i have been in a relationship 14 yrs he has cheated a few times always comes home to me ...i love him will he?

Question

ever stop....does he love me ....he says he does

Answer 1

After 14 years, the chances of him stopping cheating are extremely low, almost non-existant.

Does he love you? I don't know. Do you feel like he means it when he says that he does? If he has been with you for 14 years, I would think that he probably loves you. But if he has been cheating, he doesn't love you the way that he should. ... Like I am sure that you have friends or relatives that you love. But you don't love them as husband material.

I have heard that for some people, being with other people can be like an adiction. And adictions are diseases that can not be easily cured.

My advice to you... End the relationship. Every time he cheats, he is risking bringing home uncurable diseases to share with you. And it must be taking an emotional toll for you to be mentioning it on here.

If he really loves you, and if you really love him, then it may get ackward for a while but the two of you will eventually be able to agree on a mutual friendship. Then he will be free to live his life as he pleases and you will be free to open the doors to the possibility of a man who will treat you right.

I wish you the best. I was with a man who I believe cheated on me for over a year. I know it hurts and the idea of being without the one that you love can be scarey. But I can say from experience that it does slowly get better after you go your separate ways. After breaking up with my ex, I got to enjoy dating new and interesting men, and now I am getting to enjoy single life. It's not as bad as I thought it would be. In fact, in a way it's refreshing to be free to dream of having any man I wish.

Answer 2

I have been cheated on. The pain is terrible and you don't know when he's lying or when he's telling the truth. Chances are he will cheat again. He will lie to you and you will NEVER know what to believe. You will always wonder what he is doing when is is not with you. 14 years is a long time, which makes your decision a little harder than some. You have gotten use to the way your life is with him, and are probaly afraid of change, but sometimes change is good. No..I don't think he loves you, I think he is use to you, and he too is afraid of change. There is someone eles for you, and if you don't want someone eles....alone can be good to. You get to figure out what you want. I suggest trying change. I think you will be pleased.

Answer 3

I am sorry to say but it doesn't sound like he's gonna stop, especially since it isn't just once he's cheated

YOU DESERVE BETTER!!!! Even if you love him, you've gotta find a way to move one, I know sometimes it's hard, and that you probably really love him, but if he keeps hurting you, is that really worth it? Don't you deserve better? I think you need to just move on and get on with life. I'd personally rather be single and just enjoying life, then be in a relationship just getting hurt repeatedly, I hope you find a way to get over him. And good luck.

Answer 4

I'm sorry to say he will cheat again. I'm a man who has cheated before. We will do it again, because we are looking for something we perceive as better. We will always come back if you take us. We are weak and can't stand on our own. This isn't about men. It's about human traits. Male or female, doesn't matter. Moving on is very hard and the cheater won't leave you alone. He/she is used to you taking them back. They have nowhere to turn.

Answer 5

Honey, he doesn't love anyone but himself. Of course he says he does he needs a place to stay and someone for in between times. I doubt he'll ever stop. It's like the old saying "fool me once shame on you, fool me twice shame on me" Kick him out before he brings something home to you that you really don't want.

Answer 6

I dont doubt that he loves you, but the fact that he's cheated on you would make me wary. But look, honey. He's been with you for 14 years? Come on, the guy obviously loves you, or he would have broken up with you if he was unhappy. People make mistakes. I'm sure he regrets them. (that's not to say I wouldn't worry at all, just be aware, you know?) And if your questioning his Fidelity, maybe you should talk to him about how you feel?

Answer 7

First let me say,this has happened to me,and speaking from my own experience,it tends to stretch out the inevitable,that number one,hell do it again. Number two,he cant love you,as harsh as that sounds, how is it possible, love is between two people,not one sided,and straying. I say its hard to leave,hard to deal with,but in the long run, the benefits outweigh the pain you will feel,with having to end it. Hope i helped. :D

Answer 8

14 yrs is one hell of a time. but good thing you haven't married him. cheating is wrong. it opens you up to sexually transmitted diseases, emotional, and mental anguish. its not a surprise he comes back to you. most of the time a married man doesn't leave his wife for the other woman. but the main reason he comes back to you is because he knows you tolerate it. and he may love you. just because soembody cheats doesn't mean they don't love their partner, they just don't respect them...think about it

Answer 9

He will NEVER stop.He loves HIMSELF and only HIMSELF(and maybe some friends and family but definetly not you). I'd tell you that you should leave,but you've probably heard and ignored that sage advice many a time.

Answer 10

i dont think he will change, its in his body and character. men are really polygamus by instinct. they always had reason of doing such things. they always had hang ups. and always looking for fun. i think he loves you, but he cant control himself. if he doesnt love you, he will never come back to you. if you are still young, wake-up my dear, dont waste your remaining years with this kind of guy. yes, he loves you but its unfair to a relationship of hurting a person whom you love most. its your choice, if you will stay with him forever.