I'm just screwed in the extreme- not literally ( I wish!), but I just cannot seem to get it right with guys. When they like me, all that they seem to want is sex, and I just don't get it. I'm not a skank, I don't dress like one, I'm intelligent, and I'm a great person (I'm not trying to sound stuck-up by the way- sorry y'all if I do!). But whatever it is, commited relaitonships just aren't happening at this point, and I'm getting sick of the spontinaeity. I used to enjoy going out, and just meeting random guys, but now it just feels so stupid. How can I get it right?
2006-11-28 16:48:23 · 12 answers · asked by jemm4president 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
For the most part (and there are exceptions here) I'm afraid to say that for the most part that's the number one thing guys want, is just sex, and aren't looking for anything serious.
It isn't really until guys mature that they really think about the love, marriage and growing old together. I'm my case those feelings really didn't hit home 'til I was in my 20's.
2006-11-28 16:57:39 · answer #1 · answered by Microsoft Bob 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not sure what your religious beliefs are but you might try looking for a spiritual man. Someone who isn't out for sex, but wants to find a connection with you.
Men are wired differently than women. Men are more visual and women more emotional.(Usually, but not always) This is a problem when men have no moral compass, because they just seek physical pleasure. Women get hurt in the process and to be honest the men hurt themselves as well.
I used to pursue women like this. I told myself I was a good guy and I was looking for love. I suppose on some level I was but I had no self control and hurt people in the process.
Hope I am not saying too much, but I don't mind giving you my honest open opinion.
BTW, I am married to a great spiritual woman now and have been a faithful husband for 7 years. Still have emotional scars and memories from the past though.
2006-11-29 00:53:57 · answer #2 · answered by songndance1999 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its just kind of hit or miss. Guys run into the same problems........damn golddiggers. Just gotta kinda weed out the bad apples. Just keep up and sooner or later youll find a guy with a heart out there who has finally matured enough to want more in a relationship than just sex.
2006-11-29 00:53:32 · answer #3 · answered by Tyler_Durden 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Guys have raging hormones, it's in our blood to wanna procreate, but we have set ourselves to standards of saying No, it's natural, all animals do it, but you must be careful, only do it with someone you know and love,most guys are scared of commitment also, but after a while of dating we warm up to the idea
2006-11-29 00:52:13 · answer #4 · answered by William L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop trying to find the right guy it will happen. The more you try the more you scare away the guys
2006-11-29 09:07:03 · answer #5 · answered by Joseph R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Change where your looking for men going to the same place will just get you more of the same find a new fishing hole.
2006-11-29 00:50:22 · answer #6 · answered by d2347 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
stop talking to the guys that are just looking for sex, or definatly stop hanging around the places that your finding all these guys at because there are guys out there looking for more then sex.
2006-11-29 00:54:12 · answer #7 · answered by zeppelin8_13 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Change you selection process in the men you are interested in, try meeting them in other places like church or the park or bookstore.
-NmD!
2006-11-29 00:51:14 · answer #8 · answered by NoMaD! 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're probably just toooo sexually attractive for guys to notice other stuff.
2006-11-29 00:51:32 · answer #9 · answered by Somebody S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find guys that aren't *******.
2006-11-29 00:50:41 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋