Do I expect to much?

Question

I have been seeing this guy for about a month now. He is younger then me. When we first started seeing each other he would call every day, ask me to come over, you know the basic stuff, but now I feel like he doesn't do that stuff anymore. It just makes me wonder if I expect more out of men then they are able to give? or Is there something else going on? when we do talk or see each other everythings fine. Maybe i'm just peranoud. Help me understand what normal expectations are and whataren't normal? maybe i'm setting them up for failure. How do I talk to him about these things without sounding psycho?

I'm not in school, we both work a full time jobs. I know that it's still early. Things just changed all of a sudden. I don't expect him to spend all of his time with me, nor would I want to. I just don't want to overlook something because i'm being nieve

Answer 1

It would be great if that "honeymoon" period would last forever :) I know I have been disappointed before when the calls and invitations slow down.

It is normal. He was probably getting to know you at first. Now, y'all are running out of new and interesting topics. If things are still good when you do talk to or see each other, then you shouldn't worry about it too much. If he keeps on calling and/or seeing you on a daily basis, it will probably eventually get boring for both of you. ... Unless your daily lives are full of extreme and exciting activities.

My advice to you if there are future relationships with other guys... Try not to make yourself quite as available. I use to think that it was silly to pretend that you are busy when you aren't really, but it does help it take longer to get to the point where you are now. ... Hanging out with a guy 2 or 3 times a week and talking to him maybe 4 days a week should be plenty at first. Even though I know it is tempting to try for all you can get!

As far as how to talk to him about it, you will have to play that one by ear. You may start by hinting to him how much you enjoyed those daily talks. You could tell him it would be sweet to occasionally get a quick call to just say "hi." If he doesn't take the hint, try briefly calling him once a day or every other day, just to let him know that you're thinking of him. If this doesn't work out, then you may have to just come right out and ask if he likes how things are going or if he thinks the two of you need to back off a bit.

Answer 2

Are you still in school? One month- that's not a long time. You expect too much at this time. If someone is really interested- they'll spend time with you.

Answer 3

Sounds like the honeymoon phase is over to me...

Maybe he is wanting you to call him too...Try it and see what happens.

Or maybe he losing interest and/or unsure of his feelings.

Just be patient...a month isn't that long...let the relationship run its course.

Answer 4

honestly there r no real explanation but that u need to keep in mind that u r not everything in his life (no offence intended) he has other things to do and other people that expect to see him as well dont worry ull see the signs if anything is wrong

Answer 5

Here's the advice I wish I'd been given when I was first dating... Guys are not girls. They don't act like girls, they don't think like girls, they don't do the daily gossip/hang out like girlfriends do. If everything's fine when you're together, relax. And don't expect him to act like your girlfriends.