PARENTS: What would you do if you found out your spouce and their friends used your oldest as a punchin bag?

Question

So often, the kid thought it was normal.

Answer 1

I would have my husband's things packed and dropped off at his mother's. He would come home and the locks would be changed with a note saying abusers aren't welcome. I would make sure his whole family knew why he was thrown out. I would be at my attorney's office filing for divorce and full custody.

If he did not willingly handle this, the police would be called. But either way, your child did not ask to be born. You asked for your child. It is your duty to protect him, not your spouse. Do right by him as his mother and get rid of the trash that's been abusing him.

Answer 2

I'd call the cops and social services. If you find out that your oldest is being abused and you do not report it you to can be held responsible. I dont even allow my spouse to raise his voice to the children it is uncalled for. And if the child is thinking its normal just how damn long have you turned a blind eye to it? If this is the situation maybe foster care is best because the other parent isnt even able or willing to protect them as they should.

Oh and then I'd use my spouse for target practice.

Answer 3

Report it, this kind of behavior is not normal.
Your kids should be your priority,
Give your kid lots of love and talk to him. He probably doesn't understand why has been happening. If you stay with your husband and do nothing about it, shame on you. because physical and verbal abuse is the worse that could happen to a child. So please!! don't let this kind of situation happen again. You should be concern about your other children's too, ask them questions, if your husband was capable of hurting the oldest, he probably already did something to the others.
Love, and understanding is what he needs right now. Good Luck..

Answer 4

I can't believe you could even ask this like you didn't know the answer. OF COURSE the answer is call the cops right away! Don't have ANY relationship again with those people. It's your duty and responsibility to protect your child! Just because to YOU your kid often thought it's normal, that doesn't mean you should do nothing!

Answer 5

Get the kid out of the situation first, lose the spouse, and call the cops and get them all in trouble. That is ridiculous. Get the kid out now, don't want to subject him to any more cruel beatings, poor guy, hope nothing is hurt on the inside.

Answer 6

I would make a point of not allowing my spouce to spend time with my children alone, in fear of them getting hurt. I would investigate more into the situation and get all the facts

Answer 7

First get you and kids out of there fast. Like yesterday. Second go to the police and report it, then call a divorce lawyer. It will only get worse and worse until the kid get seriously hurt, or they start on you as well.

Answer 8

I would call the police and not let your eldest child be anywhere near your spouse or friends. Get your child out of that situation - you are the parent and your role is to protect your child. There really is no other option IMO.

Answer 9

Um.... CALL THE COPS!

Whether there are bruises or not, it's still abuse... and if you don't and somebody else finds out and calls the cops you'll get in trouble even if you are innocent because you knew about it and you didn't report it... this same kind of thing happened to a friend of mine and they took her kids away from her for 3 months.

Answer 10

First, get yourself, your oldest, and the rest of your kids OUT of there.

Second, call the cops and report the spouse and friends for child abuse.

Third, call the divorce lawyer.