My sister (17) is dating an adult (22), I suspect sex --what do I do?

Question

My sister, 17, has been seeing her boyfriend, 22, since she was 15 years old. I'm her oldest brother, 25. I used to intimidate this guy and threatened to kick his ***. Never actually did --cause violence doesn't answer anything, and as it turns out neither does intimidation.

I'm currently going to college and living at home. I see this man at my house everyday. For several months I've been catching them lying in the same couch at night time, which my parents forbid but don't enforce.

I'd like to know about what I can do to get this man out, because my parents like having him pay rent.

What should I do?

Answer 1

Make sure your parents know what is going on when they aren't home. Do they know that your sister and this guy are doing this kind of stuff? Make sure you tell your parents what is going on. Ask them if they realize they are paying a guy to stay at their house to sleep with an underage girl.

If you really want to cause problems for this guy, you can report him to the police and tell them that he is sleeping with a minor for the past two years. Your parents aren't doing anything about it, and the scumbag needs to get out of your parent's house.

Even if she has been seeing this guy for two years, that doesn't mean she is "mature" enough to realize what is going on. Think back to when you were 17 years old. Did you know everything about relationships, sex, and guys/girls taking advantage of you? Probably not. Unfortunately we don't learn that kind of thing unless we have been through it or have seen somebody go through it. I don't think your sister realizes that it was wrong of this guy to go out with her when she was 15 years old. If a 20 year old wants to date a 15 year old, obviously he's scum. Can I help you get this guy kicked out - please??? :-D

Even if your parents allow this guy to live in their house, it's still illegal for him to date your sister (for the past 2 years), no matter WHERE he is living.

I commend you for keeping an eye out for your little sister. :-)

Answer 2

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Answer 3

Id kick his A## if it where my sister .But she is of legal age and she would probably hate you for it.if you think about it in a few years the age difference wont really matter.But if its a case of him being a jerk or disrespecting your sister in any way then i think you need to do something.She is really young and will be blind to a lot of things he does and she probably likes the fact that her friends know she has an older boyfriend.You are going to have to let her make her own mistakes.don't worry it will make her a stronger and better person.When i was 17 i was with a 21 year old that had separated from his wife bottom line.I got hurt but I'm a better person for it :) If he does hurt her she will be ok and then you can kick his a## for it

Answer 4

Sex with consenting 17yr old young woman is legal in majority of states, other states will not bother getting involved because of her age and the small age difference between them. What you should do is but out your sister is a young woman not a child, she is free to live her life at this point.

Answer 5

Ummm so u say they been seeing eachother since she was 15? well i read something like that in seventeen magizine and the older sister did a background check so that might help and talk with you parents and sister and him if possible sounds nasty hope everything works out!!!!!

Answer 6

I think your parents should be the adult here, but it doesn't sound like they are. Why they allowing him to live with them? Your parents aren't stupid they probably already know they are having sex.They sacrifice their own daughters respect for a little bit of money.I think you both "grown men" should be on your own. Your parents should had him arrested when your sister was 15.

Answer 7

keep things real.

if youre sister has been in this relationship for two years, and dating someone who is much older than her, you can assume she is mature.
with that being said, sit her down as an older brother and talk to her as another adult. simply tell her how you feel. also, talk to the boyfriend and tell him its nothing personal. let him know you just have to get used to the fact that your "little" sister is growing up. reassure the two of them that they could still see each other outside the house.

they best understand!

Answer 8

join in with them and have a threesome....just kidding, man. well, this is tough since he is paying the bills. i mean do you guys need him to pay the bills? if you guys are poor then you should probably let him stay. if you are rich then there are many things you can do. well first of all, besides sex, is there anything else wrong with this guy? is he a good person? if so, then why not let him stay. if he is up to no good, and if it is affecting you and your family, then throw him out. kick him.

Answer 9

Tell your parents, make sure your sister doesn't know, or she'll start screaming at you, maybe. I don't know how your family is. Or, you can make him feel very uncomfortable. Like, not letting them leave your sight, EVER, and, if he, like, say, asks her to go out, be rude, butt in, ask her to do something she'll like even more than what he has to say. Like, he asks her to the movies Friday night, get tickets to some upcoming concert by her favorite band that just happens to be on the same night, or ask her to go to some super awesome amusement park with just her and her best friend, at your expense, of course. treat her like you used to when you were little, happy memories, talk about stuff he wasn't there to see and doesn't know about, be more of a big brother to her than that guy is as a boyfriend, call her old nick names she hasn't heard in a while, put together a family reunion, invite STRICTLY family members and VERY CLOSE FRIENDS, not him. Find out what he's getting her for Christmas and outdo it. Ask her to help out with things, leaving him alone. Whenever you see them kiss or something, make your presence known, like 'get a room' or 'eew, nasty', something to get their attention and make them stop. Be subtle with what you do though, or she might realize you're up to something. And never, ever, engage in friendly conversation with that guy. Talk to hima about things that you know for a fact he has no clue about, and make it sound like that thing is your whole life and you would automatically shun anyone who didn't like it or know about it. Or you could ask him(make sure you sister's not around) wether he's havein sex with her. If he answers 'yes', or if he says 'no', but doesn't look you in the eye, tell him 'If you get my sister pregnant before she's moved out of this house, so help me God you won't see another minute in her wake. Getting her pregnant before she's living stabily on her own will mean she's going to have a baby before she's even capable of living on her own. The only reason I'm not biting your head off for having premarital sex with my sister is because I can see she really, truly, loves you, and that she is planning on spending the rest of her long, innocent life with you.' The long part should get him scared if he doesn't want to get married. You might also want to add that if he ever gets her pregnant he'd better plan on marrying her. Pregnancyand marrage and living on their own, if it doesn't break them up, along with out doing him, then nothing will, and that stuff's something they should probably start thinking about. I know it's long, I'm one of those love to pick on your sister types, I knoe all about this, and I can see where you're coming from. Hope this helps!

Answer 10

Not a lot you Can do, If your parent's do not object, well that is it.

How old were you when you first had sex? Would you have liked your sister to have a say in this?