I picked up this girl...?

Question

I met this girl in class and I took her out to dinner. We had a great time + i gave her a kiss on the cheek and she wanted to do this again with me. The next time i saw her i didnt feel the same way about her and i never spoke to her again. I see her sometimes just walking around campus and i catch her looking at me but we dont talk besides that... i hope she doesnt think im a jackass or anythig i just took her out for one night is that cool? btw i think she had a bf anyway

Answer 1

well by avoiding her you are being a jackass.... Talk to her... what is wrong with having another friend???

Answer 2

how can feelings change so quick? just cauz u dont like her in a romantic way doesnt mean u have to push her aside and cant be good friends with her..thats kinda mean not talking all of a sudden, be nice dude! she probably feels something is going on here

Answer 3

This was a post on my myspace...you figure it out...

Know what I cannot stand?? "The Fade".


That's a phrase I have only heard from a really good friend of mine several months ago.



I smiled when she said it, because it made so much sense…after she explained it all to me.



She was interested in someone/they were interested in her. They went on a couple of dates and then *poof*



After those dates and a few of phone calls, he vanished into thin air. With no discussion, commentary or explanation. He was suddenly too busy to answer his phone, return e-mails or place phone calls, unlike her recent previous experiences with him. He didn't call her anymore.



He seemed really into her at first. Then he suddenly got too busy for communicating, maybe because he didn't want to deal with it? I dunno. It left her wondering, WTF?!? What did I do??? Communications with him faded…no explanation.



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She got "The Fade" people…



We've all been there. We've probably all done that…and that doesn't make it right. Right???



I don't get it. I am one to respond when the question to meet again faces me and I am not interested. I have made the honest (mostly) and uncomfortable explanation and discussion of what I was thinking (positive and negative) a priority because I felt that I owed it to the other person. It's the right thing to do. It doesn't mean it's the easy thing to do.



When placed gently, the other person knows without a doubt that it is, in fact, not what I was looking for and then we both move on. No problem. Feelings are probably bruised, but it is the right thing to do. We are being honest and grown up. Plus, we all have to share this planet, last time I checked. We are playing nice.



So in my friend's case, he was the one not wanting to continue it. Shouldn't it be "his" job to do the dirty work? Let her down easy and then move on? After all, he's the one not wanting to continue it. Let her off the hook for Pete's sake! She'll beat herself up for days otherwise.



Disclaimer: If they are psycho and have a history of physical or verbal assault: you have the legal system, local police and the local courts on your side. Use as directed.



Why have we come to this place where the courtesy of a simple discussion doesn't even factor in? I don't get it. Why is it so hard to be real? Don't we owe that to each other as human beings? Is it really that hard?



I have been in situations where I really didn't want to deal with it, but I know that not dealing with it is not the right thing to do. It makes things harder for someone else. The whole thing totally sucks. You dread that phone call or a face to face, dealing with the confrontation. You know it makes the other person feel badly and you really don't want to deal with it…so you do/don't? But, the last thing you want to do it hurt the other person's feelings. I get that. So, what is the best way to handle it?



In this day and age…and at our ages, shouldn't we take responsibility for the feelings of another person when it comes to letting them down? I mean, you don't want to be there anymore. Isn't it our responsibility to tell them?



Well, I really think we all should. We owe it to ourselves, and the people that we come in contact with and share our time with. You gotta check that mirror from time to time, don't you? And we are all adults here, last time I checked.



Thinking again…age has nothing to do with common courtesy. We all learn that in Kindergarten. Our parents teach us that from day one, or they should. Grow up people. Take responsibility and do what is right.



Live out loud and do the right thing.



Be honest.



Let them down gently.



Besides, it's kinda like ripping off a band-aid. It only hurts for a minute, if it's done the right way. And then you can both go off to the playground and start over. ;)

What do you think? Lived that....it sucks.

Answer 4

She probably thinks your an a.. hole..BUT that can easily be redeemed if you still want to be friends with her..or maybe even give it another shot..but yeah..if she said she wanted to do it again..and you blew her off..yeah..she thinks your a d..k

Answer 5

Kiss her lips and chew her b**b and turned her ni*ple severel times and see these two and send some photo to [e-mail]

Answer 6

You have nothing to berate yourself for. You were a perfect gentleman throughout. Her wishing to continue to date you is simply a compliment on your behavior.

Answer 7

she not only thinks you are a jackars, she knows for sure, you tells everybody you are a jerk