I'm 20 years old, and i've been dating this guy for just over a month, he's 32. He's the greatest guy ever! He's sweet, funny, romantic, he makes me feel like a real woman. We talk on the phone a couple times a week, and see each other when we can. We're crazy about each other. But i'm not sure how to tell my mom.... When i was 18 i has a 32 year old friend where i met him from work... we were friends nothing more, she got pissed off saying what does a 32 y/o guy have in common with a 18 y/o girl?.... Now i'm unsure how to tell her without her going crazy on me... I live with her, and I haven't been dating my boyfriend long enough to move in with him.... How do i break the ice and tell her what's going on? I'm looking for some good advice. thanks
2006-11-28 16:37:49 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
she just loves you and you are old enough now to tell her that your in love with him and age is nothing but a number but prepare for her to be upset for not wanting to let you go. Don't stress 2 much.
2006-11-28 16:42:00 · answer #1 · answered by just lil ol' me 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mothers tend to be over-protective ( I am a Mom, so I can relate :) )
It is normal for your Mom to question any man's intentions with her daughter, when you add the age difference it makes it even harder for her. I think you should listen to her concerns and let her know you appriciate her looking out for you, but that he seems sincere. I would not refer to him as your "boyfriend" just yet, maybe just let her know he is a friend and that you are getting to know each other. In the end, once your Mom sees this man cares and respects you that is what should be important. Just remember if she does "freak" out it is only because she loves you. :)
Good Luck!
2006-11-29 00:43:57 · answer #2 · answered by kaleigh 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't dump the whole load on her at once...
Tell her you met a guy, tell her a little about him.
Wait a little while and talk to her again...(maybe a week)
Ask if you might bring him over...
Let her put her two cents worth in...
Listen quietly....Get a sense of where she's coming from.
If it looks good...bring up...what about inviting him for dinner?
Let her get to know him, before bringing up his age.
If she sees the two of you are good together, maybe
when the time comes she'll be okay.
Moms are funny about their little girls...give her time.
Take it one step at a time. Good Luck
Besides, if this guy turns out to be her son-in-law,
you don't want a war for every holiday.
Remember she is your Mom...Forever!
2006-11-29 00:52:30 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't be afraid to say that to ur mom even though ur afraid to tell the truth to be revealed don't be i have a 21 year old bro and i personally think that if u love him then u have every right to be with him. ur mom cannot stay in a person's relationship thats messed up. well i hope that helped
2006-11-29 00:46:45 · answer #4 · answered by bbgurl5036 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well are u sure anything is going to work out? if so try waiting till at least the third month and then tell her if you not sure how she will react. or if you cant take it just tell her and your 20 and i dont think there's much she could do about it. so just talk everything out first and then let her talk. but make sure she listens to you.
2006-11-29 00:47:44 · answer #5 · answered by mysterious_yet_sweet 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I don't think you should tell her anything yet. Just wait and see where the relationship goes. You can tell her how wonderful he is and how much you like him but his age is really none of her business. Don't lie to her just don't tell her. If it becomes serious and she meets him and she asks his age...tell her...after all you are an adult and you don't need her permission anymore.
2006-11-29 00:45:22 · answer #6 · answered by vanna 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im 16 and engadged to an 35. and i have the same problem. either move out ur 20. or tell her and let her take it she cant do anything but kick u out of the house. good luck. i got kicked out.
2006-11-29 01:49:05 · answer #7 · answered by s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋