How do I ask my partner of 2 years to concentrate on this for more than 2 mins when He (bless him) thinks he is doing a fabulous job? as I need more!!
2006-11-28 17:36:11 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Let me know when you find out! My husband has been the least "attentive" lover I've ever had. How do you explain that without sounding bad?
I guess if it's driving you nuts, you've got to be honest with him. Give him lots of s l o w pleasure and tell him that's how you like it.
Subtlety is lost on men.
2006-11-28 17:41:50 · answer #1 · answered by MsLongBeach 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Poor guy just gets over-excited. It's hard for them, because they can go from 0 to 100 in a nanosecond... for a woman, it takes time! When he IS doing a good job... say things like "oh, just like that... do that some more... a little longer." If he still wants to move too fast, push him back a bit, smile and say clearly "I want to spend more time making out with you/playing with you for a while. You'll have to slow down there, naughty boy." Then after everything, say "I loved how you pampered me when you did ____" "I love when you spend a lot of time with foreplay."
You could also "take the lead" more often. Play a little "game" where you get to tease him for as long as you want before you get down to business. Let him see how worked up it makes you. I hope it helps!
2006-11-28 17:46:47 · answer #2 · answered by Heidi 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You have to ask him to do it more, so like others have said, you have to communicate that to him otherwise nothing is going to change.
Maybe visit some web sties that give advice on the subject and new things you can try to enhance your relationship. You know what you like, so you should try and get satisfaction. You could find a new man, but maybe that is too big of a change, but it might be for the better as long as your satisfied.
2006-11-28 18:29:55 · answer #3 · answered by spokaneman99 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just kindly tell him that he makes you feel good but that there is something you'ld like him to try for you. Communication is the best way to a happy sex life.
2006-11-28 17:39:29 · answer #4 · answered by jare bare 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In any relationship you need to be able to communicate and it sounds like you've got a problem there. If your comfortable to have sex with a man then you should be comfortable enough to tell him what you like and need.
2006-11-28 17:40:19 · answer #5 · answered by sharpeilvr 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Tell him what a fabulous job he's doing....and when he does it longer, give him oral....he'll figure it out....
2006-11-28 17:42:19 · answer #6 · answered by Foss 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
ask him to go take a nice long shower, while you take care of the foreplay yourself.
2006-11-28 17:45:09 · answer #7 · answered by thevillageidiotxxxxx 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this has taken you 2 years?...... (Bless you) haha. Talk to him about it
2006-11-28 17:39:54 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just be honest if you have a strong relationship you should feel cmfortable. he'll prob thank you for telling him
2006-11-28 17:38:47 · answer #9 · answered by omissy2005 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Suggest he read some articles on askmen.com
I find it helpful for me and my bf.
2006-11-28 17:43:17 · answer #10 · answered by schweetums 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋