I don't feel anything during intercourse. Why?

Question

I lost my virginity to my first boyfriend. We had sex probably 4 or 5 times before our relationship collapsed. I never felt anything at all. He was pretty experienced and was decently sized. I never had a problem climaxing if he used his fingers (I would climax almost immediately and would feel pleasure the entire time), but oral and actual intercourse did absolutely nothing for me.

I've dated since then, but have not slept with anyone else, so I don't know if it was just him or if it's me. I have a feeling it's me.

Does anyone have any idea why this is? Anyone with similar experiences?

Answer 1

mm....maybe he didnt have what it took to hit "the spot?" Plus the angling might've been wrong during intercourse so he might've "missed".

Answer 2

You need more experience, so when you find a new boyfriend or potential boyfriend, have safe sex with him and see if he can satisfy your body.
You have only had 1 boyfriend, so maybe it was just a weird thing that happened, and will never happen again with a different guy.
Also someone mentioned the g-spot which is really important to locate and stimulate for great pleasure. And try masturbation as well so you know exactly where you need to feel pleasure.
Ok to sum it up, you should try masturbation first so you know where to feel what you want, then find your g-spot for maximum pleasure. Then when you find a new guy, have sex with him and find out if he can please you the way you want it. If not, then find a new guy until you get what you want. You can do it and you will be much happier when you do get what you want from pleasure of your body.

Answer 3

I hope you are of age to give this information to. I am going to assume you are. It's a little graphic. Okay...here goes:
The reason you could climax from his fingers is because his fingers can curl up and hit your g-spot, whereas a penis cannot. However there are positions you can try that aim the penis in that direction and can sometimes help. (Research this one in sexual how-to books)
In the meantime, have you ever tried adult toys? It's possible that you just haven't had time to discover what your body likes and needs. It took me a while to figure out how to climax with a partner too.
Try a solo act for a while and discover what you like while your relaxed and you're not feeling like you have to perform for someone else. That helps a lot! If you find that you need clitoral stimulation in order to orgasm, try having your partner wear a "dolphin". It's a ring that fits around the base that has a vibrator in it. Really nice!
Good Luck!

Answer 4

Maybe it was the way he was doing it? If you say you felt it when he used his fingers maybe he was able to get to the "spot" that way but was not going deep enough to hit the "spot" with intercourse? Some women feel and enjoy different things, you just have to find what pleasures you enjoy and feels good and go from there. Sometimes it is just better than other times. If he was moving slowly and maybe not inserting it all of the way that might be a reason you did not get much out of it... Just some thoughts.
Good Luck!

Answer 5

I am hoping by you saying "you feel nothing" means you just didn't climax, not numbness. Don't worry it takes a while to get to know your own "spots". The more you stress about it the worse it will make it, take it from someone who knows. i am sure when done properly orally you will feel it, there is no possible way you couldn't. Take your time and trust your partner it helps a lot. Be very vocal and honest with them about what feels good and what doesn't

Answer 6

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Answer 7

This is common for females ... my suggestion is masturbation to learn what makes you have an orgasm...when you figure it out for yourself then you will be able to guide your partner to help you reach climax. I also had this problem when I first started having sex with my boy friend many many years ago and the masturbation experiment was the only thing that helped me and don't be afraid to tell your partner what he can do to help.

Answer 8

Alot of times woman cannot climax through oral sex because they are too nervous or anxious. Once you get more experience and learn to relax and be comfortable with someones face being down there it will get better and you will learn to enjoy it.

Answer 9

It's not you, I promise. Women need more finesse in bed than men do and also we need to feel an emotional connection not just physical in order to experience pleasure. Most women cannot experience pleasure in bed without being able to trust and feel secure with her man. If your relationship was rocky, you probably sensed the insecurity. Also, he may have just been really inexperienced. When you find the right guy, sparks will fly!

Answer 10

the main reason is that in your mind your not ready to enjoy it, it is almost impossible to feel and experience the big O. unless your mind is ready and willing to go there, you must, think, relax, want, desire, and plan on reaching that climax before you will be able to, so most of it is you, as you thought, but a good, older man will be able to help you to reach the goal you desire, they are able to care about the woman, and know how to please them, not just themselves as younger men do. so continue to pratice it by yourself until yo find the man willing to help you out. remember to think and know that you can and will get what you want, but do not ever fake it, that only makes things worse in the future, for both you and the man....help him and talk to him about what feels good, and what you want him to do, its is the best way to get what you want...

Answer 11

I think that you probably just have not had sex enough to really get a lot of pleasure from it. Once you become more experienced, the pleasure will come.