only wanna pull my hair out!!! ARGHH!!!!!

Answer 5

There's an old saying..."time heals all wounds". People may hurt you but in time the hurt will fade and you will be better for the experience. Don't let them defeat you!

Answer 6

when i was in love, and when our relationship ended i felt the same way. I went to my friends and they helped me though it. I would suggest you talk to your best friends about it, they will help you fill better....

Answer 7

Better you concentrate on your career and studies before you enter in this type of crap .

Answer 8

Could you expand on the question a bit?

Answer 9

listen to ur heart and instincts they never lie. trust urself and be confedent in ur choice

Answer 10

just get drunk for a while