I want to ask this guy to hang out sometime. I like him, and I think he likes me, but since we work together it's a delicate situation. I don't want to ask him out unless I know for sure. But I know if we started hanging out, things might happen naturally, as that's been the case for me with most guys I've dated in the past.
If I ask him to hang out, will he know why I'm asking, or will he think I'm just asking him to hang out as friends like I'm hoping he will?
2006-11-28 17:40:37 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
When I say it worked for me in the past, it was because the guy asked me to 'hang out' and no, we didn't 'hang out' at his place. I know what guys mean when they ask that, though I pretend not to so that I have more time to get to know them.
I've never had to ask a guy out before, or even to just hang out (the first time we hung out, anyway). They always ask me. But this guy is painfully shy and I think I have to take the initiative.
2006-11-28 17:47:41 · update #1
Guys are funny.
Perhaps you're right and you need to take the initiative... but perhaps he's not prepared to have a significant other in his life due to a variety of reasons- Immaturity, past relationships gone bad- whatever the reason.
I think that asking to hang out is a reasonable request- but if he's as painfully shy as you say- he might say no. This doesn't mean he doesn't like you- he's just too shy.
Also something to think about- If you're outgoing (I don't know if you are or not...)- then is a shy guy really the best match for you?
At anyrate- getting to know the guy better is good no matter what- you might find that he's just not the type for you- or it could lead to him feeling comfortable enough around you to finally ask you out.
Best of Luck!
2006-11-29 13:33:46 · answer #1 · answered by Lauren 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most guys will think you want to be more than just friends. Ask him to hang out anyway. If he ends up not liking you the same way, at least you have someone nice to hang out with.
2006-11-28 17:43:55 · answer #2 · answered by newmum06 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You say it's worked for you in the past. Why not go with what works? If you ask him to hang out and he gets the right idea, then what's the prob? If you were just wanting to be friends and he took it serious then you'ld have problems. Otherwise, sounds like you know what to do.
2006-11-28 17:43:49 · answer #3 · answered by jare bare 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If a girl asks a guy to hang out where its just the two of them, that's a date. If you are doing it for the purpose of being friends, don't, you'll only be teasing him.
Don't go for guys you work with anyways if you value your job. If you court the opposite sex at work, you are constantly one call to Human Relations away from the unemployment line.
2006-11-28 17:42:58 · answer #4 · answered by Takfam 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want to be more than friends, you better let this guy know. Some males can be pretty dence when it comes to the opposite sex. If he doesn't know your intentions, you may end up one of the guys, and this can eventually make you feel out of place if you have feeling other than friendship for him.
2006-11-28 17:46:48 · answer #5 · answered by Stevie K. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It really can go either way unless when you say you want to hang out you mention doing something of a more friendly manner so to speak? like say, lets do lunch some time comapared to why dont you come over to my place tomorow night? make sense?
2006-11-28 17:43:23 · answer #6 · answered by Tyler_Durden 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi Lana, Just ask him to hang out as friends. If you don't say it that way,he will want to make love to you. Be smart and careful.
Clowmy
2006-11-28 17:45:23 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get to know him better at work, during breaks etc...maybe ask him to lunch firstly...then it can progress naturally if you were to say, hey, would you like to go here? I don't have anyone to go with to this and then it won't seem so obvious or be uncomfortable. Let it happen but let it progress naturally.
2006-11-28 17:44:51 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
truly no perchance's about it. He likes you. He would favor to pressure, yet i imagine it really is his way of exhibiting you he's there for you. Take it the position you want, see you later as your no longer most advantageous him on and he keeps making use of you i don't think of you're making use of him or something. he's doing it because he needs to. sturdy success and function exciting.
2016-10-07 22:53:11 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you ask him to hang out I think that he will definately know you like him, is that so bad. you said he might like you too.
2006-11-28 17:45:01 · answer #10 · answered by horslvr77 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋