Ok girls (and guys), this is something that's been in the back of my head recently. I've been dating my girlfriend for 3 months and we're about to the point where we are going to begin sexual stuff. I think we both care about each other and we can talk about things fairly openly but I am unsure how to handle this. I am uncircumcised, and given that I live in the United States, I know I am in the minority. Should I tell her in advance that I am uncircumcised, or just let her find out when she sees it? I don't think she would like freak out or anything, but in the back of my mind I don't want her shocked either. How should I handle this?
2006-11-28 17:22:15 · 10 answers · asked by tyler w 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Rupi - So you think I should tell her BEFORE we do anything?
2006-11-28 17:33:33 · update #1
If she is a virgin, she won't notice. If she's been with a cut guy before, she will be astonished how much better it is with a WHOLE man. It's the way nature made men, and you don't need to be uptight about it.
2006-12-02 08:07:50 · answer #1 · answered by Maple 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Circumcision rates in the USA are 85% more or less, so yea, you are in the minority.
What I would do is thinking in geting circumcised at some point. There are many benefits...
Don't believe those who talk about mutilation and all that bullshit. Circumcision is NOT an amputation. Circumcision is NOT comparable at all to female circumcision, which is something completely different.
Circumcision is beneficial, keeps the penis cleaner and lowers the risk of urinary infections.
Several studies carried out by prestigious research bodies have concluded that circumcision reduces the risk of contracting AIDS-HIV and other STD's. Have a look at:
http://icuxbridge.icnetwork.co.uk/news/tm_objectid=14095142&method=full&siteid=53340&headline=-circumcision-protects-against-aids--name_page.html
As for women, research has also found that circumcision reduces infection and AIDS-HIV risks for female partners. Read this article for more details:
http://www.hopkinsmedicine.org/Press_releases/2006/02_08_06.html
As for the claims of sensitivity reduction, no medical or physiological study has proved this, opposed common belief that circumcision reduces sensitivity. The American Academy of Paediatrics (AAP) confirms this on their web site; have a look at: http://www.aap.org/pubed/zzzjzmemh4c.htm
Circumcision is an easy and nowadays painless procedure that has many benefits, and virtually no risks. Circumcised penises look much better to.
Circumcision rates are INCREASING nowadays, both in the United States and overseas. Many African and South American countries with little circumcision tradition are starting to promote the procedure to help to reduce the AIDS-HIV infection rates.
2006-11-29 05:50:08 · answer #2 · answered by Scuba 3 · 2⤊ 2⤋
I think you should do some research before you bring this up at the dinner table. The circumcision rate in the US is around 60% so you are only just in the minority. Check out this website: http://www.cirp.org/library/statistics/USA/ for more info.
2006-11-28 17:32:11 · answer #3 · answered by Bethany 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Okay, it may seem really wierd to you, and it may look wierd to her at first, but really we dont care. Just explain to her that you aren't circumsized, and then go about your business. It's not like it will stop you from performing, or you won't be any less differnt to us.
2006-11-28 17:26:51 · answer #4 · answered by Rupi G 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I completely agree with Scuba.
My advice: get circumcised before you tell her anything. Its easy, quick and with anesthesia painless. I'm sure you'll never regret.
2006-11-30 10:12:54 · answer #5 · answered by popibz 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would wait, and let her see it and if she acts even a little put off then ask her how she feels.
2006-11-28 17:24:15 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
jeese chill out. it's not a big deal really. i didn't notice at first and once i did, i didn't care. besides it's easier to play with if you know what i mean..
2006-11-28 17:27:04 · answer #7 · answered by likemmkay 1 · 3⤊ 1⤋
hmmm well...i don't think she will care that much, unless she is shallow, uhmm...maybe you should tell her before...just in case...but then again...if you don't, it should be find also...either way you go...it will work out great!!
2006-11-28 17:25:22 · answer #8 · answered by tomwlglvr5 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
" give me a break...you are way to worried about nothing...get on with your life man!"
2006-11-28 17:24:46 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Just surprise her with cheese and crackers.
2006-11-28 17:24:17 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋