Can cheaters EVER prosper while in a relationship? Can anyone be guilt free when they cheat?

Answer 1

Not everyone is built for total monogamy. People who aren't should be honest about that. There's just one problem. Most people these days are living in a dreamland based on an overblown sense of entitlement. They don't understand that 3 million years of evolution, and the counsel of most of the world's oldest faiths, cannot override a mere 500 years trend.

That is what western style monogamy is: a trend.

A much more sane option is natural monogamy. This is where people control their behavior for real reasons like safety and better organization and division of resources, instead of made up reasons like religion...most of which either don't even idealize monogamy, or describe it as an ideal that is nearly impossible for most people to live up to and be honest people at the same time.

Folks should focus less on monogamy and more on love. Then when cheating happens, the real reasons it's bad like betrayal and deceit can be dealt with. Exclusivity is something people should have to earn. It shouldn't be the default condition for romance. Many years have been wasted from people locking themselves to folks who don't deserve it.

That said, anyone who lies, betrays, and goes behind someone's back, doesn't deserve to be in a relationship. Any relationships they are in will be farces. Trust is one of the most important things in any kind of relationship, so if you know someone is in the habit of breaking it, don't trust them anymore.

Some people just don't care how others feel. They are following their most base instincts, and not considering one of the most crucial, which is the desire for real love. They've turned that off in themselves, or pushed its priority down beneath getting their jollies. In other words, they are twisted.

On the other hand, sometimes society and unrealistic expectations twist people. If you marry someone, you should be prepared to have sex with them regularly and possibly frequently. If you don't then you are misusing the benefits of your position in order to exploit someone's reproductive, emotional, and/or material resources.

If you are exploiting someone, then you should have nothing to say when they escape from, or exploit you in return.

Answer 2

I have know some people to feel no guilt when they do something wrong though most people do feel various levels of guilt. As far as ever prospering, I guess it depends on what you mean by prosper. A cheater may seem to achieve some degree of fullfillment in the short run, but in the long run, cheating is usually a bad idea. Ever heard of "Karma", the "Law of Sowing and Reaping", "What Goes Around. Comes Around?"

Answer 3

The answer for your first question depends on the cheater him/herself and of the situation he/she is in.If he/she is a reformed one, and would really wanted to have the relationship work, it would.

for being guilt free if the "cheater" feels no qualms or whatsoever & it was just a fling for him/her, there's no guilt to feel,since no deep emotions were invest on his/her part.Although, if the partner gets hurt be affected on a certain level, some "cheaters" feel a tingle in their conscience, being pricked if they're humane enough.

Answer 4

You know what sucks, there ARE people ...that have been married for many many years....and one of them cheated on their significant other many many times.....and unfortunately the other one is still completely OBLIVIOUS of the fact.....i've heard some stories and seen the crap myself...that has got to be the most f*cked up sh*t i have ever heard and seen in my entire life..people f*cking suck who do that...honestly they don't deserve to live or even BE in a relationship, they shouldn't be married, they should just go into swinger society and be happy with that....or be a player, or be a damn porn star, and stop wasting people's lives and breaking and using people's hearts with that sh*t.....and they have NO FREAKIN GUILT! None whatsoever...and a lot of them feel JUSTIFIED about doin it too....ain't that some sh*t? Justice has obviously died in that aspect....all you can do is just HOPE you don't fall in love with that kind of scum.

Answer 5

When I did it I was very unhappy and I know it's not right but I needed something I couldn't get by asking for , and still unhappy about what I did bwcause till I married I was virgin and to do the wrong while the right is there feels more guilt , but still I needed that thing at that time .
If you need more information ps me .

Answer 6

for sure cheaters prosper. the ingredient is, its puzzling to come across a cheater that change into effective, because they're very sturdy at hiding that they cheated. that is at the same time as they prosper. at the same time as they could cover how they cheat.

Answer 7

I don't think anyone that cheats can be guilt free. I think they may make up some garbage in there head to justify what they did or what there doing to make it easier for themselves

Answer 8

I don't think so - but it's probably a blip to them until they meet the right person for them.

In fairness, there are people who really want to believe that the second or third or first person they meet, romantically, is going to be theirs for life. And then there are people who might like to meet someone & get to know them & their friends & family & not be too serious until they are absolutely sure that they will want to be part of their family, invite them to be part of theirs, maybe have their children, regardless of anything else going on in the world at that time. It's not always easy to deny that you are not that person for them.

Answer 9

Yes

Answer 10

im gonaa say hell no...trust me i just cheated on my b-friend a month or so ago and i still feel really bad about it even tho he knows about it ..im just gonna say dont cheat...its not healthy just turn temptation down....or break up before u cheat because in the end u hurt the both of u....