2 liters of wine is way too much per night. Think of a two liter bottle of soda - that's a LOT for one person to drink - especially if it's an alcoholic drink.
Maybe just one day ask him casually if he ever worries that drinking alcohol will effect his health. That will give you an idea about how he will react to somebody confronting him about his drinking. If he gets defensive, you know he doesn't want somebody telling him he's got a problem (which he sounds like he does). If he asks why you are asking him that, tell him that you've been hearing a lot about how drinking a lot of alcohol can damage organs and cause a lot of health problems.
If he says that he's been thinking about how much he drinks, then maybe that's an opening to talk with him about if he ever thought about cutting down the amount he drinks, or if he wants to talk to someone about his habit.
I've had several friends that were alcoholics, some knew they were, some didn't. I hope your friend realizes what he's doing to himself before he gets in very serious trouble or has health problems.
In my experience, whenever somebody was confronted about drinking, they would totally deny they had a problem. Don't take it personally if he gets mad at you for asking about it. Alcoholics tend to push people away and don't realize that they are pushing away the people that care about them. Some alcoholics never realize they have a problem, even if they are living on the streets and only care about where there next drink is coming from. Remember, not all alcoholics accept help even if it is offered to them.
I wish you luck with your friend. :-)
2006-11-28 17:12:13
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answered by duck's attitude 5
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Back in the day my dad was going through a divorce and would drink one bottle of wine every night. If your friend is drinking three bottles he's obviously having a drinking problem as well as not knowing when to stop. If it really is serious and this has been going on for a while i would get his family or a main family member involved, but without getting into it yourself. This way his family can reason with him and you can still have your friendship.
If you choose to be involved that can be okay too. Also you must confront him not while he's drinking. If family isn't enough, and it usually isn't, try getting him to go to a AA meeting as a guest. Not as member because you didnt want to push it on him. You just want him to understand the consequences it has to himself and the people around him. If he can understand that he might just kick the 3 bottles a night and indulge on a glass or two. I personally think a bottle a night is still too much, but if you can get him to go lower, then i would say anything is better than nothing.
2006-11-28 17:05:06
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answered by Anonymous
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2 Litres
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answered by kinnu 4
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If he can slow down how much he drinks, you should suggest he sees a counselor, i have seen many people that drink alot and that can go through the daily routine, many people think that this means that they are ok, and that theres nothing to worry about. What this really means is that they are a "functional alcoholic" and it is just as serious as any other alcoholic. You need to tell your friend how you feel, but without being too confrontational. See if you can get some of your other friends to be there as well to support you and him as well.
He's lucky, not many people in his shoes have someone who cares enough about it to try and help...
2006-11-28 17:04:15
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answered by Kyle N 2
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First you need to find out why he is drinking so much. He might be self medicating himself to help ease an underlying problem. He could be depressed or really stressed about something. Talk to him. He may not even know or realize he is drinking that much also.
2006-11-28 19:14:11
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answered by mardaw 3
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Drinking one 750ml. bottle a night is too much. He's drinking almost three times that. He's probably never really sober. Get him to go with you to Alcoholics anonymous! Then get him a therapist. If he won't go, go to AA, go yourself and read the book they give you to be better able to support him, if you think he's worth it.
There are AA meetings everywhere. Look in the phone book for starters and they will get you in touch with a local meeting.
He won't begin to return to reality until he wants it himself though.
People who drink that much are avoiding their feelings with alcohol, a drug.
If he won't respond, I suggest you don't invest your time with him unless you want to as a charity case.....but it is better left up to a trained professional or AA.
Good Luck!
2006-11-28 17:49:24
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answered by Corkbouy 2
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Hell yeah. That's way too much. He needs to see a doctor or go to AA. He could die of liver poison or some other Alcohol related disease.
2006-11-28 17:01:34
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answered by wjb 3
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if it is regular he may be an alcoholic and would be the last one to admit it
good luck
a very difficult sometimes impossible situation ,that usually does not get resolved untill disaster strikes ,and only professional help is capable of dealing with it.
2006-11-28 17:05:59
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answered by Anonymous
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He Is way over the legal limit at that rate. Alcoholic poisoning, sounds like you friend is close, just a matter of time.
2006-11-28 17:18:24
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answered by spokes2000 2
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First step is to find an Alanon meeting near you. They are for people who deal with alcoholics in their lives.
2006-11-28 17:05:36
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answered by theoriginalquestmaker 5
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